How to Get an Aquarius Man Back

Written by Stina Garbis | Edited by Glenn Carreau

Last Updated: March 19, 2025 Fact Checked

Aquarius men are true air signs: highly intellectual and independent, but they can shy away from expressing themselves emotionally. It’s easy to miss these guys after a breakup, and while getting him back may seem difficult, it’s entirely possible. The key to an Aquarius man’s heart is understanding his need for freedom while still showing him how much you care. Below, you will find more helpful tips on how to get an Aquarius man back!

This article is based on an interview with our psychic astrologer, Stina Garbis, owner of Psychic Stina. Check out the full interview here.

Getting an Aquarius Back After a Breakup

Give him some time and space to process.
Focus on your own life and set out to improve yourself.
Avoid any dramatics when around your ex.
Be direct and logical when communicating your wants to him.
Apologize if you messed up in the relationship.

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Give him some space.

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Aquarius men need distance to cope with difficult emotions. Wait to text him and hold off on engaging over social media until he’s had enough time to process the breakup. You will likely have to be the one to re-establish contact, but give it a few weeks at least (and aim for 30 days if you’re unsure).^{[1]
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- Don't be surprised if giving an Aquarius man space means no contact at all from him. They often detach entirely from the source of their negative emotions (like a person they have just broken up with).
- Just because you’re not talking, that doesn’t mean he isn’t thinking about you—or that he won’t be open to getting back together in the future.
- If you let too much time pass, he’ll move on, but he needs some time to himself before you take the next step in reconnecting with him.

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Focus on your health and passions.

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An Aquarius man needs to know that you’re okay with being alone. Go out with friends and family, dive back into the hobbies that make you happiest, and post the pictures from your adventures on social media. Aquarius men place a lot of value on freedom and independence, and if your Aquarius man sees that you can be your own person, he’ll be reassured that he can do the same when you’re together.
- The type of hobby isn’t important, so long as you’re going for it! Whether it’s playing guitar or training for a marathon, making time for your passions will show him that you’re independent and thriving alone.
- It may seem counter-intuitive to show someone that you don’t need them, but it will reassure an Aquarius man. He doesn’t want to see you at home pining for him; he wants to see you out, about, and loving life.
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Reinvent something about yourself.

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Aquarius men live for self-improvement and will love seeing you do it too. While you’re out living your best life and flying solo, consider trying something new in your day-to-day life. Now is the time to get into a hobby you’ve always wanted to try or get a cool new haircut.^{[2]
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- Anything new that you choose to do will be admirable to him, but Aquarius men are particularly impressed by creative pursuits and social justice.
- Consider volunteering for a cause you hold dear or taking a drawing class. This will reignite his curiosity and interest in you.

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Minimize the drama.

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Stay cool and collected when you see an Aquarius man post-breakup. Breaking up probably hurt, regardless of how it happened, but showing too much emotion now will only push an Aquarius man away. Maintain your composure around him and leave the drama in the past. This will keep his mind open to the possibility of getting back together.
- An Aquarius man doesn’t like to feel pressured by pleading or tearful, dramatic speeches after a relationship and tends to be uncomfortable with people who don’t have control of their emotions.
- It’s okay to shed a tear or vent about hurt feelings—you’re human, after all. Just make sure you do this in private, either alone or with a friend that you feel comfortable with.

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Engage him with intelligent conversations.

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Aquarius men are attracted to a powerful mind more than anything else. Remind him of the great intellectual conversations you had as a couple. Ask him lots of questions, listen to his thoughts, and offer up your own opinions. You can talk to him about anything from philosophy to politics and humanitarian issues, so long as it gets his mind working.^{[4]
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- When you’re just starting to catch up after time apart, you can ask him if he’s read any good books (and tell him about a particularly good novel that you’ve read recently too).
- Bring up a story on the news that you know would catch his interest, and ask him for his thoughts on it. He’ll want to get back with a partner who can keep up with him intellectually.
- Keep these conversations centered on intellectual topics rather than overly emotional ones. There will be time to talk about your relationship with him later!

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Dress in a way that makes you feel confident.

