How to Attract a Scorpio Man As a Sagittarius Woman

Written by Angel Eyedealism | Edited by Dan Hickey

Last Updated: July 12, 2024

You’re the bright, breezy Archer of the zodiac and you’ve spotted your next target: the brooding, dark, mysterious Scorpio man. There’s an element of danger there, but the risk of pursuing your neighbor in the zodiac is exactly what makes it so enticing. Attracting a Scorpion is the perfect adventure for a Sagittarius woman, and you’ve got all the flair and alluring qualities to do it! Read on for a comprehensive list of ways to win a Scorpio man’s attention and keep him by your side.

This article is based on an interview with our astrologer and performance artist, Angel Eyedealism. Check out the full interview here.

1

Wear something sexy but mysterious.

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Sex appeal is crucial to luring in a Scorpio man. He’s one of the most sexually active men in the zodiac, and having the right look will drive him wild for you. Wear something sleek and form-fitting (you can’t go wrong with the colors black or red) and show just a little bit of skin—leaving a little to his imagination is more attractive to him than baring it all.
- Interesting or unique jewelry is also appealing to him. Add some accessories with an interesting backstory to your look to pique his curiosity.
- Warm and spicy scents like cinnamon or vanilla smell great to him.^{[1]
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Keep your introduction short and sweet.

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Scorpio men get suspicious if you’re too eager and familiar right away. They’re shrewd and cautious, so they’ll comb through everything you say and do for hints of insincerity.^{[2]
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Expert Interview} Instead of the bold pickup line or witty joke you might be used to as a Sagittarius, aim for a safe and simple introduction. Try something like:
- “Hi, I’m Megan. I don’t think we’ve met before, what’s your name?”
- “Hey, that book you’re reading is one of my favorites! I’m Claire by the way.”
- “I’ve seen you around before but never caught your name. I’m Alaya.”

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Charm him with witty conversation.

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Scorpio men are highly intelligent and love a stimulating chat. As the greatest conversationalist in the zodiac, you’ll have no problem charming the pants off him! Share novel ideas and stories of your adventures with him—he’s a reserved fellow and will find your free spirit fascinating and foreign. Throw in a few dark jokes and you’ll have him in the palm of your hand.
- A Scorpio guy doesn’t care for small talk too much. Skip the pleasantries when you see him and jump right into the most interesting parts of your day.
- He loves being complimented and feeling desired, but don’t lay it on too thick. If he senses you’re trying to schmooze him, he’ll get suspicious and uncomfortable.

4

Flirt with him and only him.

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Scorpio men get jealous and possessive over their romantic interests. If you’re into a Scorpio guy, make sure you turn a blind eye toward the other men competing for your radiant Sagittarius attention. A Scorpio wants to be the only man you’ll love for the rest of your life, and he’ll walk away the instant he feels he’s not the only man in your life.
- Sagittarians have the reputation of being the most non-committal of all the signs.^{[3]
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  Expert Interview} Stand by your Scorpion while he takes his time to contemplate you and resist the urge to parley with other guys.
- Delete your dating apps too! A Scorpio will get paranoid if he spots Tinder on your phone screen.

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Pull him away for some 1-on-1 time.

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A Scorpio man is the ultimate loner. He’ll love watching you be the effortless life of the party from afar, but will hesitate to approach you if you’re always in the spotlight. Ask him if he wants to grab some air outside the bar for a second, or if he can walk you home. He’ll absolutely cherish the chance to have you to himself for a bit.^{[4]
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- People tend to gravitate to you, and this can make a Scorpio man jealous or possessive. Look for ways to balance quality time with him and your time as the center of everyone’s attention.

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Tell him you have a secret.

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Scorpios love all things hidden and mysterious. Drop a hint that you know something he doesn’t—it doesn’t even have to be that deep or important. Just the fact that you have the scoop and he doesn’t will bring him back to you over and over until he finds out what it is. Say teasing things like:
- “Well, I’m really not supposed to tell anyone about this. Maybe later…”
- “That’s for me to know and you to find out!”
- “You don’t know about Alicia’s drama? Interesting…”

7

Empathize with him.

