How to Text a Scorpio Man

Co-authored by Angel Eyedealism and Madeleine Flamiano

Last Updated: November 27, 2024 Fact Checked

Scorpio men are emotionally intuitive, striking, and totally seductive. If you're crushing on one of these dreamy water signs, that makes total sense. Luckily, there are so many simple and effective ways to lay the groundwork with your Scorpio crush over text. We've covered absolutely everything you need to know. For all the best tips on how to text a Scorpio man, read on!

This article is based on an interview with our astrologer and performance artist, Angel Eyedealism. Check out the full interview here.

How to Text and Flirt with a Scorpio Man

Keep your texts short and make them enticing. Ask him about himself and the things he enjoys to start an intellectually stimulating conversation. Or, text him dark and sarcastic jokes to make him laugh. Make a flirty bet with him or send an unpredictable text to maintain a little mystery.

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Ask engaging questions.

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"Do you think we're alone in the universe? 👽" This is an intelligent sign with a curious mind, so he'll find a challenging question like this attractive. Show a Scorpio that you know how to stimulate him intellectually, and you'll score major points. Ask him thoughtful questions about psychology, academics, or art. Then, wait for his clever, well-structured response to arrive.^{[1]
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- "What do you think is the key to happiness? I've always thought it was healthy habits, but I'd love to hear your thoughts. 🤔"
- "I feel like you'd have a lot of interesting thoughts on literature. What's the best novel you've read this year? 👩🏾‍🏫"
- "Here's a big, philosophical question for you. Do you think we can separate the art from the artist? 🙀"
- Scorpios need to feel engaged and enthralled with someone to really have interest in them.^{[2]
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Offer dry jokes and make intellectual comments.

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"You know, that reminds me of my favorite Aristotle quote...🤔" Scorpio is a clever sign, so a text that shows off your intelligence will impress him. Throw in a couple of references to philosophers or psychologists, and you’ll have him completely hooked on you.^{[3]
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- If your Scorpio crush mentions having a difficult exam, send an ironic joke: "Hmmm...It's almost like a professor's JOB is to challenge you to learn. 😘"
- If he mentions something intellectual, send a text back that proves you know what he's talking about (between us, you can totally do a quick Google search!).

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Show him your vulnerable side.

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"Honestly, I've been feeling a little sad today...😥" Scorpios are emotionally intuitive, so he'll love receiving a text that proves you're the same way. He seeks emotional intensity in his relationships, so if he’s worried that you’re not comfortable with your own profound, deep feelings, he’ll lose interest. In additions astrologer Angel Eyedealism shares, Scorpio can be a little "paranoid because [he] senses and sees too much in people." So identifying your feelings can help relax this part of him by demonstrating that you're in tune with yourself and trustworthy. Find opportunities to share your feelings over text, and he’ll be thrilled. When you can, describe complex emotions in detail.
- Identify a feeling that you're experiencing and share that: "I don't know. I guess I've been feeling sort of unmotivated today."
- Reflect on why you may be feeling that way and explain: "It may sound silly, but I think the weather really affects my mood. It could be the rain."
- Finally, try to tie the feeling to a pattern in your behavior: "It's hard for me to have a good day when I'm feeling sluggish. Working makes me feel fulfilled, so when I'm struggling at work, I don't feel as happy."

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Ask him how he's feeling.

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"So, how have you been feeling lately? 😌" Scorpio is a water sign, so he'll appreciate a text that shows off your emotional sensitivity. To impress a Scorpio, gently question him about his emotional wellbeing. If you sense a shift in his mood, mention it. Show him that you're emotionally intuitive and comfortable holding emotional conversations, and he'll find that totally crushworthy.
- Check in on how he's feeling: "Hey, Tyler. Just wanted to ask—are you doing okay?"
- Mention the change you noticed: "I feel like you were a little bit less chatty this morning."
- Offer him help and an empathetic ear if he wants it: "I don't mean to pry. I just wanted to let you know that I'm here for you if you need it. 🤗"

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Withold personal information from him.

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"I'm going to leave you in suspense for now...😏" He’s intuitive, observant, and super curious about the people around him, so an elusive, ambiguous message like this will be attractive to him. To a Scorpio, discovering what makes you tick is an absolute thrill. When you're still getting to know each other, send vague, mysterious messages and shift the convo's focus away from you and onto him.^{[4]
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- Strategically deflect his questions: "Hmmm...I'm not positive that I want to answer that just yet. I'm getting sleepy. Talk tomorrow? 🥱"
- Offer vague answers to his specific questions: "What was my childhood like? Oh, I don't know. Pretty average I suppose 😌"
- Turn the conversation's focus back onto him: "I'll answer that question after you answer three of mine. Deal? 😝"

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Share a secret with him.

