Hints He Wants to Be More Than Just Friends

An expert guide to help you find out if he likes you as just a friend, or something more

Co-authored by Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT and Dev Murphy, MA

Last Updated: September 12, 2025 Approved

Lately you and your favorite guy friend have been spending more time together, and you’re starting to think that maybe you’d like to take things to the next level. The only problem is, you don’t know if he feels the same way! Does he have you firmly planted in the Friend Zone, or does he reciprocate your warm and fuzzy feelings? Keep on reading: we've compiled a list of ways to tell if he sees you as just a friend or something more.

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Notice if he compliments you a lot, laughs at your jokes, and can’t seem to stop looking in your direction. These are signs he might be romantically interested.
See how he treats other people, especially other girls: does he flirt with you more and go out of his way to touch you? This might mean he's into you.
Pay attention to what you do when you spend time together. Do you do romantic things when you hang out? If so, he might want to date you.
Observe how much he talks to you outside of work or school. If he only talks to you in those contexts, he's probably only interested in a casual friendship.

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He compliments you.

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Compliments are his way of saying he admires you. Of course, friends often compliment one another, so compliments in and of themselves may not be a way to tell if he’s interested in you. But if he’s recently upped his game, or if he compliments you more than he compliments other people, it’s likely he’s got a crush on you.^{[1]
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- Giving you compliments also means he cares about you and wants you to feel good about yourself—who doesn’t feel good after hearing that they’re cute or funny or brainy?
- When he does compliment you, respond with a smile, or give him a compliment in return so he knows the feeling is mutual.

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He gazes at you.

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His admiration of you may come in the form of staring. If he likes you as more than a friend, you might see him gazing in your direction from across the room. If you catch his eye and he smiles before turning away, he knows that he’s been caught looking at you.^{[2]
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- Not only will he gaze in your direction, but if he likes you, his pupils may dilate when he looks at you, just like a cartoon character in love.^{[3]
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- If you like him, make eyes at him to let him know!
- Reader Poll: We asked 414 wikiHow readers what they’re most likely to do when they have a crush, and 67% of them agreed that they would stare at them every chance they get. [Take Poll] So this is a good indicator that someone’s crushing on you!

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He angles his body toward yours.

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See if his body is engaged while you're talking to him. If his entire body is turned toward you, he’s open to what you have to say.^{[4]
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Expert Interview} He might also lean closer to you, tilt his head slightly while you interact, and sit with relaxed posture to indicate he's comfortable with you and interested in you.
- He may even subconsciously direct his body toward you when you aren’t interacting! Sneak a peak at him next time he’s chatting with someone else across the room. Are his chest and feet directed toward you?

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He laughs at your jokes—even the dumb ones.

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We can’t help laughing at people we’re attracted to. Studies show that if a guy is into you, he'll chuckle at your jokes. If he's just a friend, he probably won't laugh unless your jokes are funny. So next time you tell a lame knock-knock joke, see what his reaction is: is he straight-faced, smirking, or doubling over in laughter?^{[5]
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- If you like him and want to subtly convey it, try laughing at his jokes as well (yes, even the stupid ones).

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He teases you.

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Teasing could be his way of flirting with you. If he makes playful fun of you, it could very well be an indication he likes you as more than a friend. He might tease you by mocking you, joking around with you, or making fun of you, but if he likes you, he’ll do these things kindly, not cruelly.^{[6]
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- Playful teasing may hint that he wishes for you to tease back. If you're brave enough, flirt with him to spice up the mood.

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He interacts with you on social media.

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If he tries to get your attention online, he probably likes you. You probably already follow each other on social media if you're friends, but if he likes you-likes you, he'll probably go out of his way to comment on your posts, send you funny memes, and slide into your DMs with flirty comments.
- Of course, he may not have social media—and there’s nothing wrong with that! We like a man of mystery!
- Reader Poll: We asked 289 wikiHow readers to tell us what it meant if someone likes a bunch of your social media posts, and 70% said it’s a sign that they like you. [Take Poll] You heard it here first—if they’re liking everything you post, that could send a major signal.

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He texts you a lot.

