15 Signs That a Girl Likes You Over Text (With Expert Insights)

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Figuring out whether a girl is into you or not can feel exciting, confusing, and nerve-wracking all at once, especially if it is someone you really like. If you’ve mustered up the courage to ask for her number and you’ve started texting up a storm, you can find clues as to how she really feels about you in her messages. Keep reading to decipher her texts, and by extension, her feelings towards you, with important insights from dating coaches and matchmakers.

How to Tell if She Likes You Over Text

According to dating coach Imad Jbara, you can tell a girl likes you via text if she compliments you, asks you questions, and shares details about her life. She might respond quickly, use lots of emojis, and send you selfies or photos of what she's doing. If all else fails, ask her directly how she feels about you.

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Signs That a Girl Likes You While Texting

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  1. Step 1 She already knows things about you.
    If a girl is interested in you, chances are she has already done some homework. Whether it’s talking to friends or following up on your social media accounts, she may drop hints that she knows a tidbit or two about your hobbies and interests. This is often a good sign that she likes you.[1]
    • For example, if she asks you about your photos from a recent ski trip you posted about online, you can guess that she may have feelings for you.}}
    • This could also be a sign that she is interested in you as a friend and wants to get to know you better, so don’t immediately assume romantic interest.

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    She texts you back immediately. A girl who likes you will be excited to talk to you, meaning she won’t wait a few hours to text you back for no real reason. Certified professional matchmaker Shana Tibi confirms that “waiting around and playing games” is not the move, as this tactic can lead to mixed signals. She adds that “responding to texts in a timely manner is also a form of flirting—to show the other person that you really care about them.”[2]
    • So if this girl is texting you back promptly all day, machine gun style— she’s probably got the hots for you.
    • On the other hand, Jbara notes that “long delays” in reply suggest she’s not interested in you romantically.[3]
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  3. Step 3 She tries to build up connection and intimacy.
    When someone likes you, they will often try to establish an emotional bond with you through messages that create closeness. Common things to look for are if she chooses a nickname that she uses when texting with you.[4] She may also try to connect with you by reaching out to talk with you about an experience or interest that the two of you share.[5]
    • Does she text you to reminisce about a funny moment at school or maybe to commiserate with you about a particularly troublesome assignment or test you both have coming up? These may be signs she’s trying to connect with you on an emotional level.[6]
    • Again, having a connection like this can also be a sign she is interested in friendship.
    • If she keeps things surface-level and never dives deeper, that’s likely a reflection of how far she wants to take the relationship and is probably not into you.
  4. Step 4 She compliments you.
    Things like compliments and expressions of gratitude send a clear message that the person on the other end of your text conversation thinks highly of you.[7] These messages can also give you hints about what it is she likes or finds particularly attractive about you. Jbara recommends that you compliment her back and “reciprocate the tease.”[8]
    • Does she compliment your looks? Your clothes? Is she thanking you for doing something nice for her that day? You can learn a lot about what a girl thinks of you by paying attention to what she appreciates about you.
    • Compliments don’t have to be straightforward. If a girl texts you to share happy news with you, she’s letting you know that she thinks highly of you.[9]
    • If a girl is texting you to share something that made her think of you, that’s a positive sign that you’re on her mind.[10]
    • On the contrary, if she’s never said a single kind word about your looks, personality, or anything else— she’s not into you.
  5. Step 5 She asks questions about you.
    Asking questions is an important part of getting to know someone. If she’s asking you to elaborate on things you say and has follow-up questions for your stories and anecdotes, this not only shows that she’s a great conversationalist, but that she’s interested in you. Jbara explains that her asking about your previous relationships and significant others is a subtle sign that she’s interested in you romantically.[11]
    • Answer her questions thoughtfully and don’t forget to keep the conversation going by asking her things, too.[12]
    • This is also a good way to become better friends with someone, in general.
    • Asking little to no questions about someone signifies a lack of interest.
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    She shares personal details about her life. Text messages are a good, relatively low-risk way for two people to get to know each other a little better. If a girl is texting you details about her interests, her likes, and dislikes, pay attention, as she may be trying to find out if the two of you have important things in common. It’s also a promising indicator that she likes you and trusts you because she wouldn’t be wasting her time or words otherwise.
    • If she gives vague, short, uninterested answers, she may not be interested in forming a serious emotional connection.
    • According to dating coach John Keegan, “If she's not opening up emotionally, talking about her life, sharing her emotions, or being curious about you and your childhood and who you are,” then she probably doesn’t like you like you.[13]