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"I haven't told anyone else this yet, but I guess I'll tell you...🤫" By sharing a secret with him, you'll show that you have depth—which an intense, enigmatic Scorpio will love. Your go-to should still be to keep an air of mystery. But to keep him hooked, offer him occasional glimpses of what lies beneath the surface with you. Share an exciting, confidential fact about yourself but refrain from offering lots of detail.^{[5]
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- Explain that your secret is for his ears only. Scorpios love feeling like they're special to their crush: "You can't tell anyone this, okay? I don't like talking about it, but..."
- Tell him your secret but don't offer specifics: "I haven't returned to my hometown in ten years. It's sort of a long story though... 😔😔"
- When he asks follow-up questions, tell him he'll have to wait: "That's all I want to share for now. Maybe down the line I'll tell you more..."

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Send texts he won't be able to predict.

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"You know, I'm not really like everyone else...🌙" Scorpios are known for their intense love of mysteries, so when you send a text that makes you sound unique and complicated (like this one!) you'll have him hooked.^{[6]
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Expert Interview} To Scorpios, the excitement in romance comes from tension and uncertainty. So to grab his interest, send surprising questions and comments over text. He'll find you irresistible.
- Ask him unexpected questions out of the blue: "Have you ever wondered if pets can sense what their owners are feeling?"
- Offer surprising facts about yourself: "You like the blonde? My hair was actually blue for all of last year. Wonder if you'd have liked that as much, haha. 😅"
- Surprise your Scorpio crush with astute observations you've made about him: "I noticed that you never finish your coffee. Does it make you too jittery? 😵"
- Scorpios tend to be naturally obsessive, so leaving a veil of mystery around yourself is a great idea.^{[7]
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Make flirty bets with him.

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"I bet you can't guess what I'm thinking right now..." Before they get serious, Scorpios are all about playing games, so a bet like this will make him swoon. Make bets on literally anything, as long as they aren't too serious, they allow you both to get competitive, and you're both okay with their potential outcomes.
- Make a bet that teases him a little: "I bet you can't go a full week without being late to hang out. If you win, I'll give you that sweater you love so much. 😏"
- If you two haven't gone out yet, use that in your bet: "If you go an entire day without mentioning work, I'll pay for our first date. 😉"

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Send sexy texts and photos.

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"I think you'd love what I'm wearing rn (or what I'm not wearing 😘)." Scorpio men are extremely sensual, so a text like this will appeal to this side of him. With his consent, send over your dirty thoughts, flirty comments, and if you want, even some sexy selfies. This sign is super open-minded and in touch with their sexual nature, so show him you’re that way too, and that'll definitely be attractive to him.^{[8]
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- To drive him completely crazy, let him know he's on your mind: "I can't stop thinking about last night...😉😉"
- Without warning, send a dirty joke to make him smile: "I was just reading about Aries and Scorpio's sexual compatibility...Supposedly it's off the charts. 😇"
- When you send a scandalous pic, send a flirty caption warning him not to open it in public. "Warning! Incoming NSFW photo. Open at your own risk. 😵"
- Scorpios love intensity and passion.^{[9]
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Tell him that you're entirely his.

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"You have my whole heart—I'm yours completely." Scorpio men can be possessive, so a message like this will be attractive to him. To impress a Scorpio over text, play into this fantasy of his. A Scorpio's dream is to have their crush completely to themselves. So, make his wish come true! Explain that he’s the only person you want to be with and the only person who knows how to satisfy you.
- "I don't think about anyone but you. 🤍🤍"
- "You're the only person who really understands what I need. 💋"
- "I'm all yours. 💞"
- Reader Poll: We asked 614 wikiHow readers who are Scorpios what they value most in a relationship, and 69% of them agreed that loyalty is most important to them. [Take Poll]

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Wait to respond to his texts and be unavailable when he asks to hang out.

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"I'm not sure if I can hang out Friday, I'll have to check my schedule..." Scorpios love being in control, so texts that force him to chase you will be super appealing to him. Tease him and then reel back your interest. When you two are still getting to know each other, ensure that he's always texting you first. Be difficult to pin down and every once in a while, take a long time to respond. He finds mind games totally thrilling, so he'll love it if you're willing to play along with him.
- When he invites you to hang out, don't give a solid answer right away: "Hmm...maybe. Can I let you know the day of? 😚"
- Every few messages, make him wait before you respond. You don't want him to lose interest completely, though. Go for around 3x your normal response time.
- Wait for him to text you. If you do want to message him, make up a creative excuse: "Hey, what's the name of that song I loved? I can't remember it."

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How do you win a Scorpio man's heart?

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If you want to win a Scorpio man's heart, show him you're the real deal and that you're worthy of his trust. Scorpios are slow to open up to people, but once they do, they're very loyal. Open up to him and show him you have depth and substance, and show interest in what he has to say as well. Scorpio men want a partner who is authentic, deep, passionate, and sensitive, like they are.

Learn How to Attract a Scorpio Man with this Expert Series

Scorpio men are private, mysterious, and occasionally intimidating. We've put together this expert series to help you understand Scorpio behavior and attract the Scorpio man of your dreams.

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Text a Scorpio Man

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Angel Eyedealism
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Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings.

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Don't be afraid to share your interest in them! You definitely need to engage in sex or intimacy in some way to be close with a Scorpio, or else they'll lose interest.

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