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While apart, it’s important to remind the Aquarius man why he was so attracted to you in the first place. Keep up your grooming habits, wear flattering clothes you love, and even consider making a few changes to your wardrobe. The better you feel, the more confident you seem—and the more he’ll want to get back together with you.^{[5]
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Be his friend first.

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Aquarius men need a relationship that is grounded in a strong friendship. Before you jump to resuming a romantic relationship with him, remind him of what a great friend you can be. He'll remember all of the good times you had together and start to feel comfortable around you again.^{[6]
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- Keep things simple when you’re just getting restarted. Reach out and ask him if he wants to grab a coffee and catch up.
- When you’re reconnecting with him, show plenty of interest in the things that he likes. Ask him how a project of his is coming along, or bring up an issue you know he cares about.
- Aquarius men may have a tough time with emotions, but they’re extremely loyal. Be willing to take a step back and be his friend again, and show him that you’re someone who truly cares about him.

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Tell him what you want in a logical manner.

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To get an Aquarius man back, you may have to take initiative. Before you approach him, think about what you want out of a renewed relationship with him and let him see that you’ve put a lot of thought into it. Aquarians are more rational than emotional, so give him a strong logical reason to get back together. He’ll be more likely to respect your request—and earnestly consider it.
- Be honest and sincere in your approach. The key is communicating effectively and letting your Aquarius man know where you stand while keeping things casual.

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Apologize if you made a mistake.

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Aquarius men need sincere apologies from people who wrong them. If you made a mistake during the relationship, you need to show him that you’re truly sorry and want to change. Aquarius men are sensitive and want to know that you mean what you say. If he sees you making a real effort to make things right, he’s more likely to accept your apology and come back to you.
- Remember that it might take time for him to come back to you, even after you apologize. Let him have the space he needs—with an apology, he’s more likely to spend that time forgiving than he is to spend it upset.
- You may not be the only one who made mistakes. If both of you need to make compromises for a new relationship to work, then have a civil discussion with him about it.
- Keep your arguments logical and clear for the best chance at getting your Aquarius man back.

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Show him you can be spontaneous.

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Aquarius men want a partner who will try new things with them. Most people have some amount of routine (you have jobs to consider, after all), but you can indulge your Aquarius man’s love of spontaneity by changing up the things that you do when you’re together. Try new restaurants, and explore activities that you’ve never done before. He’ll love having someone who can keep him on his toes.
- If you decide to go out to lunch with him, take him someplace he’s never been as a fun surprise.
- Come up with spur-of-the-moment plans to catch a movie or check out a new store that you think he might like.
- Aquarius men love to go on adventures and don’t mind a last-minute change of plans. It's okay to get a little eccentric with your ideas. He’ll enjoy anything new and interesting!

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Stay in the present.

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Aquarius men don’t like making plans for the far-off future. He will prefer spontaneity and living in the moment to worrying about what the future holds—he doesn’t want to feel too tied down in his relationships. To get your Aquarius man back, keep your planning limited to the next few days or weeks—and steer clear of bringing up things that could be years in the making.
- Keep things fun between you at first. As you rebuild your friendship, show your Aquarius man that you won’t limit his freedom. Aquarians need to feel like their independence is respected.
- Aquarius men are perfectly capable of settling down if that’s what you want from him! He just wants space to be his own person, whether or not he's in a relationship.

Learn How to Date an Aquarius Man with this Expert Series

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How do you make an Aquarius man fall in love with you again?

Stina Garbis
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Reverend Stina Garbis is a Psychic Astrologer and the Owner of Psychic Stina. With over 30 years of experience, she specializes in providing personal and professional advice through astrology and tarot card readings. Reverend Stina has experience working with high-profile celebrities, sports figures, politicians, and CEOs. She has been featured in many publications, including Bustle, Vice, The New York Post, and Readers’ Digest and she also has a 200k+ following on TikTok. Stina holds an Ordained Minister License from The International Metaphysical Ministry University Seminary.

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It’s hard to get them to change their mind, but you may be able to win them back physically or sexually. You may have a hard time however of bridging the gap from a physical relationship to something more serious, though.

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