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    She expresses concern for you. Not only does she care about what’s going on in your life, but she also expresses her concern and tries to be there for you when you need it. Whether it’s a big exam you have to study for or a minor injury you’re recovering from, she’ll ask you what she can do and try to support you every step of the way. Research shows that empathy and compassion are important qualities in a relationship, as they strengthen bonds and can help us understand each other’s perspectives better.[14]
    • If you mention something you’re struggling with and she doesn’t follow it up with questions or words of encouragement— she’s probably not The One.
  8. Step 8 She’s consistent and engaged.
    If a person is into you, they’ll most likely want to share their thoughts and perspective with you and should be eager to know more about you. If the girl you are texting, however, repeatedly gives you short responses without much content or details about her life, she may simply not be interested.[15]
    • If you have a text exchange that leaves you feeling confused, take a break. Try texting her again the next day to see if her attitude has changed. If her texts remain cool and distant, or she stops responding altogether, you should move on.
    • Don’t read too much into her response time to your texts. She may be busy or just may not have her phone in front of her. Generally, the quality of her response matters more than its timeliness.
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    She asks for your advice. Asking you for advice means she trusts you and values your opinion, which should give you a huge vote of confidence as far as the potential for the relationship. Romance is often most successful when built upon the foundation of friendship, and having someone who feels comfortable bouncing ideas off of you is a promising sign. Asking for your advice could also be her way of keeping the conversation going, which is another dead giveaway that texting you is her happy place.[16]
    • If you notice her making questionable choices without giving them much thought or asking you for advice, she might be in a very single, independent state of mind and not looking for anything more.
  10. Step 10 She sends you lots of emojis.
    When someone is sending you a string of heart-themed emojis, this is a good indicator that they are interested in you. The more emojis, the better. By sending you these fun emoticons, she’s is trying to convey to you that she’s clever, funny, and whimsical, likely in an effort to communicate her romantic interest and secure yours in return![17]
    • Certain emojis, like the kissy face or lips, are often used to show interest in something more than just friendship.
    • Bland texts with zero emojis convey zero excitement, and usually point to a platonic relationship over a romantic one.
  11. Step 11 She shares memes with you.
    If you’ve got a girl texting you memes, she’s likely trying to get your attention and build a connection with you. By sharing memes, which are generally meant to elicit a laugh, she may be trying to create an inside joke or play off something you both already find humorous.[18] Humor is a great way to reach out and connect with someone, and she may be trying to determine if you share the same sense of what is funny.[19]
    • For some people, sharing memes is considered the 6th love language. So, if she makes no effort to bond with you over laughter, she may not view you as a love match.[20]
  12. Step 12 She messages you from morning to night.
    If a girl is texting you late at night or first thing in the morning, she’s letting you know that you’re the last thing on her mind before she falls asleep and the first person she thinks about when she wakes up. She also may be trying to make sure she’s on your mind just as often.[21]
    • Regular “good morning” and “good night” texts strongly suggest that someone likes you.[22]
    • On the other hand, Jbara warns that “one-word answers” usually signify that she’s not into you.[23]
  13. Step 13 She sends you selfies and pictures.
    Photos of herself or pictures of what she’s doing throughout the day can mean she’s trying to give you a peek into her world. She’s trying to establish your interest in her life by sharing what she’s doing and seeing. She may even ask for your input or advice about things she shows you.[24]
    • Photos of her day are a way for someone to show that they are thinking of you and that they want you to be involved in their life.
    • If she doesn’t send you any photos of herself, it could mean that she’s trying to keep it friendly instead of romantic.
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    She shares her plans for the future with you. Future planning is one of the clearest indicators of romantic interest. If she’s texting up a storm about all the different cuisines she wants to try with you or all the cities she wants to visit with you, that means you’re not going anywhere in her mind. She wants to keep you around because she likes you and is inching closer and closer to saying so.
    • Keegan agrees that she would also be curious about “your future vision for your life,” explaining that a woman who wants to be in a relationship with a guy would want to know where he’s going in life.[25]
    • Keegan continues, “If she's not curious about you, and who you are, where you come from, where you're going, then that's a big red flag,” asserting that it likely means that “she just wants to know you on a superficial level.”[26]
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    She often hints at hanging out in person. Maybe she keeps mentioning the new coffee shop she’d like to try out, but doesn’t want to go alone. Or maybe she offers to help you with your presentation for debate class… IRL. Trying to take the conversation from texting to in-person likely means that she enjoys your company and wants more of it— in the flesh. She may not be 100% comfortable asking you out directly, but she might skirt around it in hopes that you'll be the brave one and bring it up.
    • Tibi encourages you to say something like, “Hey, I think it's time that we meet up in person. What's a good weekend for you?”[27]
    • If she never says anything about meeting in person and avoids the subject when you bring it up, she probably just wants to be pen pals and nothing more.
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How You Can Respond