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At his core, he’s a moody and sensitive guy. Seemingly small things can upset this emotional water sign for days. As a detached fire sign, you probably won’t see why he has to be so dramatic (can’t he just get over it?). Learn to appreciate his depth—it’s what makes him a caring, protective, and profound partner.
- Be patient when he’s in an off mood and give him the space he needs to react and work through things. He’ll come around after he’s brooded for a while.

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Open up to him bit by bit.

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A Scorpio guy loves a little mystery in a woman. As an open Sagittarius, you might be tempted to tell him everything from your favorite color to the time you ruptured your spleen in 5th grade. Hold off on the full life story—he’ll be more interested in small tidbits that give him something to wonder about.
- If he thinks he’s got you figured out right away, he might get disinterested in pursuing you.
- Tease him with phrases like “...but that’s a story for another time” or “Maybe I’ll tell you about it…later.” He’ll be dying to know what you’re keeping hidden!

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Show him that you’re ambitious.

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A Scorpio man is a driven, goal-focused guy. He’s invested in his career and usually likes to plan ahead. Tell him about your career ambitions, your life goals, and your favorite accomplishments to show that you’re a like-minded go-getter. He’ll see you as a valuable and inspiring partner who he can’t wait to know better.
- Many Sagittarians love to live in the moment and their wanderlust can make them shirk some of their responsibilities. A Scorpio might find this unnerving at first, but the balance between work and play is what makes a Scorpio-Sagittarius couple so compelling.

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Do something intellectual together.

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A Scorpio man loves anything challenging, dark, or educational. A crisis documentary or a psychological thriller would make a great choice for a Netflix-and-chill night (the more complicated twists and turns, the better). Strategy games like Settlers of Catan or chess also appeal to him (and to your fun competitive streak, too!).
- Going to a museum, art exhibit, or a live performance would also be a great idea if you’re looking to meet up in a neutral space that’s not either of your home.
- If you need a gift, look for something along the same intellectual lines—mystery novels, history books, or anything about the hidden and unknown workings of the world will thrill him.
- 'Reader Poll: We asked 610 wikiHow readers who've dated Scorpio men, and only 7% of them agreed that the best way to attract them is by being intelligent and analytical. [Take Poll] So if you’re not big on intellectual hobbies, don’t sweat it! Instead, look for hobbies you can both enjoy together.

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Take him on an adventure.

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Scorpio men need more light and fun in their life. You’re the perfect gal to give it to them! Take him with you when you travel, go to a new nightclub, or meet new people. It’ll be a totally different world to him, and he’ll gradually learn to open up and have some fun. The more you can show him, the more attracted to you he'll be. Some adventurous date ideas might be:
- Exploring a nature park or going on a hike.
- Teaming up to play a recreational sport together (or against each other).
- Taking him as an escort to a high-profile gala, fundraiser, or reception.
- Just make sure to give him some alone time to decompress afterward. He’ll be happy to head home and unwind after an event while you head to the afterparty.

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Show him you’re trustworthy.

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Loyalty and trust are important to a Scorpio guy. He’s naturally guarded and takes a long time to open up to new people. Stand by his side and be upfront and honest with him no matter what (as a Sagittarius, that’ll be easy!). A Scorpio guy can work through almost anything in a relationship, but a betrayal or a lie is something he’ll never get over.
- Scorpio is a tense sign. He’ll relax around you if you can look him in the eye and be accountable and reliable.^{[5]
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- Keep being an open book—he’ll learn quickly that you have little to hide from him, and he’ll find your openness refreshing (he’s used to seeing through other people’s facades).
- He might find your blunt Sagittarian honesty suspicious initially, but he’ll appreciate it after he gets to know you.

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