How do you actually get a girlfriend? I have no idea
I don’t really understand how someone gets a girlfriend. Do you just sort of ask a girl you like if they want to be your girlfriend or do you do dates first before you ask? I feel embarrassed because I really don’t know and I have friends who say they take girlfriends out on dates and stuff, but I don’t want to seem like I don’t know. I have liked girls before but never did anything with them. How does the whole thing work? Where would you meet a girlfriend? What do you do with them that’s so different outside of kissing and stuff?
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I think the best way to go about looking for a girlfriend is to be proactive. Place yourself in situations to meet more people. For instance, social gatherings are a wonderful way to meet new and different people. The more exposure the better. Likewise, exposing yourself via dating apps and social media is a good idea. Introverts typically do better with dating sites versus meeting in person. However, be careful not to be too desperate in your search for a girlfriend. Just think of it as a new opportunity to meet new people. And if you meet your girlfriend…it will be a plus!
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Wait a minute! Let’s think about this. A “happy ending” can look like so many different hinges! We get to decide what our lives look like, what makes US happy, what we do with our time and what success and happiness looks like. Who’s writing your story? What does it look like? How can you take the things you have and things you want and turn them into a happy ending? Let’s think about priorities and decide where to focus your energy. Your “happy ending” may look different from what you had anticipated (for now that is) but we can’t give up on the idea that we deserve everything in this lifetime there is to offer. I’ve had many rough patches, things haven’t always worked out as planned but I’m here and I’m working on what makes me truly happy. You can do! Think about goals, where you want to be in 2,3, 5 years and have more than one direction. Think about success in the form personal growth, education, moral compass, being a good friend:person and or your career and not just about one aspect (relationships) of what makes people happy. You can find true happiness in some many things with or without a partner. Broaden your horizon and let’s focus on YOU now and not how your story ends! ❤️
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You can meet girls anywhere—school, work, a coffee shop, the mall, a game store, the gym, the library, a party, a sporting event, and so on. Strike up a conversation with a girl you're interested in and spend time getting to know her. Chat and text a little bit (after exchanging numbers), then ask her out on a date.
Typically, you'll go on a few dates before asking someone to be your girlfriend or be exclusive. Then, once things are official, you keep spending time together. Find fun activities you're both interested in, like going to a concert or art gallery, playing mini-golf or going rock climbing, going out for dinner, coffee, or ice cream, seeing movies, and generally hanging out with each other.
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Typically, you'll go on a few dates before asking someone to be your girlfriend or be exclusive. Then, once things are official, you keep spending time together. Find fun activities you're both interested in, like going to a concert or art gallery, playing mini-golf or going rock climbing, going out for dinner, coffee, or ice cream, seeing movies, and generally hanging out with each other.
I can't speak for everyone, but I'll share my personal experience. I got a girlfriend from a dating app. It definitely took a lot of time and effort to put together a profile, swipe for hours, and draft thoughtful messages. But after I hit it off with a girl and went on a few dates with her, she's now my girlfriend! So it's grueling but worth it.
I interact with her differently than with my friends and family because I'm more vulnerable with her. I've shared insecurities, worries, and pieces of my past that I don't share with other people. I can also tell her about my day in detail, which most people would get bored of but to her it's the most fascinating thing in the world because she cares deeply about me! And I love hearing about her day too. It's the little things :)
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I interact with her differently than with my friends and family because I'm more vulnerable with her. I've shared insecurities, worries, and pieces of my past that I don't share with other people. I can also tell her about my day in detail, which most people would get bored of but to her it's the most fascinating thing in the world because she cares deeply about me! And I love hearing about her day too. It's the little things :)
Hey don't feel embarrassed, we all have to start somewhere. And tbh I feel like a lot of people are struggling with getting a girlfriend rn so you're not alone. This is cliche advice but when people say "love will come when you're least expecting it" I think it's helpful if you frame it as "I'm not gonna get bogged down with focusing on getting a girlfriend and feeling lonely about having one, instead im gonna direct my energy towards growing as a person, investing time in my hobbies and goals, and putting myself out there/being open to a relationship."
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There are different ways to get a girlfriend. Some people find a girlfriend online through apps or websites. Others find a girlfriend in person by meeting people through hobbies, mutual friends, or other social settings. And yet others gind a girlfriend among the female friends that they already have.
