How to Get a Girlfriend When You’ve Never Dated Before?
I'm almost 18, and I've never had a girlfriend or even kissed a girl. I feel kind of embarrassed and upset about it, and I don't know what I should be doing. How do I get a girlfriend?
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If you're wondering how to be confident the first time you kiss somebody, I think it can be beneficial to be open for feedback, and just asking the person after you kiss them how it went. You can always practice on your hand if you need to see what that's like. Just like anything in life, there's sources out there where you can learn and watch, study how other people have done it and what works for them. If you want to master anything, then it's good to learn about it. Maybe watching other videos and stuff might be helpful.
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If you're looking for a girlfriend, give yourself permission to be open every day of your life. Remember, it's possible to meet girls anywhere: at the supermarket, in bookstores, or sitting next to you in a subway car. You might make eye contact or have an attraction to them and want to talk to them, but not know how.
The first thing to do is to introduce yourself (but don't come in like a bull in a china shop. Instead, say hello, and give her enough space and distance that she doesn't feel like her space is invaded or that she can't just easily exit the situation). Speak in a soft tone, and try offering a direct compliment (like, "Hey, I saw you and think there's something about you, and I just wanted to say hi"). Then get a conversation going by commenting on something about the situation: for instance, if you're in line at a coffee shop, you could say, "I'm getting an oat milk cappuccino. What's your favorite thing to get?" It can be that simple. Just be open to meeting people anywhere and everywhere.
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The first thing to do is to introduce yourself (but don't come in like a bull in a china shop. Instead, say hello, and give her enough space and distance that she doesn't feel like her space is invaded or that she can't just easily exit the situation). Speak in a soft tone, and try offering a direct compliment (like, "Hey, I saw you and think there's something about you, and I just wanted to say hi"). Then get a conversation going by commenting on something about the situation: for instance, if you're in line at a coffee shop, you could say, "I'm getting an oat milk cappuccino. What's your favorite thing to get?" It can be that simple. Just be open to meeting people anywhere and everywhere.
There's no need to feel embarrassed. Relationships and physical intimacy happen at different times for different people, and plenty of people don't kiss or date until adulthood, either by choice or by chance. While, statistically, many people start "dating" at 12 or 13 years old, these are often pretty superficial relationships; many people don't get into serious relationships until their late teens or early twenties.
It's cliché to say "It'll happen as soon as you stop looking," but there's some truth to the idea that the more you invest in yourself and become the type of person you'd like to date, the more likely you are to meet someone amazing! Try not to put too much pressure on yourself, don't stress about what's "normal," and trust that it'll happen when it happens.
In the meantime, it can help to be open to meeting lots of different people. Say "yes" to social events where you might meet someone new. There are loads of benefits to meeting new people: not only could you meet a potential partner, but you're bound to make new friends and get better at talking to people you don't know.
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It's cliché to say "It'll happen as soon as you stop looking," but there's some truth to the idea that the more you invest in yourself and become the type of person you'd like to date, the more likely you are to meet someone amazing! Try not to put too much pressure on yourself, don't stress about what's "normal," and trust that it'll happen when it happens.
In the meantime, it can help to be open to meeting lots of different people. Say "yes" to social events where you might meet someone new. There are loads of benefits to meeting new people: not only could you meet a potential partner, but you're bound to make new friends and get better at talking to people you don't know.
Make her know that you didn't have gf before so she won't miss understand you
2nd be good person with her
For the rest of the steps good idea to ask your parents
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2nd be good person with her
For the rest of the steps good idea to ask your parents
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