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What do you do when you've had a crush on the same guy for a couple of years but never told him that you still like him?

WikiGiraffeWalker314
WikiGiraffeWalker314
08/13/25 5:13pm
When I look back for a second, he's kind of always been there. We've known each other for so long that I think I love him. I do love him. I'e written him letters that I've never sent, I see him at least thrice a week, and when I flirt, he flirts back. I'm super oblivious though, so I don't know what to do. I'm not really ready for a commitment, but I want to know how to handle it.
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Ilovewikihow90000000012
08/13/25 10:21pm
I have a crush on this one guy whos like 3 years older than me. I've seen him talking to some girls when walking to his his car and I wish I was one of them. The advice that's mostly popular is let the guys go for you. Let them come up to you and make the the move. It upper for the girls. I've had so many crushes and none of them liked me. I mean the thing is that you know you can give him a letter, message or talk to him telling him you like him?
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