Once you find a girl that you like, try to get to get to know her better! You might feel a little nervous but that's natural, try to take some of the pressure off of yourself if you're applying any to yourself by removing any expectations and just being willing to go with the flow. After you've gotten to know each other better (maybe a few dates), then you can ask her to be your girlfriend!
Different people have different ways of defining what makes a girlfriend different from a really close friends. You may share a deeper level of sexual/physical, emotional, and/or intellectual intimacy with your girlfriend. You may be more vulnerable with her and make yourself more available to her, spend more time with her, involve her in more of your life decisions, etc.
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Once you find a girl that you like, try to get to get to know her better! You might feel a little nervous but that's natural, try to take some of the pressure off of yourself if you're applying any to yourself by removing any expectations and just being willing to go with the flow. After you've gotten to know each other better (maybe a few dates), then you can ask her to be your girlfriend!
Different people have different ways of defining what makes a girlfriend different from a really close friends. You may share a deeper level of sexual/physical, emotional, and/or intellectual intimacy with your girlfriend. You may be more vulnerable with her and make yourself more available to her, spend more time with her, involve her in more of your life decisions, etc.
In science class, I met a girl who I really liked, I sat at the same table as her, so it was pretty easy to tal, we were friends and one day her friend told me that she liked me back, so I asked her, that's just my personal experience but it will take time.
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There’s no need to be embarrassed! Everyone starts somewhere. I would recommend just getting to know any girl you like. Just start talking to them, in real life if you can. Texting and everything is great, but nothing replaces hanging out in person. Treat them like you’d treat a friend. Get to know them. Ask them what they like to do in their spare time, talk about your dreams for the future, normal friend stuff! You’ll eventually build a bond and from there you can ask them if they want to be your girlfriend.
In terms of how that actually works, you’ve got the right idea! You do take them on dates and go hang out together. It’s not radically different from having a really, really, really good friend. Your bond will just be a lot more powerful than a friendship, and you’ll share things together that you’d never share with your friends.
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In terms of how that actually works, you’ve got the right idea! You do take them on dates and go hang out together. It’s not radically different from having a really, really, really good friend. Your bond will just be a lot more powerful than a friendship, and you’ll share things together that you’d never share with your friends.
hey i dont have a phone, i live on a farm, far away from other people, and i cant drive, so when i go somewhere, its usualy with my parents, and i dont really feel comfertable talking to girls when they are around, and since i dont have a car, dont have a phone, and live in a secluded area, i was wondering "how am i suppost to get a girlfriend when i live all the way out here, and i dont have a phone?"
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IDK, I've been looking for years but am getting to the point where I might just give up on the idea for good. You can only look for so long before you have to accept the truth that not everyone gets a happy ending
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Well Im Kind of at that point to but imma keep going until I find the right person 🧍♀️
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Same here my first love left me broken... its been like 12 years ago... in over 5 years I've been truing to find a girlfriend but it never works... gess its just me... i keep reading forums and chats like this but its not working.. to be yourself don't work for me. I start to think I'll be alone forever...
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I agree that asking a girl or doing dates directly without prior exposure is too impolite. But if you wanna pursue your beloved girl, Interact with her firstly is absolutely important. You can begin with some little interactions first,such as "wow,you looks like a little bunny today! so cute!"(if you are already friends).If you fell in love with her at the first sight even though you haven't met each other yet, a smile ,greeting,may be the beginning of your way.And always remember that ["Blessing is the best greeting" and "Treat her genuinely" ]
P.S I comes from East Asia , felling in the river with love between boys and girls is prohibited,and even having dinner together is banned here.
So Just start bravely and enjoy the world of love.
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I agree that asking a girl or doing dates directly without prior exposure is too impolite. But if you wanna pursue your beloved girl, Interact with her firstly is absolutely important. You can begin with some little interactions first,such as "wow,you looks like a little bunny today! so cute!"(if you are already friends).If you fell in love with her at the first sight even though you haven't met each other yet, a smile ,greeting,may be the beginning of your way.And always remember that ["Blessing is the best greeting" and "Treat her genuinely" ]
P.S I comes from East Asia , felling in the river with love between boys and girls is prohibited,and even having dinner together is banned here.
So Just start bravely and enjoy the world of love.
wow.
you act like girls are just toys to play with, and are thrown away when you get bored.
also that doesn’t really count as having a girlfriend if all you have is her snapchat
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you act like girls are just toys to play with, and are thrown away when you get bored.
also that doesn’t really count as having a girlfriend if all you have is her snapchat
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