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How do you prevent a relationship from becoming stagnant?

05/14/25 9:31pm
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According to Life, career, and relationship coach Sixu Chen, you can prevent your relationship from becoming stagnant by coming up with fun things to do with your partner. If there’s no growth happening, she says, one person needs to focus on personal development or the areas of their life that could be better. She also recommends taking attention away from your relationship and trying to improve yourself.
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The best way to keep your relationship from becoming stagnant is to prioritize your partner and clearly communicate your wants and needs. That way, you can see if the two of you are truly happy, address any concerns or issues, and ensure your relationship is on the right path. Check in with your partner regularly, and make time for deep conversations. Sharing your thoughts and feelings is crucial for a thriving relationship.

Additionally, find ways to break your usual routine. Go on spontaneous dates, take a class together, book a romantic getaway, or try something new in the bedroom. Sending your partner flirty texts throughout the day can also keep things fun and exciting. The goal is to bring fresh experiences and energy into your relationship when things feel stale.

Stay curious about each other, and express gratitude and appreciation toward your partner. Ask about their goals, fears, dreams, and childhood, mixing in fun, hypothetical questions to pick their brain. Give them compliments to make them feel seen and valued. It does take effort to stay connected in a relationship, but it’s possible through small and meaningful gestures. If you’re struggling to keep the romance alive, consider seeking help from a therapist.
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