How do I know if my guy friend is into me too?
I have this friend whom I know for months now, we don't hangout much often (different timetables different classes) but hangout after class. Met him through my friend and he's really introverted, barely talks to any. He slowly grew comfortable with me and opened up bout himself, but things were still awkward between us.
At times we'd go weeks without talking to each other (turns out we both thought the other person didn't want to talk). Recently we've been taking the bus home together, and we woke up to us sleeping lying on each other's shoulder's for three consecutive days. He doesn't know I'm aware of it and turns out he didn't "sleep" during all of this.
I like him and I want to know if he does too because he genuinely takes interest about me and in what I do, listens to me well and is really affectionate, but him being a silent reserved person confuses and scares me about how he views me. Help a friend out :(
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At times we'd go weeks without talking to each other (turns out we both thought the other person didn't want to talk). Recently we've been taking the bus home together, and we woke up to us sleeping lying on each other's shoulder's for three consecutive days. He doesn't know I'm aware of it and turns out he didn't "sleep" during all of this.
I like him and I want to know if he does too because he genuinely takes interest about me and in what I do, listens to me well and is really affectionate, but him being a silent reserved person confuses and scares me about how he views me. Help a friend out :(
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So, sometimes a boy's silence can actually be a huge sign that he actually likes you, but he just feels like you're not giving him the attention that he wants back. Does he invite you to hang out? Does he seem to want to spend a lot of time with you? Does he ask you for homework help or ask for advice with his problems? All of these are major signs that he likes you and you’re in the clear to make a move.
When guys are young, they can be really emotionally moody in the sense that they could one day be giving you attention and then the next day be very cold (or ignore you entirely). I know that can be disheartening and can feel like, “What's going on here?” but that’s just him being a moody guy if there are a lot of other signs he likes you.
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When guys are young, they can be really emotionally moody in the sense that they could one day be giving you attention and then the next day be very cold (or ignore you entirely). I know that can be disheartening and can feel like, “What's going on here?” but that’s just him being a moody guy if there are a lot of other signs he likes you.
It sounds like this is a classic case of two shy people liking each other and both of them being scared to make the first move. Based on what you said, it sounds like this guy is into you! Breaking the physical barrier and lying on each other's shoulder is a sign that you're attracted to each other. The fact that you both are so self-conscious about how you talk to one another is also a major sign you care about one another. Go ahead and ask him out! It might sound scary, but it will be worth it—you'll know for sure how he feels and may be able to take your relationship to the next level.
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If somebody likes you and is interested in you, you will know it because he's going to give you attention and respect. They're not going to just ignore you–this is somebody that is going to be clear on their communication. People pay attention to what they care about. That's going to be the primary sign. Another sign might be that he's willing to talk about making plans in the future with you, they want to spend time with you, they want to see you again. I think a lot of times it's the subtle things. It might be the little comments he makes or how much effort he puts into wanting to spend more time with you. If he's reaching out, that's a good sign.
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Even if a guy is not being super clear with verbal cues that he's into you outwardly, try to pay attention to other cues that he's into you. For example, you're saying he takes interest in the things that you say, which is a great sign. If he's spending time with you, he's communicating with you, he cares about your feelings, or he is thoughtful, those can all be real signs he's interested. Plus, if he's setting up times to hang out and you think it's just normal friend stuff, think critically about it – he might really be setting up dates! Guys put in more effort in planning things to do together for women they're interested in. If he's showing you all these signs of spending time together and being thoughtful and compassionate, then he probably likes you. Don't over complicate it. Time is an equal resource for all of us. Where we choose to spend it determines what our biggest priorities are. If he's not willing to spend time or go out with you, then he's not interested in you. It's simple. If they're not willing to spend the time or respond or be compassionate or interested or set up dates or show reciprocity, they're just not that interested.
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Notice what he does like does he look at your lips, eyes, teases you, touches you, always be's around you, trys alwyas sitting next to you, do you notice him looking at you and then he quickly turns around, and yeah focus on these you'll. By the way if he appears on your dream that means hes thinking about you and he likes you lil likes you*
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I have a guy friend who supposedly liked me but never talked to me at all, he would ghost me randomly and would say he's on a mexico trek, but during one of his treks I guess he wanted to stop by from his 3 month drip to get a donut from a donation drive. Literally after I saw him I texted him if he came back and he said he was still in Mexico.... I just saw him inhale a donut so I didn't think much of it, and I did have feelings for him too but he didn't seem interested so I lost them. Then before a field trip he told me he liked me and that he had genuine feelings for me so I told him that I didn't feel the same way. So we just hung up and left it at that, saw each other at the field trip and because my mom knew how "close" we were she forced me to hang out with him. THEN he asked me why I rejected him when I only told him I didn't feel the same and we could forget about it and just be friends he agreed. During our bus ride home he puts his arm around me as I'm asleep (One of my friends told me) he pulls me into him and made me stay like that the rest of the bus ride home. And I was knocked out cold from our trip lol. So after our bus ride home we both agreed we are on good terms and we could still be friends, the next minute he ghosts me, and never texted me again, we still see each other at school. I smile, he runs away. Did I do something wrong?
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i have this guy-best friend and we are friends now for like 3 years (our 3rd year) and i know him a lot so does he but there's a problem he is giving me mixed signals that he likes me and doesn't but then 2 months ago i asked him to be my "fake" boyfriend so he agreed easily? because there was a guy that liked me since December 2024 (and still does) so i asked my guy-best friend but why did he agree so easily? is that like a sign that he likes me or not?? because first of all he didn't say "why though?" im getting stressed if he is giving me mixed signals...PLEASEEEE HELPPPPPPPPPP
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