Can a girl make the first move on a guy?
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A girl can definitely be the one to make the first move on a guy. Try starting with small moves, then work your way up from there. For example, you could sit close to this guy or touch him lightly on the shoulder while talking. If that gesture gets a green light, it might mean that he would be interested if you made a move.
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Absolutely—a girl can 100% make the first move on a guy.
In fact, many guys appreciate it when a girl takes the initiative. It shows confidence, clarity, and interest, which are attractive qualities regardless of gender.
Here’s why it’s totally fine (and even great):
✅ 1. Gender roles are evolving
Traditional norms where only guys make the first move are outdated. More and more people value mutual effort and shared responsibility in dating and relationships.
✅ 2. It’s empowering
Making the first move puts you in control. You’re not waiting—you’re acting based on your feelings.
✅ 3. It removes ambiguity
Sometimes, guys are shy or unsure. When a girl expresses interest first, it clears up confusion and opens the door to connection.
✅ 4. Confidence is attractive
Initiating a conversation, flirtation, or even asking someone out shows self-assurance—and that stands out.
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In fact, many guys appreciate it when a girl takes the initiative. It shows confidence, clarity, and interest, which are attractive qualities regardless of gender.
Here’s why it’s totally fine (and even great):
✅ 1. Gender roles are evolving
Traditional norms where only guys make the first move are outdated. More and more people value mutual effort and shared responsibility in dating and relationships.
✅ 2. It’s empowering
Making the first move puts you in control. You’re not waiting—you’re acting based on your feelings.
✅ 3. It removes ambiguity
Sometimes, guys are shy or unsure. When a girl expresses interest first, it clears up confusion and opens the door to connection.
✅ 4. Confidence is attractive
Initiating a conversation, flirtation, or even asking someone out shows self-assurance—and that stands out.
Absolutely! A girl can make the first move. Confidence and honesty are attractive, no matter who starts the conversation. If you’re interested, go for it, no need to wait.
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Absolutely yes, she can!
The idea that only men should make the first move is just an outdated social script, and many people today no longer follow it. Increasingly, women are confidently initiating conversations, asking men out, and expressing interest when they sense a connection. And honestly? It’s refreshing.
Making the first move doesn’t have to be a grand gesture; it could be as simple as sending a message, starting a conversation, or suggesting a casual meetup. What matters is being honest about how you feel and respecting each other’s responses.
Taking the initiative shows confidence and maturity, and it can lead to a more genuine connection. Whether you're a guy or a girl, love and attraction aren’t one-way streets. So if you’re thinking about making the first move, go for it. You never know what might come from it!
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The idea that only men should make the first move is just an outdated social script, and many people today no longer follow it. Increasingly, women are confidently initiating conversations, asking men out, and expressing interest when they sense a connection. And honestly? It’s refreshing.
Making the first move doesn’t have to be a grand gesture; it could be as simple as sending a message, starting a conversation, or suggesting a casual meetup. What matters is being honest about how you feel and respecting each other’s responses.
Taking the initiative shows confidence and maturity, and it can lead to a more genuine connection. Whether you're a guy or a girl, love and attraction aren’t one-way streets. So if you’re thinking about making the first move, go for it. You never know what might come from it!
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