How do you flirt over text? I'm so bad at it
Ugh, I'm getting so flustered with this guy I've been texting lately! It feels like he has all the right things to say and is SO cute about it, and then all my messages just feel so blahhhh. I really like him and want him to stick around, but I need to up my text game ASAP. Please please please teach me the right things to say so he doesn't lose interest.
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I think if you are trying to flirt through text messages, it's okay to use emojis here and there. You don't want to overuse them, because that'll come off as too eager. But you do want to use a little bit of an emoji just to show that it's lighthearted and fun. Make sure to avoid boring questions, and make sure you're always moving the conversation forward. You don't want to stick on one topic for too long. Keep the conversations fun and lighthearted so the person is interested to continue the conversation. Show that interest and that common ground and then it'll make the other person excited as well.
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Keep it light and keep it fun. Don't go into seduction mode — this could come across really cheesy or too sexual. Try keeping it light and flirty but intelligent at the same time.
If you're a woman texting a guy, this means you're not saying silly things, but you're texting witty comments. These are comments that don't necessarily poke fun at your partner, but comments that show that you're not going to back down, that you're going to hold your ground on a conversation.
If you are a guy and you're texting a woman, try complimenting her, but not to a point where she feels like you're making too much of a focus about her appearance. Follow up compliments with questions about getting to know her, then use the information you learn as a little joke. For instance, if she says, “I'm a little bit of a grandma. I get cold and I don't want to go outside usually in winter,” then you could flip back and say, “Well, good thing about that is I know how to knit. Can I knit you a scarf one day?”
There are always little key points like this that you can pick up on and then use to turn texting into flirty conversation.
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If you're a woman texting a guy, this means you're not saying silly things, but you're texting witty comments. These are comments that don't necessarily poke fun at your partner, but comments that show that you're not going to back down, that you're going to hold your ground on a conversation.
If you are a guy and you're texting a woman, try complimenting her, but not to a point where she feels like you're making too much of a focus about her appearance. Follow up compliments with questions about getting to know her, then use the information you learn as a little joke. For instance, if she says, “I'm a little bit of a grandma. I get cold and I don't want to go outside usually in winter,” then you could flip back and say, “Well, good thing about that is I know how to knit. Can I knit you a scarf one day?”
There are always little key points like this that you can pick up on and then use to turn texting into flirty conversation.
A little bit of joking or teasing can help create a playful mood that's good for flirting
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I got my crush’s number, texted “Hello” and she hasn’t responded in 11 days. I am awful at flirting and we aren’t even friends. What should I do?
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Overall, try to genuinely get to know the guy and connect with him. Ask him questions about himself, share sincerely about yourself, and sprinkle in a few compliments or cheesy puns if you can and you'll be good
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Text him about things that made you think of him throughout the day. Like if you were chatting about a cafe he likes to go to and you end up grabbing coffee from there, take a picture and let him know you were thinking of him. Just one or two a day will let him know that he's on your mind and that you've been paying attention to what he says. Don't overdo it though.
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Sure first how does this guy act around you? What's his body language? And lastly how does he talk to you over text?
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It can be hard to tell if a boy likes you over text because you can’t pick up on nonverbal cues. But you can look at his behavior and how he texts you. For example, if he texts you often (every day or multiple times a day), is usually the one who reaches out first, and responds quickly, he may be interested in you. Also be on the lookout for cute nicknames, emojis, and flirty language. He might also stay up late to text you. This is especially meaningful if he has an early bedtime!
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Probably not the right place to ask for advice. I texted him goodnight, but he didn’t answer. Usually if he goes to bed before me, he will say goodnight first. He seems a bit off and I don’t know if its me.
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I kinda have a problem with he's bold and flirts alot and I'm comfortable with that but I don't know how to match the energy. He said he feels weird that he's the only one doing it and not me and he feels bad and I told I'm not to but he insists he feels bad and I don't know how to respond to him. I want to but I don't know how
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Try a random, unnecessary fact, but keep it interesting. "Coca-cola was originally green." or perhaps using a ridiculously long word. "Pulchritudinous" means beautiful.
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I wanna find out if he misses me. I tell myself not to message him so much and see if he will message me but then I panic he won't and message anyway
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It’s so scary: the thought he doesnt like you back. If you are too eager he might thing you are clingy and it is terrifying to lose him
Voted: 😨 I'm afraid that the other person won't like my flirting
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Its a flirty friendship with that guy i met. Yesterday he called me Darling. I dont know what i should call him.
Voted: 😬 I don't know what to say
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If guy really likes you & you like him then texts out the blew that he had a strange phone call last night his friend said she had feelings for him then he stops saying for a bit then months later he will come out & say sorry not spoken in a while had lot going on with kids,there mum plus the girl that say she likes him he says he don't want to hurt her feelings or wreck the friendship but still flirts with me alot so his he playing mind games to keep me close to him ??
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