How do you tell if someone's being flirty or friendly?
Hey everyone! I would really love some help figuring out how to tell if someone is flirting with me, especially when it comes to reading body language and facial cues. I feel like I completely misunderstand the difference between someone being friendly and someone actually trying to hit on me. I won’t bore you with the details but I’ve missed out on so many chances where I just thought the other person was being nice, and I’ve gotten into trouble a few times for mistaking someone being friendly as someone trying to hit on me. Any tips here?
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Which is more of a flirty move—holding eye contact or smiling a lot?
Examples of flirting would be lots of eye contact and smiling, being curious about your relationship status, and specifically asking to do something with them in the evening, like getting a drink, or on the weekend. Those are very clear signs of flirting. That means they like you, they're attracted to you, they're drawn to you, and they feel safe around you. Subtler signs of flirting would be just eye contact, playful comments, light touching at the end of a joke, things like that.
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What if he was the only one to text me at 9:30 pm to hang out with him and his friends like non of his friends texted me to come out only him. He saved me/my face from a ball that was going 100000000 mph. Not only is he nice to me but also my younger sister and he starts the conversations. But then he tells his friends that im not his type
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He might like you, some guys go overboard to ensure their friends don't know about their crushes. So casually, very causally bring up his relationship status. Check his behavior around other girls, if its different, he prolly likes you.
Also the way Mother Gothel says Mothers know best, the same way when it comes to relationships, besties know best, ask your best friend if they think he is into you.
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Also the way Mother Gothel says Mothers know best, the same way when it comes to relationships, besties know best, ask your best friend if they think he is into you.
So yes my friends do say he likes me. He usually doesnt hang around with girls. I do catch js blankly staring at me in math class. And I do think that if he dont wanna to tell his friends if we ever do date then its a red flag. We havent progressed ever since then, he does know that I like him. I have been trying to move on, but yk how its like, I js cant its rlly hard so idk what to do!
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My crush is defiantly attracted to me and I like him back. He's VERY flirty and it's hard not to make things... awkward. How do I ask him out without it being awkward?
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Love and intimacy can be awkward sometimes but that’s not a bad thing! Liking someone leaves us feeling vulnerable and a bit confused on how to act. Embrace the awkwardness and lean in. The only way to make it less strange is to accept that it may be for a bit and go with it! What do you have to lose? Ask them out, the worst they can say is no and you move on. Carpe diem!
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How do I know if he's being friendly or is nervous to talk to me and further our realtionship
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Well, it’s all in the body language, the eyes, the tone of their voice. What do you notice? Remember, he could also just be nervously flirting with you. That would be a very normal response if you are into someone. It’s hard to tell exactly what his motives are, but I say go for it. Guys like a challenge, but at the end of the day, they like to meet the challenge. If he’s interested, at some point, you won’t have to rely on signals. He will rise to the challenge and make it known. Go get’em.
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But what if he's only one of the few guys in my life who has shown interest in me? He talks to me, he is nice, but never flirty. I've not seen much of his behaviour around other girls though. I need to see that first!!
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Have you thought about testing the waters and do some flirting yourself? If we wait around for him, you may not see it! Guys are nervous too!
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What someone does when you suggest hanging out or doing something together can really tell you a lot about how they feel about you. If you ask someone if they’re free on a certain day and they’re super excited to say they’re free, they’re probably into you. Just think about how “available” they seem to be whenever they’re around you. Are they always up for anything, or do they always seem to be busy? If they’re often busy, they’re probably just being friendly. Someone who is crushing on you will try and drop everything else to hang out.
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So, this advice might vary a little bit depending upon whether the person asking is male or female, and whether they're interacting with someone who's male or female. There's a little bit of a stereotype about men often being a little bit oblivious, and there's a reason for the stereotype. Oftentimes, you have to be a little more explicit and direct with men: people can think they're dropping all kinds of hints, and then the guy is just not picking them up. So sometimes you have to get a little bit more straightforward in those circumstances.
Anyway, the core of flirting is simply playfulness. It's having fun, it's building a connection so that, even if it doesn't lead anywhere, both people feel uplifted and like they had a good time. If this person is being playful and fun with you, it's possible they're trying to flirt.
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Anyway, the core of flirting is simply playfulness. It's having fun, it's building a connection so that, even if it doesn't lead anywhere, both people feel uplifted and like they had a good time. If this person is being playful and fun with you, it's possible they're trying to flirt.
