Is it normal for teeth to hit when kissing
I've been going out with this guy for a while now and he's my first bf (and I'm his first gf). Sometimes when we make out his teeth hit mine. It’s kind of a weird feeling and it totally ruins the moment. Is this a normal thing? Is there some trick to not banging our teeth together? And how can I explain this to him without hurting his feelings?
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Practice makes perfect. So you're gonna want to kiss a lot to get good at kissing, and you can. A basic rule for kissing is you want to match your partner, so whatever their movements are, try to match them, like yin and yang. You don’t want to be doing anything that is physically uncomfortable. If it's uncomfortable or awkward, or if you're drooling, that's not good. Bad kisses will usually involve bumping into each other, or your lips don't lock together, they're just doing their own things. So that's not a good sign.
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It's completely normal for your teeth to hit each other when you're kissing, especially if you're deep in the passion of the moment! If it only happens a few times, a couple of little bumps and clinks against each other aren't a problem. Try to go in for a kiss slowly with a little more care. Tilt your head at a different angle so your teeth avoid each other. If your teeth touch a few times, just try to laugh it off so you can stay in the moment.
If it's happening pretty frequently and it's starting to upset you, then sit down with your boyfriend and let him know that it's bothering you. Just say something like, "I love kissing you but when our teeth bang against each other, it can be a little uncomfortable and distracting." Ask him to take it a little slower and to be more mindful. He's probably just so excited to be with you and rushing in for a kiss, but he'll be more aware of it if you bring it up.
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If it's happening pretty frequently and it's starting to upset you, then sit down with your boyfriend and let him know that it's bothering you. Just say something like, "I love kissing you but when our teeth bang against each other, it can be a little uncomfortable and distracting." Ask him to take it a little slower and to be more mindful. He's probably just so excited to be with you and rushing in for a kiss, but he'll be more aware of it if you bring it up.
It's totally normal for teeth to hit each other sometimes while you're kissing! They do take up a pretty big part of your mouth haha. I'd say it's a problem if they're repeatedly clashing against each other or if it hurts. It does sound like it's ruining the moment for you so I'd suggest talking to your boyfriend about it. Since you're both each other's firsts, I think you'll be understanding and work together to figure out how to kiss in a way that is more enjoyable for both of you. It's okay to take it slow and sensual.
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If it's still happening, just take a second to stop and chat about it. You could tell him that it hurts or feels uncomfortable when your teeth click together and that you reallly want to enjoy kissing him. Ask if you can take it a little slower and show him how you want him to kiss you. I'm sure if he really cares, he'll listen and change up what he's doing :))
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You know, when I first read your question, I was like, “That’s not a thing that happens.” Then I read all of these comments and I thought about it for a while and I was like, “Oh wait, that totally happened with me and my husband when we were first going out.” I think the first poster was right—you’re just too excited and need to reel it back a little bit. But yeah, despite the blind spot in my memory, this is totally normal.
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I agree with the first commenter. This has happened to me more than a few times. But I don’t know if going slow on its own is a complete solution. For me, I think it helps most to stop moving your head forward once your lips connect. If you’re going to French kiss your tongue can always stick out further away from the lips, but your teeth probably don’t need to be that close to one another in the first place. You can also try tilting your head a bit more to change the angle so your teeth don't bump.
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I’m not going to lie, this is adorable. What I think is happening is that you’re both so excited to make out that you’re pushing your heads together too quickly. I promise you that basically every single adult on the planet has had the “teeth clink” moment, so it’s 100% nothing to be embarrassed about. I think the best bit of advice I could give you as a seasoned smoocher is to just go slow. Take your time kissing slowly at first. You two will naturally build up to your ideal pace as a couple, but it takes a little bit of practice for the two of you to get there. But yeah, don’t feel bad about the teeth thing. I think every couple on the planet has done that at one point or another.
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Use your hands! One of the worst things you can do when you're kissing is to just sit still or keep your arms at your sides. Run your fingers through your partner's hair, hold them at the small of their back, or playfully touch their neck.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with asking for feedback. If you and your partner have a good rapport and your skin is thick enough to take a bit of feedback from them, ask them what they think you should do differently.
If you're shy, close your eyes. Focus only on the sensation of the kiss and ignore everything else going on around you. You'll have a much easier time being a good kisser if you aren't distracted by other stuff.
Reader Tips from How to Practice Kissing
If you accidentally bump noses or make a similar "mistake" during your first kiss, just laugh it off. It's okay if your kiss isn't perfect--it only matters that you and your partner enjoy it. You'll likely see the little mistakes as endearing and smile about them.
Another great way to practice kissing is to hold your pointer finger and middle finger together. Then, bend both fingers at the second and third joint to create a pair of "lips." Just tilt your fingers toward your mouth and start kissing!
If you feel comfortable, deepen the kiss by wrapping your arms around your partner.
Don't forget to brush your tongue to ensure your breath is minty fresh.
Reader Tips from A Beginner’s Guide to Mastering Kissing Technique
Don't hold your breath while you're kissing. It's actually surprisingly easy to accidentally get light headed by forgetting to breathe when you're making out with someone. Try to take small, quiet breaths in between bigger kissing sessions.
Make sure that the other person is comfortable with being kissed! If you aren't sure you have consent, ask for it.
If you need to take a "breather," slowly pull your mouth away and put your forehead against theirs.
