How do I apologize to my girlfriend?
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Depends on what the apology is for. If you apologize because you cheated versus you apologize because you were late for a date, that's a whole different apology. To answer the question ‘how’, I’d say just be sincere. If you are going to offer an apology, be sincere, however that means to you. I think your girlfriend will feel the sincerity of it.
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The right thing to say often depends on the situation, but the most natural thing to say is a genuine “I'm sorry.” For example, you could say, “I'm so sorry. I did not mean to insult you or hurt your feelings.”
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The first thing to think about when you are going to apologize is, is an apology the appropriate response for the situation? If you go to apologize, but you’re doing it because you’re trying to placate someone, or you do it because you feel like you have to, it's not going to allow for a really beneficial apology. So make sure you understand if it’s the right time to apologize.
Then, when you do apologize, you want to be grounded and present to the best of your ability. That may mean preparing prior to think about what you want to say and how you want to say it. Then you want to be really specific in what you're apologizing for. That specificity is really important because not only does it allow the other person to really understand, it also creates adequate responsibility.
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Then, when you do apologize, you want to be grounded and present to the best of your ability. That may mean preparing prior to think about what you want to say and how you want to say it. Then you want to be really specific in what you're apologizing for. That specificity is really important because not only does it allow the other person to really understand, it also creates adequate responsibility.
To effectively apologize to your girlfriend, start by acknowledging what you did wrong. Take responsibility for your words or behavior, and don’t try to make excuses or justifications. Tell her you regret what you did, you're sorry, and what you're going to do to fix the situation or avoid the same thing happening again in the future. Then, give her space to process, and don’t expect her to forgive you right away.
For example, you might apologize like this: "I'm sorry that I missed our date and that you waited at the restaurant by yourself. I should have kept track of the time and texted or called to let you know I wasn't going to make it because I was still at work. Next time, I'll set an alarm on my phone so this won't happen again. I understand if you feel frustrated and disappointed, and I truly apologize. Can I make it up to you?"
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For example, you might apologize like this: "I'm sorry that I missed our date and that you waited at the restaurant by yourself. I should have kept track of the time and texted or called to let you know I wasn't going to make it because I was still at work. Next time, I'll set an alarm on my phone so this won't happen again. I understand if you feel frustrated and disappointed, and I truly apologize. Can I make it up to you?"
Depends on what you did and how bad it was. If it was bad give her some space and tell her sorry and that you really mean it and if it was small say sorry to her and you know yeah
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