You can always tell when someone's flirting with you by their tone. It's complimentary. It's filled with humor. And it's light-hearted. Always respond in kind, if you feel comfortable. If it's something you don't feel comfortable with, then redirect. If it's something you feel comfortable with, be quick-witted, and respond in kind to be flirtatious.
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Totally agree with all of that. Also, ask yourself these two questions: are they going out of their way to be flirty/friendly/interact with you? and do they act that way towards anybody else? Treating you differently from everyone else is a major clue that they like you and are flirting IMO.
So like if someone is super friendly and kinda flirty with everyone, then that's just their personality. But if they go out of their way to be around you, talk to you, and compliment you but don't do the same with other people, then they're flirting.
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So like if someone is super friendly and kinda flirty with everyone, then that's just their personality. But if they go out of their way to be around you, talk to you, and compliment you but don't do the same with other people, then they're flirting.
If you're into them and they seem interested, it never hurts to be direct with how you're feeling. Say something like, "I feel like we've been connecting really well, do you want to go see a movie this weekend?" to gauge their interest.
If they say no, then say its no problem and that you misread the signs. If they agree, then you can confirm how they really feel AND you two get to go out on a date!
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If they say no, then say its no problem and that you misread the signs. If they agree, then you can confirm how they really feel AND you two get to go out on a date!
Well technically this has been happening for a long time, a boy my age has been constantly staring at me, talking about me to his friends, trying to look for me outside, screamed in my ear, said "hello" to me, raised his eyebrows up and down at me and kind of smiled, saying he does not like me when he asked "who broke your heart" when I said out load that my heart is broken and someone broke my heart. so technically that's a couple of signs that a boy/girl will probably like you.
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Wondering, someone who I suspect has a crush on me, makes minimal conversation, but I think he's scared because we aren't really "friends". He smiles at me when he does talk to me, and laughs at my jokes, but another factor is he's a really quiet person, so its hard to tell.
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He probably does but look and see if he stares at you often or, talks more around you than other people.
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This guy said he likes me, luckily, I could pretend like I hadn’t seen the text, how do I tell him I’m lesbian?
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girl if you have an iPhone and you opened the message it would go back to him as read, but if you looked at it by the notification u could pretend. And just tell him the you just enjoy being friend(if they are your friend) and if they are ur not friends ask them to be friends so that it is not awkward. You don't have to tell them ur sexuality if ur not comfortable.
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OMG! My friend's crush does that to her! Yesss I think so. Start slow and then pick up the pace. Get closer to them and then see if u actually like them ;)
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Advice please? It's kinda a long story, okay? So I have a crush on this one guy in my PE class and we're on the same team for our unit. He's really funny and sweet, but here's the weird thing: I used to not like him, then the second I considered him, he started talking to me! We used to never acknowledge each other's existence before, but now we talk... I'm so confused! Also, I'm on my school volleyball team and I was practicing with my friends while we were waiting for the PE teacher to open the locker room and my friend said that he was staring at me! I had my back turned to him so I couldn't see him, so idk if he really was. And he's trying out for the boy's volleyball team and if he makes it, we're going to practice together every day! (Last thing I promise) And more recently, I made a good shot in PE and we got the winning point and he yelled either, "That girl's on my team!" or "That's our player!" I need help please! This whole thing is so confusing, and I have no idea where we're going with this!
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Ok! So basically this guy who I have liked for a few months now has been texting me nonstop everyday. He’s been texting “Good Morning” and “Good Night” for a few months everyday. And as soon as I reply to his messages he hearts them!!! He also seems to be always smiling as he stares as me (not in a bad way, kinda like hes checking me out), he always wants to talk to me and his body language is always very comfortable with me. Im still unsure if he likes me back, or am I just Delulu????
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You must be either very young, like middle school young and not yet experienced enough to recognize the most common, basic signs of romantic interest. Or are just intentionally fishing for confirmation of what you're already aware of..
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What do you do when a guy randomly growls at you, like a mix of gentle and aggressive
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I can agree my crush and I both liked eachother (he did all of these exept of the last one) and I never told him i liked him and next thing you know he moves to spain!
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Hello!!! I've had a crush on someone for 3 years now and he doesn't really hit on me but if it look like he does thats him just trying to be natrually funny. Do u guys know ways to see if he like likes me or not?
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Most of the time, a guy will try and hide it from his friends that he likes someone. So if his friends are around, he will act mean or huat differently around whoever they like.
