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Please Help! My crush is acting weird what do I do?

Itsmeyall
Itsmeyall
04/15/25 9:50pm
Guys, I need your help, the guy that I like, we had a thing in December, and literally just started a talking stage, and then he wouldn't answer my texts, so I checked his tiktok and he was with another girl, and then they broke up, and ever since that happened, its been off and on, like he'll like me and then realize that im not into him or think that, and then gets a girlfriend and then all of a sudden he thinks I'm cute again, and then breaks up with her, and then he likes me.

This has happened 3 times and there was a time where he was single, and I was dating someone(his literal bsf since 2nd grade) and he said he liked me but he didn't want to ruin our relationship and by the time I found out that this happened it was like Feb 15th, and I asked my bsf(who was dating his other bsf) and she asked his other bsf if that's true, and he said he wasn't interested in a girlfriend, and a week later(I think it was Feb 26th) but we had this music thing(It was orchestra and I was in the level below him) and so we went and he was like following me around and stuff, and he would stare at me, and would try to talk to me, and if he couldn't he would try to get through my friends to talk to me, and his friends all looked at me and he looked away smiling, and when I would get up to move, he would either move closer to where I was, or sit in the seat of where I was sitting, and mirror my stance or movements.

I found out he has a girlfriend, and he still does the things like he still likes me or something, my sister said it was to cover up that he likes me bc everyone is so tired of him liking me, or he doesn't know why he's dating that girl if he likes me. idk what to do, can someone PLEASE give me clarity or something?
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04/15/25 9:51pm
When a guy acts hot and cold toward you, it could be because he's unsure how you feel about him and afraid to put himself out there and ask you. The only way you'll know for sure is if you put yourself out there, tell him how you feel about him, and ask if he's interested in you. You might say, "Hey, I like you and it seems like you like me, too. Do you?" This is his chance to make it clear once and for all whether he was acting weird because he likes you or whether he's just playing games.
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