How do you maintain a long distance relationship in high school?
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My advice: your partner shouldn’t be your entire source of happiness. They should add to it—not be your only source. If anyone tells you, “You’re my everything”—that’s a red flag. That’s toxic.
We have friends, family, and community for a reason. Use all of your resources. Ask yourself: Is this a me problem or a relationship problem? You'll learn a lot. Make sure to keep yourself busy. If you're struggling with the distance, it's often because you're not happy with your own life.
Let me give you an example. When I love what I’m doing every day, I’m not too bothered by the distance. But on a bad day—maybe someone left a mean comment online, or work is slow—I find myself thinking, “Why didn’t my partner text me? Why aren’t they checking in?” But the truth is, they’re not texting me any less than usual. I’m just feeling unfulfilled. So instead of projecting onto them, ask yourself: What can I do to fill my own cup?
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We have friends, family, and community for a reason. Use all of your resources. Ask yourself: Is this a me problem or a relationship problem? You'll learn a lot. Make sure to keep yourself busy. If you're struggling with the distance, it's often because you're not happy with your own life.
Let me give you an example. When I love what I’m doing every day, I’m not too bothered by the distance. But on a bad day—maybe someone left a mean comment online, or work is slow—I find myself thinking, “Why didn’t my partner text me? Why aren’t they checking in?” But the truth is, they’re not texting me any less than usual. I’m just feeling unfulfilled. So instead of projecting onto them, ask yourself: What can I do to fill my own cup?
To maintain a long-distance relationship in high school, make time to talk, text, and video chat, and plan virtual dates. Send them small gifts or love notes to let them know you're thinking about them.
Support your partner and their interests, be honest, and trust them—jealousy and insecurity can undermine your relationship. When any issues come up, communicate about them and let your partner know how you're feeling. Listen, aim to understand their perspective, and reassure them when they bring up any issues.
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Support your partner and their interests, be honest, and trust them—jealousy and insecurity can undermine your relationship. When any issues come up, communicate about them and let your partner know how you're feeling. Listen, aim to understand their perspective, and reassure them when they bring up any issues.
If you’re in a long distance relationship in high school, make sure to set aside time to talk to each other on a regular basis. Some fun things you can do to stay connected include talking on the phone, setting up a scheduled video chat, or watching a movie together at the same time.
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im 16 and he is 18, we cant really do alot of things right now buh i ant dis to last
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Maintain honest and regular communication, while avoiding overwhelming the recipient. Establish goals for visits, support one another’s schedules, and foster trust. Stay connected through calls, texts, and small surprises; it’s the little things that keep it strong.
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