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some signs are:
eye contact
dilation of pupils
body towards you
sometimes speaks by implication
joins activities you do
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eye contact
dilation of pupils
body towards you
sometimes speaks by implication
joins activities you do
I try to really pay attention to what they're saying and how they're acting. If they're laughing at your jokes, raising the pitch of their voice, or talking a lot faster than usual, they might like you but feel nervous when they're trying to flirt.
Here's a test I like to try too: make a subtle movement, like crossing your legs or scratching your neck. If they mimic you or do the same thing, it's a pretty good sign they're trying to flirt.
You can also try flirting back! If they seem into it, then they like you. If they seem uncomfortable and pull back a bit or try to escape the conversation, then they were probably just being friendly.
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Here's a test I like to try too: make a subtle movement, like crossing your legs or scratching your neck. If they mimic you or do the same thing, it's a pretty good sign they're trying to flirt.
You can also try flirting back! If they seem into it, then they like you. If they seem uncomfortable and pull back a bit or try to escape the conversation, then they were probably just being friendly.
There’s this quiet guy in my class I’ve liked for a while. He usually keeps to himself or hangs with his guy friends, but he always asks me for stuff—lotion, snacks, gum, even a lint roller and my portable fan. One time he even asked me to help buy snacks with his money, which made me feel like he trusted me more than just a classmate.
One day, he playfully took my Vaseline and we joked around. I tried to take it back, and he held it up high (he’s taller than me), and we kind of play-fought. Then he randomly said, “It’s hot in here,” and took off his hoodie, and I noticed how toned his arms were. I work out and I’ve been trying to grow my arms, so I asked for his bicep routine. It felt lowkey flirty, even if it wasn’t super obvious.
Another time, I asked if he was going to the store and he said, “You wanna come with?” He invited me without me even hinting at wanting to go, which caught me off guard in a good way.
He doesn’t really compliment me directly, but he talks to me more than most guys do. I just don’t know if he’s being friendly or lowkey interested. I also don’t know if he acts like this with his other female friends, which makes it harder to tell. What do y’all think?
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One day, he playfully took my Vaseline and we joked around. I tried to take it back, and he held it up high (he’s taller than me), and we kind of play-fought. Then he randomly said, “It’s hot in here,” and took off his hoodie, and I noticed how toned his arms were. I work out and I’ve been trying to grow my arms, so I asked for his bicep routine. It felt lowkey flirty, even if it wasn’t super obvious.
Another time, I asked if he was going to the store and he said, “You wanna come with?” He invited me without me even hinting at wanting to go, which caught me off guard in a good way.
He doesn’t really compliment me directly, but he talks to me more than most guys do. I just don’t know if he’s being friendly or lowkey interested. I also don’t know if he acts like this with his other female friends, which makes it harder to tell. What do y’all think?
Can someone give me advice? I've liked this guy for a while now, and he does these little things like patting my head, remembering something I said AGES ago, and he has a great sense of humor (in my own oppinion) so, what should I do or does he like me???
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OMG i think he likes you! If he's trying to make physical contact with you then that could mean he wants to be close to you. And remembering what you said forever ago could mean that he thinks about you a lot!
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So I have this guy who goes to practice with me over the summer. He’s super nice and always tries to make me laugh, but he does it by asking some freaky questions.so if yk YK. He also makes any excuse to talk to me, like this one time he brought up a soccer game and had asked if I watched it. I said no and that I didn’t like soccer and he said “oh me neither”. He also always makes sure I’m his partner during practice at least once. So…I’m not sure, it seems like he likes me…but he’s also a year younger than me… so I don’t know how to go about this.
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Umm some people in my class are saying that my friend has a crush on me because he drew what looked like him holding hands with a girl with brown hair and I have brown hair. It is also because of he picked Aladdin when I picked jasmine for the school play does that mean he likes me?
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Sooo umm he looks at me and smiles at me about at LEAST once a day. He knows I like him, but our "relationship" is complicated. I really wan to talk to him again, but idk what to say? I also wanna fix his chain, but I think he'd think I'm weird and kinda give me a side-eye or smth... WHAT DO I DO?! I RLY LIKE HIM AND HE'S SO HOT!
