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MIRNA SUTHERLAN
MIRNA SUTHERLAN
07/17/25 4:44pm
I have a boyfriend and I don't know how he's going to react when he finds out I'm a lesbian. I need help, please.
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NeptuneCrystalz!!
NeptuneCrystalz!!
08/04/25 5:11am
Take some time to think about how your boyfriend will react when you tell him the news, if it scares you then maybe you should spend a little less time with him so you can feel better, I'm sorry you're going through this, but have a good day or night!
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MIRNA SUTHERLAN
MIRNA SUTHERLAN
09/02/25 1:15am
ha ok thanks for your advice friend
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Jayaurora
Jayaurora
07/18/25 1:12am
Well, this sounds like a dilemma, but worry not! If anything, come clean about it. He should support your choice, as heartbreaking as it is that the relationship you have now might end since you're open to seeing other people, specifically, this girl that's driving you crazy. Maybe write out the different qualities of the girl that makes you crazy. Is it infatuation, obsession, or a crush? Is she someone who's on your mind constantly? And as for your boyfriend, is he someone that is the understanding type? Does he take news harshly? Does he support LGBTQ+? Either way, he shouldn't slander your decision! Good luck!
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MIRNA SUTHERLAN
MIRNA SUTHERLAN
07/19/25 4:37pm
Thank you, my friend, for your example. I did it as you told me and it didn't work. The two of them don't want to see me anymore and I'm very lonely right now. I feel very sad.
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Jayaurora
Jayaurora
07/23/25 12:13am
Sorry for the long time responding, and I am sorry to hear that. Take care, and be sure not to give up. After all, everyone we met is a lesson learned!
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MIRNA SUTHERLAN
MIRNA SUTHERLAN
07/23/25 1:53am
Thank you, my friend, for your example. I did it as you told me and it didn't work. The two of them don't want to see me anymore and I'm very lonely right now. I feel very sad.
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