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If he texts you a lot, he wants to include you in his life. Lots of friends text, but if you're texting each other all day long, it means there's a real connection there. Alternatively, if he only talks to you when he sees you in person at work or school and doesn't text much outside of those contexts, he might only be interested in casual friendship.^{[7]
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- If he likes you, he might text you “What’s the homework?” but he'll use it as an excuse to segue into a conversation.
- He might not be that big on texting, but if he likes you, he’ll find a way to talk to you after work, school, or wherever you traditionally see each other: for instance, he might call you on the phone or message you on social media.

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He opens up to you.

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Talking about personal things shows that he trusts you. Bringing up deeper subjects, such as his fears or family issues, may mean that he wants to take your relationship with him to a deeper level. It means he sees you as a partner—someone he can rely on. On the other hand, if your conversations are usually surface-level, it's probably a sign he's not interested in taking things deeper.^{[8]
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- Don't be afraid to confide in him in return: not only will it show him you trust him too, but if he doesn't seem interested in what you're saying, it might be a sign he's using you as an emotional outlet. Emotional support should be a 2-way street.

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He talks to you about past relationships.

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If he wants to know your dating history, he’s probably into you. He might want to know how many serious relationships you’ve had, what kind of guys you’re into, and what your ideal relationship looks like. He might also tell you about his past relationships and what he’s looking for as well. These are signs he’s interested in taking things to the next level with you.
- If he makes constant attempts to set you up with another boy, it may be a sign you’re in the friend zone.
- Listen to his comments concerning other girls. It can tell you if he just wants your dating advice or if you're the girl he is after. Constant requests for advice indicate that he may be only interested in your opinion since you're a girl.

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He pays attention when you speak.

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A guy who’s invested in you will demonstrate active listening. Observe his body language for signs he’s paying careful attention to what you’re saying. He’ll maintain good eye contact, nod while you speak, and remember little details about what you’ve said in the past. These are all signs he likes you and he’s interested in what you have to say.
- Note if he gets easily distracted. If someone else approaches him while you're talking to him, does he instantly abandon your conversation? If this does occur more than once, he may not consider your words as important.
- However, keep in mind that he may avoid looking at you out of shyness.

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He touches you a lot.

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This doesn’t mean he’ll be smothering you in kisses—if he likes you and doesn’t know how to say so, he’ll touch you in small, seemingly insignificant ways, like subtly brushing his arm against yours, sitting with his knee touching yours, and high-fiving you. He might give you “friendly” hugs when you see one another as well.^{[9]
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He does favors for you.

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If he goes out of his way to do nice things for you, it’s a sign he cares for you. These thoughtful favors come in the form of free car rides, fixing you a meal, picking up your laundry…He may be angling for the boyfriend role.^{[10]
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- If he brings back your favorite dessert from a bakery or buys you that book you've been meaning to read, he’s paying attention to your needs.

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He offers you emotional support.

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A guy who's really into you won’t just be a fair-weather friend. If your guy pal is there for you when you’re having a bad day, it’s a sign he cares about your well-being and wants to support you. If he only wants to hang out when you’re in a good mood, it’s a sign he’s not super invested in forming a deeper connection.

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He treats you differently than other girls.

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If he pays more attention to you than your friends, he's probably interested. While he may be kind to others, you may be the only one he wants to be around in big groups.^{[11]
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Expert Interview} You also could be the only girl he teases or hugs. If you stick out differently from the other girls, this is a sign that he has his eyes set on you.
- However, if you notice him teasing and touching every girl in a five-mile radius, he may just be a flirt.
- If he’s open to letting you hang out with him and his new date, he may see you as a friend.
- However, if he’s hesitant about hanging out with other girls besides you, he might already see you as his girlfriend and feel like he is being disloyal.

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He goes out of his way to see you.

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If he likes you, he’ll find a way to spend time with you. Whether he asks you directly to hang out a lot or always seems to sidle up to you when you hang out in groups, if he likes you, he’ll try to spend time with you. He might even make excuses to hang out with you—for instance, he might say he’s “in your area” and ask if you want to meet up. If he's making excuses, he might be embarrassed about how much he wants to be with you.^{[12]
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- Is he constantly asking to hang out? This is an obvious indicator that he wants to spend time together. No matter how busy he is, if he likes you, he’ll make time.^{[13]
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You hang out alone together a lot.

