I've been told I'm bad at kissing. Help?
I've only kissed a handful of girls and some of them have actually told me I'm a bad kisser. I feel like this is holding me back from getting more physical. And I'm getting really in my head about it. Any advice on how to improve?
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A lot of people are bad at kissing when they start out, and that's okay. To get better at kissing, practice! Practice makes perfect. A basic rule for good kissing: match your partner. Whatever their movements are, mirror them, like yin and yang, the way they fit together nicely. You don't want to be doing anything that is physically uncomfortable or anything where you're not locked together in a comfortable way.
If it's uncomfortable or awkward, that's not good. Look at it like puzzle pieces. You want to fit together like a puzzle, so it's comfortable and there’s a lock; you just fit together. It should feel good. Fitting together is the basic rule for kissing well. Bad kisses will usually involve bumping into each other or your lips not locking together, just doing their own things. Try to avoid that.
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If it's uncomfortable or awkward, that's not good. Look at it like puzzle pieces. You want to fit together like a puzzle, so it's comfortable and there’s a lock; you just fit together. It should feel good. Fitting together is the basic rule for kissing well. Bad kisses will usually involve bumping into each other or your lips not locking together, just doing their own things. Try to avoid that.
Practice makes perfect. There’s no right or wrong way to kiss. If someone told you that you’re a bad kisser. Who made them the expert? It’s about confidence and what feels good. Get back out there!
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Please don't just stick your tongue in someone's mouth and swish it around in circles!! I felt like I was kissing a washing machine.
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Listen up these are the four things you need to remember:
Don't stick out your lips, but gently press them against hers.
Don't try tongue on the first kiss. Tongue is not good on the first kiss, unless she slips you a little tongue. ...
Keep your eyes closed while kissing. ...
Keep it short.
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Don't stick out your lips, but gently press them against hers.
Don't try tongue on the first kiss. Tongue is not good on the first kiss, unless she slips you a little tongue. ...
Keep your eyes closed while kissing. ...
Keep it short.
Everybody doesn't kiss good in the beginning; it takes time and the right person. Until we became teenagers and dated. What kind of people did we kiss anyway before that? Parents, Aunts, Grandmothers, until someone our age came along, and we could actually practice. And I don't want somebody to say like what kind of family did you come from that adults' kiss kids anyway. Most of do or should to an extend when the kids are small.
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Have the people who have told you you're a bad kisser said anything about why they think you're a bad kisser? I think there are a lot of different reasons why someone could be a bad kisser. Too much tongue. Being stiff. Being limp. Using too much force. Clashing their teeth against yours. Having bad breath. Biting someone's lip if they're not into it. Sucking their mouth really hard. Making weird noises.
Next time you're close enough to someone where you can talk openly, ask them to give you honest feedback about how you can improve your kissing. Communication is key when it comes to how to kiss because every partner has a different opinion and likes different things.
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Next time you're close enough to someone where you can talk openly, ask them to give you honest feedback about how you can improve your kissing. Communication is key when it comes to how to kiss because every partner has a different opinion and likes different things.
Me and my bf r at the point of a relationship to where we can french kiss, but both me and him never have before. How do I engage in it? Do I ask him or do I just leave it for the future? This is so confusing (´＿｀。)ﾞ
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I don't know how old you are, but you have all your life to practice kissing, just enjoy each other company, and do things together. You don't want to get too much going before you are ready and have things backfire on you either. Like a baby crying at two in the morning. It has been known to happen, and not by French kissing either so don't go there people. But don't be afraid either, just take your time at it.
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what if i'm good at kissing but i think my kisses are bad bc my gf is bad at kissing but i dont wanna tell her bc i dont wanna hurt her feelings?
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I was a bad kisser, or at least not as good as I could have been, but didn't know it. I was with one girl who changed how I kissed forever... for the better. She was great at kissing, and she never ever told me I was a bad kisser, but she guided me on how to kiss better. When I started to get out of control or do something that wasn;t pleasant, she would reign me back in and demonstrate how she wanted to be kissed. I got the message. That was many, many years ago, ever since that night, I've been told I'm an amazing kisser multiple times. So maybe try that with your gf?
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Bro I've kissed 2 guys but my first kiss actually felt really nasty and harsh 😣😣😣
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Hold her by her waist .. ask her if she is ok.. make an eye contact... Slowly and gently kiss
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I honestly think it depends on wut type of kiss it is. if u feel uncomfortable going further with kissing try kissing a doll or try to maybe try not be to intense with a kiss. start out slow with a kiss. another thing i would personally would making a circle with your index finger and thumb and put a finger in the circle and kiss that while moving ur finger in your mouth. if your hands are slobery bring it down a noche.
