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HELP! How To Say No To a Boy Asking Me Out

Spuffy4Life!
Spuffy4Life!
08/12/25 6:45pm
My friends and I tried to get people to get married as a joke, and I convinced one of them that their crush would like them more if they did it. So, the next day, they divorced, and I joked around, saying how they were so cute. I then ask the boy (Let's call him Todd) to tell me who his crush is. Apparently, it was me, and he liked me since 3rd grade! I think that is a VERY long time to like someone. Todd says that I am smart, kind, and beautiful. The problem is, I don't know him that well, and Todd will be my first boyfriend. I don't want to date him, but I want to tell them that he reason is because I don't know him very well. I want to know exactly what to say. I really need answers by tomorrow night, but I see that is unreasonable, so I just want to know this for the future.
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08/27/25 3:04am
Todd, I am so flattered that you told me that. I can’t believe you’ve liked me since third grade! I’ve never dated before and honestly, I would like to get to know someone before being romantic. It’s an important quality for me to be friends with somebody before dating. I hope you understand my reasoning.You’ve got this!
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