What makes you love someone & do you need a reason to love someone?
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There are so many instances that you could fall in love with someone or love them as a friend without needing a reason. Sometimes it’s just the right place and time. Or maybe, they may fill a void that needing tending to. Love isn’t always about looks or intimacy, it can be a feeling you have for someone just because!
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I believe it may be different for everyone, but if we look at love as both a feeling and an action, then the question becomes: Do I feel good around this person? Do I feel safe and connected to them? Do they make me want to be a better person? Does this person fulfill me emotionally, physically, spiritually, and more?
I don’t believe you need a reason to love someone, but often one may mistake lust for love. In other words, the feel-good hormones we feel around someone at the beginning of a relationship can be mistaken for love. How can you tell? You see how you feel about this person over the span of some time.
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I don’t believe you need a reason to love someone, but often one may mistake lust for love. In other words, the feel-good hormones we feel around someone at the beginning of a relationship can be mistaken for love. How can you tell? You see how you feel about this person over the span of some time.
I am a licensed clinical social worker providing general information for educational purposes only. I am not liable for any decisions made or actions taken based on the information provided.
There are many reasons why people love someone else, and it really depends on the individual relationship. You might even feel love for someone without any particular reason, but you may want to figure out the reasons you're in love with them if you want to build a stronger, lasting relationship. Some common reasons you might love someone else include:
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- They treat you with kindness and respect.
- They listen to what you have to say and they respond with thoughtful answers.
- They have a similar sense of humor and you laugh at the same jokes. They communicate how they're feeling openly and honestly with you.
- They show you affection and you have a natural chemistry with each other.
- They make you feel like you can be yourself without having to change who you are.
- They see the best parts of you and inspire you to be your best.
- They trust you and you can trust them.
- They make you feel safe and they feel safe around you.
Thanks for your reply. So in fact love is not unconditional? There has to be "something" ?
I was confused as I find it hard to agree with society trying to convince me that I MUST love the daughter (abroad) whom I hardly know...who at 5 chose to live with her father and who now after 47 years of no contact, approached me for help as she had a disagreement with her stepmother. I listened, tried to understand and advise only to find out later that she fibbrdy. Still I hoped I could get to know and befriend her after all these years but she does not need me anymore and is now, that she has a new boyfriend, too busy to text, phone or reply to my weekly messages.
Her daughter and my granddaughter got married and I heard from someone else 10 days layer. She also does not share anything about herself, or answer any questions I ask about her schooldays etc.
To love someone I need to have "some aspect " I can connect to, not just the IDEA that one MUST love the offspring one has birthed no matter what
Strangely I can love my good friend, the stepmother who cared for her as a child. She never complains about the manipulative child she had to contend with. A true salt of the earth lady whom I admire and respect and am grateful to.
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I was confused as I find it hard to agree with society trying to convince me that I MUST love the daughter (abroad) whom I hardly know...who at 5 chose to live with her father and who now after 47 years of no contact, approached me for help as she had a disagreement with her stepmother. I listened, tried to understand and advise only to find out later that she fibbrdy. Still I hoped I could get to know and befriend her after all these years but she does not need me anymore and is now, that she has a new boyfriend, too busy to text, phone or reply to my weekly messages.
Her daughter and my granddaughter got married and I heard from someone else 10 days layer. She also does not share anything about herself, or answer any questions I ask about her schooldays etc.
To love someone I need to have "some aspect " I can connect to, not just the IDEA that one MUST love the offspring one has birthed no matter what
Strangely I can love my good friend, the stepmother who cared for her as a child. She never complains about the manipulative child she had to contend with. A true salt of the earth lady whom I admire and respect and am grateful to.
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