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Evryone can’t be good at everything it’s just learning just think like you should look it up it’s okay to say that you need help because you’re just gonna have to try and se how it gose
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Depends on what about your kiss is "bad"
- Too forceful, too fast, or hitting teeth against each other? Slow it down and take your time. Be gentle
- Breath stinks? Brush your teeth, use mouthwash, chew gum, or eat a mint beforehand
- Lips too stiff? Relax your lips
- Too much saliva? Don't open your mouth as wide and use less tongue
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- Too forceful, too fast, or hitting teeth against each other? Slow it down and take your time. Be gentle
- Breath stinks? Brush your teeth, use mouthwash, chew gum, or eat a mint beforehand
- Lips too stiff? Relax your lips
- Too much saliva? Don't open your mouth as wide and use less tongue
Kissing should be romantic. I think some people just get a little out of hand sometimes and get to rough.
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Timing is everything! Technique is what puts you in your head and it's good that you recognize the folly in there. Emu's 4 things to to know is all the technique you'll need for starters, (that and avoiding the tonsil grabbing washing machine repair attempt).
Timing and assumption: Please don't take for granted that there will be kissing going on just because you're on a date. Kissing is a very, VERY personal thing and In my humble opinion, the skills issue here is communication skills, especially listening skills, specifically non-verbal cues. ”Actions speak louder than words" is not a cliche, it is scientifically proven fact and just plain old common sense. Be open, be aware and pay attention to the vibe of the moments. Take a chance and steal a kiss in the moment, that moment of connection if y'all are lucky enough to have it. You'll know. Kinda like a good waiter pours the first glass from a freshly opened bottle of wine. Commit fully, do it gracefully from the heart and if a little spills it won't matter because if there's a connection, there's a second glass to pour!
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Timing and assumption: Please don't take for granted that there will be kissing going on just because you're on a date. Kissing is a very, VERY personal thing and In my humble opinion, the skills issue here is communication skills, especially listening skills, specifically non-verbal cues. ”Actions speak louder than words" is not a cliche, it is scientifically proven fact and just plain old common sense. Be open, be aware and pay attention to the vibe of the moments. Take a chance and steal a kiss in the moment, that moment of connection if y'all are lucky enough to have it. You'll know. Kinda like a good waiter pours the first glass from a freshly opened bottle of wine. Commit fully, do it gracefully from the heart and if a little spills it won't matter because if there's a connection, there's a second glass to pour!
My crush doesn’t really like me so I can’t really kiss her? So how do I do that?
Voted: 🫦 Achieving just the right lip pressure
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Here is some advice on how to improve your kissing and build confidence, which involves being more present, paying attention to your partner, and focusing on hygiene.
The essentials: Hygiene and awareness
Keep your breath fresh. This is a fundamental step. Always be prepared with mints or gum, especially if you're out to dinner or having drinks. Strong odors from things like coffee or garlic can be a major turn-off.
Pay attention to your lips. Soft, smooth lips are more pleasant to kiss than dry, chapped ones. Use Chapstick or a moisturizing balm regularly.
Focus on your partner. Remember that kissing is a two-way interaction, not a performance. Focus on your partner and how they are responding to you. This will help you get out of your own head and be more present in the moment.
Technique for a better kiss
Start slow and build up. A common mistake is going in too fast or too aggressively. Begin with a soft, closed-mouth kiss and then gradually increase the intensity if your partner responds positively.
Use gentle tongue movements. If you incorporate tongue, less is often more. Avoid shoving your tongue deep into your partner's mouth or using a forceful, swirling motion. Instead, use soft, playful movements to mirror what your partner is doing.
Add variety. Don't use the same approach every time. Mix in different techniques, such as:
Varying the pace from slow and languid to quick and passionate.
Kissing other areas like the neck, earlobes, or jawline.
Incorporating a light, gentle nibble on your partner's lip.
Use your hands. Don't let your hands hang awkwardly at your sides. Guide them to your partner's face, neck, hair, or waist to add intimacy and keep the moment engaging.
Building confidence and communication
View kissing as a conversation. Every person has different preferences, and a kiss is a way of "communicating" what you and your partner enjoy. By paying attention to their body language and responding in kind, you show that you are in tune with their desires.
Consider asking for feedback. While it may feel awkward, clear communication can help improve intimacy. Choose a low-pressure, non-sexual moment to talk. For instance, you could say something like, "I really enjoy kissing you. Is there anything you particularly like?"
