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My crush has been flirting with me AND another girl. What is he doing?

PuppyDog123ABC
PuppyDog123ABC
07/14/25 4:49pm
So my crush has been flirting with me AND another girl. At our prom, he never asked me to dance, but danced happily with the other girl. But since one of our dances is progressive Scottish dancing, when I got to him, he seemed excited and anxious. Any idea what that means? Thanks in advance!
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Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP
Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP
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08/27/25 3:02am
There’s only one way to find out. Start talking to him a little bit more and see if you can gauge interest. A gentle pat on the shoulder, a lot of smiling and maybe a little flirtation. If he’s interested, you’ll know.! You’ve got this!
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