Should I ask out my crush? Should I get to know him better first?
I've been in denial a little bit about liking a guy but this quiz helped me realize that I actually like him a lot! The thing is, we don't know each other super well. Should I just shoot my shot and ask him out or get to know him better first? How do I get closer to him and how do I ask him out?
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If you have a crush on someone, I say absolutely ask them out.
If you're considering boldly asking someone you don't know well, make sure to create some sort of connection first. I recommend making eye contact to see if there's any sort of reciprocation of interest!
The rule for eye contact is that you should hold it for three seconds, then you look away. If they aren't able to hold it for three seconds, then chances are they are not on the same level as you. You can also try smiling and proximity. Move a little bit closer to them and see how they change. If their body language is starting to turn towards you, or they smile, those are good signs!
As a female, you can get a guy to respond to you by asking him for help. Ask him something like, “Can you lift that weight for me?” or “Can you help me with that?” If you're at a coffee shop and you see a guy, you might say, “Oh, are you able to just help me on my computer? I'm just stuck a little bit here.” A scenario where you can ask for help switches you into feminine mode and switches him into masculine mode, which encourages connection in traditional heterosexual attraction.
In your case, I'd see if you can pick up on any signals of interest. If these signs are there, shoot your shot! If not, focus on building a connection first.
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If you're considering boldly asking someone you don't know well, make sure to create some sort of connection first. I recommend making eye contact to see if there's any sort of reciprocation of interest!
The rule for eye contact is that you should hold it for three seconds, then you look away. If they aren't able to hold it for three seconds, then chances are they are not on the same level as you. You can also try smiling and proximity. Move a little bit closer to them and see how they change. If their body language is starting to turn towards you, or they smile, those are good signs!
As a female, you can get a guy to respond to you by asking him for help. Ask him something like, “Can you lift that weight for me?” or “Can you help me with that?” If you're at a coffee shop and you see a guy, you might say, “Oh, are you able to just help me on my computer? I'm just stuck a little bit here.” A scenario where you can ask for help switches you into feminine mode and switches him into masculine mode, which encourages connection in traditional heterosexual attraction.
In your case, I'd see if you can pick up on any signals of interest. If these signs are there, shoot your shot! If not, focus on building a connection first.
I met this guy and he isn't too attractive but he is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO nice. I think I like him but IDK
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i know this sounds chesey but look there are some rlly attractive guys that are jerks and some rlly ugly guys who are super nice
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Not but like me to , I have all the feelings if when you like someone but not particularly the physical attraction. I’m more attracted in a different way ?it’s so weird
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He just confessed and I have never thought about him like that before. I have trouble processing emotions and I don't know if I like him back. What do I tell him?
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I like a boy but we are not that close, we are like friends but a little distant. And I don't know how to tell him that I like him?
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As a girl, get to know him better. Then he'll be more likely to go out with you.
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girl. just ask a simple thing: lets do hw together?? and y'all can talk mhmmmm and then he be asking for you help more often and y'all will get comfy
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I do really like him, but I feel like he likes someone else. Maybe he just wants to be friends but I want to be more than that!!! People always say we look good together and I know he used to like me… There should be a quiz that’s like “does he like her” or “does he just wants to be friends. The suspense is killing me! Wish me luck ;)
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Waitttt like I took this quiz just for the hell of it, but I dunno… me and him have a rlly complicated relationship. We met by chance and we ONLY talk over text. I see him around campus a lot but am wayyyy too shy to go up to him and he’s the same. I swear he said he liked someone else but he hasn’t mentioned her and I don’t wanna ruin things by mentioning her. We also flirt a lot as a “joke” but I really can’t tell if he’s joking anymore. He’s super sweet and his personality is perfect for me, but he’s not my type. Not to seem like looks are everything for me bc I still rlly like him but I dunnoooooo.
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i have a crush on a nerdy guy at school, but he has no experience with girls whatsoever.. hes in my drama production. what should i do :0
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I like a boy but we are not that close, we are like friends but a little distant. And I don't know how to tell him that I like him?
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Shame, why did you take the quiz if you like him? there's no point then. Just curios, what was your results exactly?
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My situation is complicated. I just got over a rejection, but I found myself staring at someone else. I've known him for a long time, and his jokes are hilarious. If you're in the same spot as me, tell your friends. Start a convo. Maybe he/she will like you back afterward. Just be yourself. Then ask them out.
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get to know him a bit better, get to be close friends, impress him no matter what, and that will make him ask YOU out!
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Get to know him better! I think if he knows more about you and who you are, it's more likely that he would like you back. Good luck! You've got this! :)
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I just found out the guy I like likes me back, but I took this test to help confirm my feelings. Now I'm wondering if I should ask him out of if I should wait for him to ask me!
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same but dont let it take the best of you there would be more heartbreaks but still there is gunna be love for u
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I’m so sorry! Happens to the best of us. I’m sure he just couldn’t realize the real you
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Ok, to start you should definitely get to know him better. You should as well as always start being friends, and see how he treat's you when you are his "friend". Even though you like him, you should as well as test the waters. Don't forget it is always for fun, unless you want it to be serious.
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Ask to hang out at a coffee shop to get to know him better as friends. And start to hang out with him more and then once you know him a lot better then ask him out if you still like him after that.
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I always get scared of rejection and my friends will hear anyone else got this??
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same! I don't mention my crush to my friends because idk it will just be awkward ig? idk!
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I never mention it to my friends. Only my sister. They”lol tease me and will want to go tell him
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i’m good friends with him but he’s in the year above me and my friend says that he’s too old form me should i ask him out?
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They said i like the idea of him! And the idea of him doesint make me gag, i hate him and i gag when i think of him. He told me today it would feel like cheating if we liked each other, couse i liked his brother! He doesint know i still like his brother.
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I think it's better to get to know him first. It'll help you better realize if you're actually interested in a relationship with him or were just attracted to him on a surface level. Find excuses to strike up conversation with him and ask him questions about himself. Be an active listener and genuinely interested in what he has to say. Find common interests. You got this!
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Help I desperately need advice!!!
I like this boy at school and have liked him for like months I think? But my crush has started to fade and my best friend says I should just tell him I like him.
The problem is I'm really shy. Like a LOT. And I have absolutely no idea how to tell him. What should I do???
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I like this boy at school and have liked him for like months I think? But my crush has started to fade and my best friend says I should just tell him I like him.
The problem is I'm really shy. Like a LOT. And I have absolutely no idea how to tell him. What should I do???
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