How to Know if a Virgo Woman Likes You: 11 Signs to Look Out For

Decode a Virgo woman’s love language with tips from astrology experts

Co-authored by Annabelle Reyes Reviewed by Stina Garbis

Last Updated: December 3, 2024 Fact Checked

Reserved, shy, and a little introverted, a Virgo woman can seem like a complete mystery. In fact, you may have no idea how she feels about you, even though you know you're attracted to her. If you’ve been second-guessing yourself about whether or not a Virgo woman is into you, you’re in the right place! We’ve compiled a list of signs that you're capturing a Virgo woman's heart, complete with expert insights from psychic astrologer Stina Garbis and intuitive counselor Kari Samuels. Keep reading for everything you need to know!

Top Signs a Virgo Woman Secretly Likes You

She’s shy at first but slowly opens up and pokes fun at you.
She notices unique details about you and can overlook your flaws.
She offers to help you organize, clean, or tackle tough tasks.
She asks you for help to reveal a bit of her vulnerable side.

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She's shy or reserved around you at first.

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Virgos tend to keep to themselves if they're nervous around you. You might notice this especially if you're hanging out in a group—she might seem talkative and friendly, but around you, she'll be quiet or a little awkward. This could be because she has a crush on you, but doesn't feel comfortable with you yet.^{[1]
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- “It’s very hard to get a Virgo to open up,” explains Garbis. “Virgos will stare at you from afar and will follow you without you knowing for some time if they are into you.”^{[2]
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- Garbis has a few words of advice if you’re trying to take things to the next level with the Virgo in your life: “If you make yourself open and available and not a hard target, that might get a shy and receptive sign like Virgo to approach.”^{[3]
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- In other words, don’t play hard to get—this doesn’t work with a Virgo! Instead, be friendly and down-to-earth, and this may help her feel comfortable enough to get closer to you.

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She engages in long conversations with you.

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If she has a crush on you, she'll want to talk to you a lot. Samuels explains that Virgos are ruled by the planet Mercury, and Mercury loves intellectual stimulation and communication.^{[4]
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Expert Interview} You'll find that the two of you can talk about anything and everything—no subject is off limits! If you notice that the Virgo woman in your life is engaging in lots of long conversations with you, this is a good sign that she wants to build a deeper connection and get to know you better.
- Virgos usually prefer to communicate in person, although you might have long conversations on the phone or send text messages back and forth.

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She rearranges her schedule to make time for you.

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If a Virgo likes you, she’ll change her routine to involve you in her life. Virgos are very detail-driven, organized people, and they tend to adhere to their usual routines pretty strictly.^{[5]
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- Don't worry if your Virgo occasionally wants some space. Virgos can be introverted, so she might just want some alone time.^{[6]
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She notices all the little details about you.

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If she has a crush on you, she'll pay attention to your likes and dislikes. Virgos are known for being observant and detail-oriented, so if she likes you, she may take it upon herself to learn things about you and file them away for later.^{[7]
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- For instance, she might bring up a movie you talked about the last time you hung out, or surprise you with a drink from the coffee shop you mentioned liking.^{[9]
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- Don't be surprised if she notices something about you that you've never realized (like the fact that you always hold the door open for people, or that you're great at making people laugh when they're sad). If she likes you, she'll want to let you know how great you are.

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She surprises you with lots of nice gestures.

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Virgos are very thoughtful toward the people they love. A Virgo may not be one for big romantic gestures, but they love to do sweet things to make your day a bit easier and brighter.^{[10]
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Research source} She might brew you coffee if you're running late for work, bring you your favorite takeout if you forgot your lunch, or send you a nice text to see how your day's going. All of these things would be good indicators that she feels deeply for you!
- This isn't to say that a Virgo woman won't ever do more romantic things. If she feels comfortable and the circumstances are right, she may opt for a bigger romantic gesture.
- If she does, you can definitely take it as sign that she has deep feelings. A Virgo wouldn't do that type of thing unless they were serious about you!

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She cooks for you or tidies your space.

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If a Virgo woman wants to take care of you, this is a good sign. Virgos want to feel useful and needed, so they love to pitch in and help with anything you may need, says Garbis.^{[11]
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Expert Interview} For example, you might come home to find that she's cleaned or organized your space because she knows you’ve been too stressed out lately to tidy up. It's also a good sign if she's made you food— this means she wants to nurture you!
- According to Garbis, Virgos are all about cleanliness.^{[12]
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  Expert Interview} They love to keep things neat and they can’t stand clutter, so don't take it personally if she cleans up around you.
- She’s not trying to make a comment about your living habits—she just wants to be helpful, and to make the space more comfortable for the both of you.

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She asks for your help.

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Virgos are all about being helpful to others, but when it comes to their own lives, they pride themselves on being self-sufficient.^{[13]
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Research source} They’re usually slow to reach out for help, so if she asks for your opinion or assistance, this is a pretty big deal. She’s showing you her vulnerable side and trusting you with the truth of her situation, which is definitely an indicator that she feels close to you.^{[14]
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She teases you and pokes fun at you.

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They’re slow to open up to others, so they may try to mask their vulnerable feelings with sarcastic jokes and teases.^{[15]
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Research source} So, if the Virgo woman in your life pokes fun at you a lot, this may be a sign that she’s noticing her own feelings developing, and she’s trying to protect herself until she’s sure you feel the same way.

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She lets herself be vulnerable.

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If she tells you how she's feeling or shows affection toward you, this is a pretty big deal! It means she feels a connection and trusts you not to hurt her emotionally.^{[17]
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Research source} If she was the one to ask you out, this is also a sign that her feelings run deep. Virgos usually wait for the other person to make the first move, so she's either tired of waiting or her feelings for you were strong enough to push her out of her shell.

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She actually relaxes around you.

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They like to have things a certain way, and they get pretty nervous when things don’t go according to plan.^{[18]
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Research source} If you’ve noticed that the Virgo woman in your life has finally been able to let her hair down around you and go with the flow, this is a huge sign that she likes you and trusts you. Virgos don’t let their guards down for just anyone!

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She overlooks your faults.

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Virgos tend to be perfectionists and can come across as a bit critical. So, if your Virgo woman overlooks little faults or details that she might nag other people about, it could be a sign that her feelings for you are overshadowing her perfectionistic side.^{[19]
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- For instance, if you usually walk in and throw your jacket on the floor, she won't get upset and tell you to pick it up. Instead, she'll put it away and won't say anything, or you might even find that she's installed a hook near the door for your coat.
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What do Virgo women like in a man?

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Virgo women are known for being intelligent, analytical, and a bit reserved. They’re often attracted to smart, witty men who can connect with them through interesting conversations. Virgos also value good manners and integrity, so they’re drawn to men who are polite, reliable, and true to their word.

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How do you engage a Virgo?

Jessica Lanyadoo
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Jessica Lanyadoo is a Humanistic Astrologer, psychic medium, and animal communicator with over 30 years of professional experience. Known for her grounded and accessible approach, she helps individuals cultivate emotional intelligence and navigate life with clarity. She is the author of Meditations for Your Sign (2025) and Astrology for Real Relationships (2020) and hosts the acclaimed podcast Ghost of a Podcast. Her work has been featured in CNN, The Today Show, Rolling Stone, Vogue Italia, Time Magazine, Oprah Magazine, and more.

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Virgo is inherently an introverted sign and when I say introverted, what that means is they tend to be reflective and considerate. They're considering how they feel, they're considering what you're saying, they're considering what you're not saying. Virgos are going to notice everything. If you talk over them, Virgo is going to notice. So being consistent, yet flexible, with your Virgo crush is an effective way of engaging with them.

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