How to Make a Virgo Man Miss You

Co-authored by Stina Garbis

Last Updated: July 23, 2024 Fact Checked

If you’re dating a Virgo man, you might be wondering how to make him miss you when you're not around. Virgos are ruled by logic and reason, so they can be a little hesitant to express their emotions. But don't worry—even if your Virgo guy is a bit reserved, it's still totally possible to stay on his mind when you're not with him. To help you out, we've gathered a list of easy ways you can make a Virgo man miss you like crazy.

Best Ways to Get a Virgo Man to Miss You

Keep up a meticulous, neat appearance.
Don’t be afraid to make the first step and reach out to him.
Be open to all kinds of communication (texting, social media, calling, etc.).
Talk openly about your goals and ambitions.
Arouse his intellect by talking about your interests or learning something new.
Be patient—this earth sign doesn’t like to rush!

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Show him you care about your appearance.

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Send this meticulous man a picture of you at your best. These men are known perfectionists who take their grooming and general appearance seriously, so don’t be afraid to send him a picture of you in your Sunday best. Dress up in a suit and tie or a nice dress you’ve been saving, and send him a picture to remind him you take your appearance seriously too.^{[1]
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- Taking care of your appearance doesn’t have to be all glitz and glamour. If you don’t have anything particularly fancy to show off, don’t worry. You can send him pictures of the products you use in your skincare or hair routine. He might even have recommendations for you to try.
- If you feel like it, go shopping for something new you can wear around him. Pick out a stylish new outfit, do your hair up, and show yourself off. Even something small like a new piece of jewelry can make a statement and show him you put a lot of effort into looking good.
- Get him involved by sending him pictures of outfit choices or two shirts you’re thinking of buying. He’ll pick what he thinks you’ll look good in, and it’ll make him miss being around someone so attractive.

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Be open to lots of communication.

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Ruled by Mercury, Virgo men will miss someone they can talk to. If you make communication particularly interesting for them, they’ll want to express themselves more openly. Don’t be afraid to send messages throughout the day telling him about what’s happening with you. Send him a quote you saw or an interesting fact you learned to satisfy their intellect.^{[2]
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- If your relationship is in earlier stages, focus on intellect and logic rather than emotion. Not only are Virgos hesitant to express their own emotions, but they might also be scared off by someone who’s overly emotional or dramatic. Take emotional endeavors more slowly.

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Take initiative.

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Making the first move can be difficult for these guys, so take the first step. This might mean inviting him out on your next date or sending the first message after it’s over. They’re known to be the biggest critic and often overanalyze before making any moves, so don’t be afraid to reach out first.^{[3]
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- If you want to invite him out, make sure you have a solid and detailed plan. These men are meticulous and organized and would prefer not to leave things to chance. If you’re planning a trip to the zoo or the museum, set a schedule or write out an itinerary.

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Reassure him.

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Remind him what you love about him to make him miss you. While they may not seem like it, these men are sensitive, especially when it comes to rejections or shortcomings. Reassure him that he’s doing his best and that you’ve enjoyed your time together.^{[4]
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- If a planned date falls through and you had to make a quick change, reassure him he came up with a good idea that you’ll try next time. If that date led to something spontaneous, tell him you still had a great time. Reassure him life happens sometimes, he can’t always control it, and that’s okay.

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Tell him about your goals.

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Virgo men want to be around people who are driven and practical. If you have a career path you’re excited about or a bucket list you want to add to, don’t be afraid to let him know. Asking him for help with these is a good way to get him involved and make him miss you. Virgo men enjoy making plans, and they want to help those around them be the best they can be.^{[5]
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- Share what you want your dream house to look like someday or where you think you’re headed in your career in the next few years. Even specific, short-term goals like saving $500 in the next 6 months or earning a certificate from work are good ways to show him you’re dedicated and driven.

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Challenge his intellect.

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They miss being around intelligent people who can challenge them. Send him a quote from a philosopher you enjoy and make him guess who it is. Tell him about the books you’ve been reading lately or ask him to learn a new language with you. It keeps your relationship fresh and exciting as you introduce new things that will challenge him and you both in fun and interesting ways.^{[6]
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- If you’re unsure of something he’d like try, there’s no shame in asking him. He’ll be excited to tell you more about his interests, and there’s no telling what you can build off of. If there’s something he’s been afraid to try like skiing or dancing, show him you support him and are willing to do something new.

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Inject some silliness from time to time.

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Making him laugh is a good way to make him miss you. These men take life and themselves a little too seriously sometimes, so show him it’s okay to loosen up and be a little silly around you. Send him a parody video about a historical figure or a joke with some clever wordplay. Once you make him more comfortable, you might be surprised by his sense of humor.^{[7]
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- Don’t send him anything too outrageous, as that might come off as too goofy for his tastes. Instead, shoot for neutral humor like funny animals or observational humor.

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Be patient.

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Virgo men enjoy things quieter, so don’t worry if he gets distracted. Their brains are always in problem-solving mode which means they can get caught up in their own worlds. If you find he’s gone a few days without responding to you, it might simply mean he’s busy.^{[8]
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- There’s nothing wrong with asking what he’s been up to lately. Virgos are open and honest communicators, so it’s likely he’ll tell you the truth if something’s up. If they’ve been busy with work or trying to help others, they can get caught up trying to make things perfect, so be prepared for quiet patches from time to time.

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Make room for his emotions.

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Virgo men will miss a person they feel safe to open up to. This means you have to listen closely to anything he shares and ask questions sparingly. If he feels like you’re being intrusive or judgmental, he’s likely to shut down and go cold.^{[9]
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- If you can see he’s disappointed about not accomplishing a goal, tell him you understand. For example, if he’s trying to earn a promotion at work but doesn’t get it, tell him you can see he’s disappointed and ask him to tell you about it. Or, if he doesn’t want to go into detail, focus on the progress he’s made and tell him how proud you are.
- Getting excited about his progress with him can make him more likely to open up in the future and be more comfortable overall. Take time to notice if he’s put extra effort into looking nice for a date or interview. Congratulate him when he gets a raise or when he finishes an art project.

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Start an interesting conversation or debate.

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If you get his mind racing, he’ll miss talking with you. This is a good way to learn about him and his passions, even if he seems closed off. You’d be surprised where a conversation about educational practices can go. This is a good way to get him to loosen up too, once he gets going.
- You can start a conversation with any of these topics or questions:
- “Do you think homework is an important part of learning?”
- “What is art and what isn’t it?”
- “What’s the one thing you remember most from the best book you’ve read?”
- “Who do you look up to most and why?”

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Be loyal.

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If he knows you’re someone who will be there for him, he’ll miss you. These men aren’t always emotional, but they’re sensitive and take time to open up. If they choose you as someone worth their time, it’s not to be taken lightly. Make sure you show him you’re there to help just as much as he is.^{[10]
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- Support them in their dreams and ambitions, even if you don’t fully understand them. If he’s pursuing a specialized career you don’t know much about, tell him you’ll be there for him along the way. If he wants time to himself for a while, tell him you’ll be there for him when he needs you.
- Reader Poll: We asked 431 wikiHow readers about dating a Virgo man, and 86% of them agreed that the best way to build a strong foundation of trust with him is by being open and honest about your feelings. [Take Poll]

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