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Spending one-on-one time together is a sign he craves intimacy with you. When you hang out, are you hanging solo or with a big group of people? Wanting to have you to himself indicates he likes you as more than a friend. On the other hand, if he invites his entire fraternity to join you when you hang out, he may not see you as more than a pal. But pay attention: if he only invites other couples to join you, he probably wants to pair off with you.^{[14]
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- Does he take the initiative to ask you to hang out? This is a big sign he's into you.^{[15]
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You spend weekends and evenings together.

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Hanging out during prime dating hours may mean he wants to date. When you hang out can be just as important as where. There's a big difference between a lunch date and a dinner date, or morning coffee and an evening drink, and if he’s saving his weekends for you rather than just squeezing you in for lunch on a Monday, it’s a sign he sees you as more than a casual friend and may want to take things to the next level.
- If you tend to hang out more during the day, then you're currently hanging out in the friend zone—but that doesn't mean he doesn't want more.

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He introduces you to his friends and family.

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While he’ll certainly want a lot of alone time with you, if he’s serious about taking things to the next level, he’ll want to see how you interact with his friends, and maybe even his siblings and (yikes!) his parents. He’ll want you to get along, but he’ll also want to know his friends’ opinions of you.^{[16]
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You do couple-y things when you hang out.

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If your hangouts are romantic, it means he wants to be a couple. Do you engage in more date-like activities, like candlelit dinners, or relationship-like outings, like grocery shopping together? Or are you on the buddy system? Taking a long hard look at how you hang out can help you understand his real intentions.
- Are you doing couple-y things together without being a couple? Do you find yourself grocery shopping, cooking dinner together, or even going to the farmer's market with one grocery bag? These may be signs that he sees you as a girlfriend already.
- If you often do romantic things together, like picnics in the park or wine tastings, it could mean he wants to turn your friendship into a romantic relationship.
- Note how long you hang out for when you see him. Does your coffee date turn into a 3-hour discussion, or is he gone in the time it takes you to ask for the check? If he can't stop talking to you, this is a sign that he wants something more from you.

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Other people say he likes you.

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An easy way to find out how he feels is simply to ask other people. Of course, do this with caution if you don't want him to find out what you really think about him. His friends may know for sure if he’s got the hots for you, but your friends likely also have valuable outsider insights if they’ve observed the two of you together a lot.
- Ask his friends if he's seeing anyone or if he has feelings for anyone. Pick a friend you really trust, though—otherwise, he might report to your guy immediately.
- You could also have one of your friends ask him if he has his eye on someone special. Your friend doesn’t have to be direct: they can pretend that they want to set him up with someone else, for example.

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He tells you he likes you.

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Try to get him to confess his feelings so you know once and for all. In the end, things may not move forward if you don't take the initiative. If you're pretty sure he likes you or are just feeling brave, then go ahead and tell him how you feel. Be lighthearted and don't take it too seriously. Just find the right moment to tell him you have a crush on him and are wondering if he feels it too.^{[17]
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- Don't be disappointed if he doesn't reciprocate your feelings. In the end, it may just not be meant to be. You've done something brave, and that's admirable.
- It's possible things will be awkward between you two if he doesn't share your feelings. Let him know you'd still like to be friends, and give him space if he needs it.^{[18]
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How do I know if my guy friend is into me too?

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I have this friend whom I know for months now, we don't hangout much often (different timetables different classes) but hangout after class. Met him through my friend and he's really introverted, barely talks to any. He slowly grew comfortable with me and opened up bout himself, but things were still awkward between us.

At times we'd go weeks without talking to each other (turns out we both thought the other person didn't want to talk). Recently we've been taking the bus home together, and we woke up to us sleeping lying on each other's shoulder's for three consecutive days. He doesn't know I'm aware of it and turns out he didn't "sleep" during all of this.

I like him and I want to know if he does too because he genuinely takes interest about me and in what I do, listens to me well and is really affectionate, but him being a silent reserved person confuses and scares me about how he views me. Help a friend out :(

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How do I give him little hints that I like him?

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If you want to subtly convey that you're interested in taking things to the next level, try out any of the methods listed above: maintain good eye contact and angle your body toward him, laugh at his jokes, text him and send him memes, and show him you care about him by offering emotional support and going out of your way to do little favors for him. If he likes you back, he might do these things in return!

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