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hey i need some help. So i liked this one guy at the beginnig of the year. He would always come up to me randomly at the end of class and he would start the conversation. me and him would make each other laugh all the time. He would try and show off to me. So i got his phone number. When i got his phone number he would rarely text. When he would i would ask about his day and sometimes hed answer. He'd invite me to play soccer with him all the time but i was always busy. but then things started to change. he started dating like one hundred girls one after another and he would rarely text or talk to me. i still had a crush. But then he gave my number out to some people and i was surpised because this has never happened before and then i flipped out and over reacted. The second i hit send i regreted it but hed already seen it. I said i was going to block him and then he didnt stop me. I cried for a long time that night. he wouldnt talk to me for a while after that for a long time. Fast foreward a couple of months and he is constently looking at me like tiny looks but he does like ten of them back to back. Like he looks at me for 2 seconds and then looks away but after that he looks at me again for 2 seconds and repeat that ten more times. He is also costently looking at me for a long time and we make eye contact for 10 seconds and then i look away and he looks away and then we both look back. (for information im a guy and im a sophmore). I think he likes me. and i like him again. What do yall think
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Oh snap mk this is confusing but I'll do my best to answer. So u guys look at each other a lot... that could show signs of attraction but idk with ur current situation. And I get why you flipped out. That wasn't cool of him to do and in my opinion, ur right for blocking him. If you regret it, you should apologize and say you were having a bad day or something. If you want to rebuild your relationship/trust with this guy if you think he's worth it, but ask yourself if you think he'll ever do it again (give our ur number when you told him not to) and if he will then I'd say don't go for it but from what I read I have high hopes for you!
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I need some friendly advice! I like this guy who has a generally open, charismatic, and friendly/flirty demeanor. We’ve been loose friends for a little over a year, but have been hanging out more often in group contexts over the past 6 months. Every time I see him he makes it a point to greet me warmly and give me long bear hugs. He holds extensive eye contact with me in conversations and from across rooms and he likes to make goofy expressions to get me to laugh. He tells me corny jokes and always gushes about how good I smell. I have noticed that he doesn’t do this with anyone else in our friend group. Our dynamic is overall really fun and playful. I feel confused though because he makes no move to hang out with me outside of our friend group. And we’ve never really had extensive opportunities to have 1:1 conversations. I feel nervous about pursuing him because I’m confused af. I feel like he’s definitely more flirty with me but he doesn’t put in a lot of effort to get to know me better or be around me more than usual. Let me know if anyone has suggestions!!
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Do you have his number? Maybe starting up a private text convo would help to get him more 1-on-1.
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I need some friendly advice! I like this guy who has a generally open, charismatic, and friendly/flirty demeanor. We’ve been loose friends for a little over a year, but have been hanging out more often in group contexts over the past 6 months. Every time I see him he makes it a point to greet me warmly and give me long bear hugs. He holds extensive eye contact with me in conversations and from across rooms and he likes to make goofy expressions to get me to laugh. He tells me corny jokes and always gushes about how good I smell. I have noticed that he doesn’t do this with anyone else in our friend group. Our dynamic is overall really fun and playful. I feel confused though because he makes no move to hang out with me outside of our friend group. And we’ve never really had extensive opportunities to have 1:1 conversations. I feel nervous about pursuing him because I’m confused af. I feel like he’s definitely more flirty with me but he doesn’t put in a lot of effort to get to know me better or be around me more than usual. Let me know if anyone has suggestions!!
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trust me, he seems to like you. if he's isn't doing it w anyone in your group, it's a big big big big big sign that he likes you, and this also applies to the jokes & saying how good you smell. maybe he is js waiting for u to make the first move? ask him out! p.s, curse me w everything you can if it doesn't work out.
if it does not work out, just know that say to him that you were just wondering, and it's no problem at all if he doesn't want to go.
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if it does not work out, just know that say to him that you were just wondering, and it's no problem at all if he doesn't want to go.
A guy in my class stares at me a LOT and I don’t know if he just happens to do it quite often for some reason and I was like “it’s okay, it’s probably nothing!” But we’re pretty ok friends and I just don’t want it to be awkward between us if he DOES like me, how should I address this?
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Tell him u like some random guy u both know and watch his reaction. That should tell u if he does or not and if he does go from there. Coming from a guy btw.
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it could be all in your head and you just wanting them to feel that way towards you but at the same its probably not YOu thinking that, its just a weird subconcious mind thinking thing that just happens like it doesnt mean anything, it really doesnt. just ignore it and uhmm go take a nap.
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What if he gets you things, for example on my birthday he got me a bracelet, and for Valentines day he got me chocolate, but we haven't talked in like 3 months but we have made eye contact. And I want to talk to him but I am wayyy to shy, Help me out here!!
