Sure, it's love, but is it true love? We're here to tell you!
Answer these quick questions, and we'll tell you if your love is the real deal (just keep in mind that this is just an online quiz—so trust your gut, too!).
Questions Overview
- Totally. I could (and have) told them my darkest secrets and deepest emotions.
- Probably. There might be some things they don't need to know about, though...
- Nah, not everything. It's normal to have some secrets.
- I'm not sure.
- I'm afraid of it ending somehow.
- I'm afraid I'm not giving them the love they deserve.
- I'm afraid I'm giving too much of myself away.
- Not really, no.
- Their sense of humor. They always know how to make me smile.
- Their appearance. They're so attractive it makes my eyes cross.
- Their intelligence. They've got a brilliant mind I love to explore.
- Their empathy. They're a kind person who just gets me.
- Devasted. Betrayed. Bitter.
- It'd hurt, but if that's their decision, then I respect it.
- I'd be bummed, but there are other fish in the sea.
- Oh well. I'll find someone else!
- Warm and safe, like I'm coming home.
- Excited and thrilled, like I'm about to ride a rollercoaster.
- Thoughtful and quiet, like I'm trying to figure out a puzzle.
- Not much, honestly. Neutral.
- Nope! It's been smooth sailing so far.
- One or two, but we worked through it and now we're stronger than ever.
- Yes, and it wasn't pretty, but we're trying to move forward.
- Too many to count.
- Yes to all 3!
- Yes to 2 out of 3!
- Yes to 1 out of 3!
- Not I don’t.
- We always bounce back from a fight, no matter what.
- We know everything about each other. We even finish each other's sentences!
- We can go a long time without seeing each other and still be super close.
- Yes, we're together and happier than ever.
- A lot can happen in 10 years, you know, but I hope we're together.
- I'm not sure, honestly.
- Definitely not. My heart already belongs to someone.
- Probably not, but I'd hesitate.
- Sure. If they’re cool.
- Maybe. I want to make sure I'm exploring all my options.
- I feel fine. I love and accept them, flaws and all.
- I feel nervous. I worry their flaws might get in the way of us.
- They don't have any flaws!
- Yes. 1000% times yes. I do!
- Can I have a moment to think about it? This is all so sudden, I want to make sure I make the right choice.
- Honestly? No. Not yet. Maybe in 5 years, but I need time.
- Nah. That's a dealbreaker.
More Quizzes
What is true love?
Pretty much everyone yearns for a love that’s true. One that lasts forever, and which never fades. But what does that mean, anyway?
What is “true love” anyway?
It depends on who you ask, but most people would tell you that true love is love that’s lasting, resilient, and healthy. It comes in many forms, both romantic and platonic, and it’s something that, once you find it, you should never let it go.
How do you know if it’s really true love?
Again, true love looks different for everyone, but there are some classic traits and signs to look for if you want to know if you’ve found The One. Check out these characteristics of true love:
- True love involves mutual respect. You and your partner both see and accept each other for who you are, and treat each other as people, with beliefs, opinions, and emotions.
- True love involves a profound connection. What that connection looks like varies, but when you love someone, you become closer to them than other people. You understand and relate to each other on a deeper level.
- True love requires trust. You and your partner aren’t jealous, possessive, or suspicious. You respect each other’s agency and trust each other to make the right decisions without being tested.
- True love encourages growth. People change, and that’s natural. When you’re in love, you’ll want your partner to become the best person they can be, and you’ll encourage them to grow and change, and they’ll do the same for you.
- True love is resilient. Every relationship has its hurdles and setbacks, even true love. But if the love is real, you’ll be able to navigate those challenges without falling apart.
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True love is accepting. If you love your partner, you’ll take them as they are, jagged edges and all. That doesn’t mean they shouldn’t improve, just that you don’t require them to be someone they’re not.
What is the 2 2 2 love rule?
The 2 2 2 love rule is the idea that couples should go on a date every 2 weeks, a weekend trip every 2 months, and a week-long trip every 2 years. It’s a nice schedule for bonding with your partner, but it’s not one-size-fits-all, and may not be helpful for every relationship.
How do you know if someone truly loves you, and how do you know if you truly love someone?
We already touched on the characteristics of love above, but if you want a simple guide, ask yourself this: If that person were to tell you that they wanted to break up tomorrow to date someone new, how would you feel? You’d probably feel bad (and if you don’t, then there are other problems), but if you loved them, you’d want the best for them, and for them to be happy, and so you’d let them go. We’re not saying it’d be easy or fair, but hey, that’s love!
Do I love them or am I just attached?
Great question! The difference between love and infatuation is possession. True love isn’t possessive or jealous. You can be away from them without getting selfish or suspicious (even if it aches). Infatuation, on the other hand, is pure possession—you want them to be yours, and nobody else’s.
Want to learn more?
For more information about true love and what it looks like, check out these resources:
