What do I do if I have fallen back in love with my ex?
In my Maths class, is this really beautiful and brilliant girl who I sit next to and I used to go out with. We are pretty close and flirt a bit of the time, we are also both single but only recently. Can you help me out with what to do please?
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I believe people change moment by moment. The person you broke up with is not the same person now, even each day. If you can be open-minded and curious, you can start a completely new relationship with someone—even if it’s your ex. Just make sure to see your ex as a totally new person when you (hopefully) get back together!
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You can fall back in love with a person or never get over somebody, and there's nothing wrong with it. Friendship can change back to relationship. That happened in my personal life. I was dating somebody, and it didn't work out, but we kept talking, and after you talk, talk, talk, you realize that you guys just want to get back together.
I would say don't judge yourself for that feeling. If something didn't work out before and you broke up, but your feelings are still there, embrace that feeling and see if there is any potential to get back together. If not, then let go. Otherwise, it's just pain. If you and your ex have no potentiality to have a future relationship, I would say stop being friends for a little bit until you don't have any feeling or any desire anymore, because a lot of time you just have that kind of one-sided intention of, “Oh, let's see if the other person is going to be interested in me again,” but it turns out they already shut that door. Then you end up with a second-time heartbreak.
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I would say don't judge yourself for that feeling. If something didn't work out before and you broke up, but your feelings are still there, embrace that feeling and see if there is any potential to get back together. If not, then let go. Otherwise, it's just pain. If you and your ex have no potentiality to have a future relationship, I would say stop being friends for a little bit until you don't have any feeling or any desire anymore, because a lot of time you just have that kind of one-sided intention of, “Oh, let's see if the other person is going to be interested in me again,” but it turns out they already shut that door. Then you end up with a second-time heartbreak.
Consider why you broke up and if anything has changed that would make your relationship work out this time. If you've both had time to reflect on the relationship, resolve the problems that led to your breakup in the first place, ended things on good terms, and still have feelings for each other, it's possible to rekindle your romance and have a more successful relationship this time. However, if the problems that led to your breakup are unresolved or nothing has changed, it's probably not the best idea to try and get back together.
If you decide to pursue her again, make time to talk one-on-one and say something like, "I still have feelings for you, and it seems like you might like me too. Would you be interested in getting back together?" Give her time to process and respond, and really listen to what she has to say. If you two decide to give it another shot, communicate clearly about your expectations and hopes for the relationship going forward.
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If you decide to pursue her again, make time to talk one-on-one and say something like, "I still have feelings for you, and it seems like you might like me too. Would you be interested in getting back together?" Give her time to process and respond, and really listen to what she has to say. If you two decide to give it another shot, communicate clearly about your expectations and hopes for the relationship going forward.
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