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Ok. some great advice (I've been there myself) is to wait it out. If it happens repeatedly and they blush after, maybe even retract quickly, they are definitely hitting. If it's like, a once in a while thing and they smile warmly, not gonna happen mate.
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I’ve met this guy and we went on a date was sweet to take me to dinner . He text me the next day good morning. Then text me good night. Agsin text me the next day good Morning what you up to today? I replied but he doesn’t seem to reply to when I ask him what he’s up too? I’m not sure if he wants to be just friends .
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um probably. that has happened to me with a guy. except we never went on dates. we would both text gm and gn and he'd ask how im doing and id tell him. id ask how hes doing and he wouldnt answer until i asked a different question or told him something.
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She always touches me once I’m talking to her, she laugh loud at my jokes whether funny or not but I asked her out for a date, she said she is busy and will tell me when she is free.
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OK so im in 10th grade and about a month ago, i tried to ask a girl for her Instagram, but she had a bf. i still talk to her now and i wanna ask her subtlety over text if she is still dating them but ionk how. BTW i just talked to her yesterday so everything's pretty recent and shes like a month younger which reminds ME! i also need to ask when her bday is cuz i forgot but SHE LITERALLY told me Wednesday. ITS SATURDAY BRO. i only forgot the day. i remember that its June 2009 and im April 20 2009. but yea i also need to ask that. REMEMBER: im tryna talk to her rn ONLINE. and i only got her Instagram because i found it. also we only talk in chemistry class which is every OTHER school day, but SOMETIMES i dm her and IF she responds it takes a while but she does ask questions and seem interested in TALKING at least. like today, i texted her and she responded 2 HOURS LATER and the i didnt respond for an HOUR and 1/2. that was more than 12 hours 1/2 ago and she STILL didnt respond to that one and so i texted her again and that was a little more than 8 1/2 hours ago and she didnt respond yet. But when we talk, she;s pretty much smiling and she starts the conversation and I'm not sure Where her Feet are Pointed But yeah. Still, at this point, even if she doesn't have a bf, would she still be interested?
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Update: I found out she DOESNT have a bf anymore but I texted her two days ago and she still hasn’t responded. I will Js wait till Tuesday to talk to her when I see her. Also she VOLUNTEERED the info that her and her bf broke up, granted I DID bring it up but I never asked so…
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Hey guys I need advice, ive known this guy for a couple of months and his attitude shifted a bit once I broke up with a boyfriend a while ago. He is a genually nice guy and a gentleman so sometimes im confused on wether or not he likes me or it just a friend to me. Here are some things he's done: He told me he lets people go into his room for studying or what not - but that im the only one in our dorm hall that has slept in his room while he was there. He also play fought with me and slept with me on the floor claiming i needed "body heat" and what not. He does remember things but he plays it off I think, he also hugs me for no reason and linger there sometimes. I also noticed recently that he looks everywhere at my body but my eyes and sometimes insists on just hanging out when he has things to do. Im so confused though because he has a lot of female friends so im not sure if he is just friendly or likes me. HELP PLEASE
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Advice please? I have a crush on this guy and Idk if he likes me back. I have PE with him and we're on the same team for this unit. I'm also on the girl's volleyball team and he's trying out for the boy's team. If he makes it, we'll be practicing together every practice! But when I do good in PE, he says things like, "That girl's on my team!" or "That's our player!" Is he dropping hints or being friendly??? Also, when I was practicing volleyball with my friends outside the locker room waiting for the teacher to open it, my friend said that he was staring at me! I had my back turned to him so I couldn't see if he really was :(. I really need help! I love my friends, but I feel like they're just saying he likes me to make me feel good :(
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It's hard to tell for sure if this guy has a crush on you or not based on what you've shared. It's possible that he just shares a strong sense of camaraderie with the volleyball team and is excited to point out someone who's on the same team as you. There are many reasons why someone could be staring at you one time, so you'd have to look out for more instances of staring before you start drawing conclusions about his behavior.
If you want to try and figure out more about if he likes you or not, try to spend more time interacting with him. See if he playfully teases you, smiles a lot around you, lightly touches you, finds excuses to hang out with you, etc. Take note of how he treats other people and observe if he treats you differently (in a good way). Good luck!
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If you want to try and figure out more about if he likes you or not, try to spend more time interacting with him. See if he playfully teases you, smiles a lot around you, lightly touches you, finds excuses to hang out with you, etc. Take note of how he treats other people and observe if he treats you differently (in a good way). Good luck!
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