Practice mindfulness. Overthinking is a common source of anxiety. Meditation or mindfulness exercises can train your mind to stay present and focused, which will help you relax and be more spontaneous when you are in the moment with someone.
Remember that experience builds skill. The fact that you've been told you're a "bad" kisser is an opportunity to learn, not a definitive verdict. With practice and attention, your kissing skills will improve. Every intimate experience is a chance to learn more about a partner and yourself.
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The essentials: Hygiene and awareness
Keep your breath fresh. This is a fundamental step. Always be prepared with mints or gum, especially if you're out to dinner or having drinks. Strong odors from things like coffee or garlic can be a major turn-off.
Pay attention to your lips. Soft, smooth lips are more pleasant to kiss than dry, chapped ones. Use Chapstick or a moisturizing balm regularly.
Focus on your partner. Remember that kissing is a two-way interaction, not a performance. Focus on your partner and how they are responding to you. This will help you get out of your own head and be more present in the moment.
Technique for a better kiss
Start slow and build up. A common mistake is going in too fast or too aggressively. Begin with a soft, closed-mouth kiss and then gradually increase the intensity if your partner responds positively.
Use gentle tongue movements. If you incorporate tongue, less is often more. Avoid shoving your tongue deep into your partner's mouth or using a forceful, swirling motion. Instead, use soft, playful movements to mirror what your partner is doing.
Add variety. Don't use the same approach every time. Mix in different techniques, such as:
Varying the pace from slow and languid to quick and passionate.
Kissing other areas like the neck, earlobes, or jawline.
Incorporating a light, gentle nibble on your partner's lip.
Use your hands. Don't let your hands hang awkwardly at your sides. Guide them to your partner's face, neck, hair, or waist to add intimacy and keep the moment engaging.
Building confidence and communication
View kissing as a conversation. Every person has different preferences, and a kiss is a way of "communicating" what you and your partner enjoy. By paying attention to their body language and responding in kind, you show that you are in tune with their desires.
Consider asking for feedback. While it may feel awkward, clear communication can help improve intimacy. Choose a low-pressure, non-sexual moment to talk. For instance, you could say something like, "I really enjoy kissing you. Is there anything you particularly like?"
Practice mindfulness. Overthinking is a common source of anxiety. Meditation or mindfulness exercises can train your mind to stay present and focused, which will help you relax and be more spontaneous when you are in the moment with someone.
Remember that experience builds skill. The fact that you've been told you're a "bad" kisser is an opportunity to learn, not a definitive verdict. With practice and attention, your kissing skills will improve. Every intimate experience is a chance to learn more about a partner and yourself.
How do i feel a kiss, I dont have anyone else but me and it’s complicated to find a woman especially if your in highschool
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Reader Tips from How to Deal With a Bad Kisser
Don't be mean. Your partner probably knows they aren't the world's greatest kisser, but even if they don't, telling them how awful they are isn't going to solve anything. Instead, give them gentle directions on what you like. They'll improve over time.
Tell your partner that you're more into being in charge when it comes to makeout sessions. Be a little bossy. Your partner will like it and it'll make it a lot easier to navigate their not-so-great kissing skills.
Instead of going for full-blown French kissing sessions, switch to shorter, quicker kisses that don't involve as much tongue. It's a lot harder for a bad kisser to mess up kissing if the smooches are shorter.
Reader Tips from How to Practice Kissing
If you accidentally bump noses or make a similar "mistake" during your first kiss, just laugh it off. It's okay if your kiss isn't perfect--it only matters that you and your partner enjoy it. You'll likely see the little mistakes as endearing and smile about them.
Another great way to practice kissing is to hold your pointer finger and middle finger together. Then, bend both fingers at the second and third joint to create a pair of "lips." Just tilt your fingers toward your mouth and start kissing!
If you feel comfortable, deepen the kiss by wrapping your arms around your partner.
Don't forget to brush your tongue to ensure your breath is minty fresh.
Reader Tips from How to Improve Your Kissing
Use your hands! One of the worst things you can do when you're kissing is to just sit still or keep your arms at your sides. Run your fingers through your partner's hair, hold them at the small of their back, or playfully touch their neck.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with asking for feedback. If you and your partner have a good rapport and your skin is thick enough to take a bit of feedback from them, ask them what they think you should do differently.
If you're shy, close your eyes. Focus only on the sensation of the kiss and ignore everything else going on around you. You'll have a much easier time being a good kisser if you aren't distracted by other stuff.
