10 Key Reasons Why Libras Are So Hard to Date

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Last Updated: June 3, 2024 Fact Checked

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Libras are all about harmony, so why are they so hard to date? Although they're one of the most diplomatic and charming signs, Libras have their challenges. If you can go into a relationship being aware of their traits, you'll be one step ahead. Read through our complete guide on the difficulties of dating a Libra so you'll know what to watch for and how to handle it.

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They’re indecisive.

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Their inability to make decisions can drive you crazy. You might feel like you're making all the decisions, which can lead to resentment. Just try to understand that as the sign of the scales, your Libra is trying to find balance—they don't want to make the wrong choice, so they'd rather not pick anything.^{[1]
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- To help your Libra with their indecisiveness, give them just a few choices so they don't get overwhelmed. You might say, "Your turn to pick lunch. Are we doing Thai food or burgers? I could totally go either way."

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They’re too flirty.

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Libras flirt with everyone, which can be tough on their partners. Air signs are outgoing and super friendly, but your Libra might not know when to stop. They probably don't even realize that they're flirting with other people! Libras just want to be loved by everyone, so they don't think about how their flirtatious behavior can hurt.
- It's important to accept your Libra for who they are, but that doesn't mean you can't stand up for your feelings. You might say, "I noticed you were getting friendly with that girl. It made me feel uncomfortable—like I wasn't even there."

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They’re self-centered.

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You've probably noticed that your Libra prefers to be the life of the party everywhere they go. This can make you feel ignored or neglected, especially if they never ask for your opinion or find out how you're feeling.

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They’re superficial.

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Appearances are everything to Libras and that can be a lot of pressure. After all, you might feel like you're not handsome or beautiful enough for them. Blame Venus! This planet rules Libra and it rules aesthetics which is why appearances are critical for a Libra.^{[2]
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- For instance, they might make a rude comment if you're looking a little sloppy or thrown together.
- To avoid their criticism, take time getting yourself ready before you see them. They'll appreciate that you look polished and put together.

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They can be co-dependent.

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You may have noticed that Libra has never been single for very long—probably because being in a relationship is very important to them. While this doesn't sound like a problem, it can be an issue if you don't feel like you're a good match and they seem to be in a relationship just because they don't want to be alone.^{[3]
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They'll do anything to avoid conflict.

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Libras have a hard time managing problems, so they ignore them. This can make it hard to deal with normal relationship concerns. They'd rather pretend like nothing is wrong or just tell you what they think you want to hear.
- You can encourage or inspire your Libra to do things or make changes, but don't push too hard or they may shut down.

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They hide their feelings.

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Libras are hard to get to know because they are afraid to open up. This sign doesn't like feeling vulnerable. They may open up over time, but they're default setting is to keep their emotions in check.^{[4]
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- To prevent issues, encourage them to share their feelings. For example: "You agreed to hang out this weekend, but I get the impression you'd rather do something else—I'm okay with that. What are your thoughts?"

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They’re overly sensitive.

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Libras tend to take everything personally, which can cause conflict. Just because they hide their feelings doesn't mean they aren't in touch with them—on the contrary. Libras take even constructive criticism personally and tend to blow comments out of proportion. You might feel like you can't say anything without them getting upset about it.
- If you bring up a concern, use language that describes how you feel instead of accusing them. For instance, instead of saying, "You flirt too much with other guys," say, "I feel hurt when I see you flirting with other guys."

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They’re unreliable.

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Libras often promise too much and then they can't deliver. In some ways, they can't help it—this sign doesn't like to disappoint people, so they can't say no to anything. Usually, they just take on too much and aren't able to follow through with the promises they made.
- For instance, maybe your Libra promised you they'd bring a bottle of wine to dinner and they show up empty-handed. In the future, you might preface your request by saying, "I know you've got a lot on your plate right now. If you don't have time to grab the wine, I can definitely get it. Just let me know."

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They're habitual ghosters.

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Libras will disappear without a word and you may never know why. Rather than confronting you to talk about what's going on in your relationship, they may suddenly stop returning your calls or just disappear from your life altogether. Again, it's because Libras don't do conflict. They assume you'll figure it out.^{[5]
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- Work on developing effective communication early on in the relationship so your Libra will feel more comfortable talking about things with you.

Join the Discussion...

What are the positive and negative traits of libra men?

WikiCassowaryReader988

I've gone out a couple times with a libra guy and I've heard conflicting opinions about libras so I'm curious what anyone can tell me about libra men generally and in relationships? are they cheaters or are they generally pretty loyal? do they prefer to pursue or be chased? how do you keep a libra guy interested/attract him? What are the pros and cons of dating a libra man?

Anonymous WikiEagle

In my experience, Libras are the most devoted, engaged, honest, open, genuine, completely committed men possible. They love every last shred of you, good, bad or otherwise… they see who really are no matter what “state” you’re in, and love you because of your faults and flaws, and not not despite them. They definitely have a “standard” in mind for anybody they will consider being with, but once they decide you’ve ‘made the cut’, they accept that you’re human and not some flawless “ideal” who isn’t allowed to have your imperfect moments (ie not looking perfect, sick with a stomach bug or stuffed nose, bad hair days, flop clothes, etc). Once they know you’re CAPABLE of looking and acting “flawlessly” when needed, they get over the fact nobody is actually flawless, including you.

And I truly cannot understand anybody says they are “flaky”… in my experience, they are like rocks! I learned what “I’ve got you” meant for the first time in my life with my Libra… No matter where I was, or what I needed, DONE!!! if I sent a text and said “I need to talk to you”, the phone was ringing with an instant of hitting send… If I said “I need you“, the doorbell will be ringing before I could blink. If they heard or sensed any distress or shred of upsetment, sadness, stress, anxiety… FORGET IT!!! I couldn’t even tolerate that… and it ate him a lot if he couldn’t fix it or make it better for me. If I was in any kind of trouble…flat tire, broken leg, didn’t matter!!! Flew to my side instantly.

And there is absolutely no tolerance for anybody hurting me… At all… Under any circumstances. At times I feared for people who he even perceived as having hurt me in any way. And there was absolutely absolutely nothing he wouldn’t do for me… NOTHING.

I don’t think I ever knew what it meant to be “adored”, how I SHOULD AND DESERVE TO BE TREATED AND LOVED, OR even what being “loved” really meant until along came my Libra. I’ll never again accept anything less from anybody in life.

Maybe I lucked out! But if that’s the case, I’ve never been luckier.

PS I’m an Aquarius… Pretty true Aquarius, but not at all distant or “needing my space“… That is one part has never applied to me. My Libra never wanted to be without me…and I LOVED it

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