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  1. Step 1 Subtly suggest doing something together.
    Casually proposing that the two of you do something together can remove some of the anxiety and worry you may feel about asking her outright about her feelings for you. For example, you can ask her what she is doing tonight or this weekend. If her plans are open or not fixed, you can share what you would like to do and ask her if she wants to go along with you. Additionally, Jbara suggests that you inject a little humor into the interaction by saying something like: “Oh my God, are you flirting with me?” And then ask them out![28]
    • For example, you can ask: What are you doing this weekend?” If she says “Nothing” or “I was thinking of seeing a movie,” then you can say “I was planning on going to the movies, want to go together?”
    • If she says she’s busy, it could mean she’s not interested but it could also mean she’s actually just busy. Ask her if there are any other days that she would be free to do something and see what she says.[29]
  2. Step 2 Follow her lead when it comes to hanging out.
    If a girl is texting you about a restaurant she really wants to try, a test she is worried about, a movie she would like to see, or some school event like a party or dance, she may want you to ask her about it. Follow-up on her comments with a subtle invitation to do the things she is interested in, with you.[30]
    • For example, if she has been talking about trying a new pizza place nearby, tell her you have also been wanting to try it and suggest that you go together.
    • If there is a school event coming up that she has been texting you about, tell her you have been looking forward to it and see if she wants to go with you.
    • Maybe she’s been texting with you about an upcoming exam in a class you both share. This is a great opportunity for you to suggest getting together to study for it.
  3. Step 3 Ask her point-blank if she’s into you.
    If all else fails and you still aren’t sure how a girl feels about you, you can always just ask her directly. If she is really into you, it’s unlikely she will say “no” if you ask her about it. Depending on how bold or certain of yourself you are feeling, you can let her know you like her first, and then ask her if she feels the same. Jbara shares that “a lot of people are afraid to be themselves, and they actually miss out on the opportunity to let someone know that you’re interested.” He adds that “a lot of miscommunication is in the conversation,” which is why asking her directly might be the best move.[31]
    • By making the first move, you are taking the pressure off, which she might appreciate, especially if she is shy.[32]
    • Be prepared for her to say she’s not interested. Humans are complicated and even if she has sent you all the right signs, it’s possible that she could still say she’s not that into you.[33]
    • Regardless of her response, by being direct you will have a clear understanding of where things stand between the two of you.
  4. Step 4 Believe her if she says she’s not interested in you.
    While it’s possible that a girl may be confused about her feelings or may be unwilling to go beyond some flirtatious texting with you, no means no. Keegan says that “even though she may be sending other kinds of fun, playful, flirty signals, you have to take her at her word that she doesn't want to be [with you]” and move on.[34]
    • According to Jbara, most people “know within the first 10 seconds of meeting somebody what category they fall into,” whether it’s a hook-up, friends with benefits, or a serious relationship.[35]
    • Jbara continues, “Whether someone says yes or they ignore you— those are both answers.”[36] Don’t dwell on her or the situation, and keep it moving!
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    If she likes you and you don’t feel the same way, don’t lead her on. Just like you want this girl to be honest with you, grant her the same level of honesty in return. If you’ve confirmed that she likes you, and you don’t like her, don’t keep texting and breadcrumbing her, as this gives her false hope. Instead, kindly and directly let her know that you just aren’t interested. Tibi says, “Always be honest. Use the compliment sandwich technique.” She explains that you could say something like, “Hey, I really appreciate that. At this point, I don't feel the same way, but I genuinely appreciate your honesty.”[37] Other options include:
    • "I'm very flattered, but I just don't feel that spark with you, and you deserve someone who does.”
    • "I'm sorry, but I only see us as friends.”
    • “I’m enjoying being single right now, but I hope you find what you’re looking for!”
    • “I don’t think we have a romantic connection, but I’d love to keep chatting as friends.”
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Final Takeaways

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  1. Asking her directly is the best way to know for sure if she's into you. While many of these flirty texting behaviors definitely suggest that the girl in question has feelings for you, you’re still making an assumption. If you like her, muster up the courage to ask her directly if she feels the same. If she does— great! Ask her out on a proper date immediately. If she says no, take her word at face value and quit texting and pursuing her.
    • Rejection is tough, but pouring yourself into new hobbies and spending time with loved ones can help you heal and move on.
    • If you don’t like her and you know she likes you, let her down nicely but firmly. Don’t ignore her and hope she gets the hint— you wouldn’t want someone to do that to you.

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How do you know if someone likes you? There’s this girl at school I like, and I think she likes me, but I can’t really tell. I don’t want to ask her to be my girlfriend if she’s just going to say no. Do I ask her if she likes me over text? Or do I just look for big signs?
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One of the telltale signs that a girl likes you is that she’s paying a lot of attention to you. Sometimes that attention isn't necessarily what seems to be positive. A lot of girls like to tease, joke around, or make fun of guys they like when they flirt. Any kind of attention is a good thing.

Another big sign is if she asks you to hang out with her and her friends. Those are all good signs that someone obviously likes you as a person and it could turn into something more. Also, if she likes you, she’ll be more likely to compliment your clothes or hair style. She may even seek you out for advice or ask for help with her homework just as an excuse to talk to you.
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I realized that a girl liked me when she took an interest in the things I was interested in. It's normal for someone to ask you what your hobbies are and what you like reading/watching and stuff, but she went a step further and actually did those things too. Like when I told her I was reading a certain book, she went and read it so she could talk to me about it. When she found out I was in a club she also joined that club.
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To tell if a girl likes you over text, see if she ever texts you about her day or complains to you about things going on in her life, which could be a sign that she's trying to connect with you. Also, notice if she ever compliments you over text, which is definitely a sign that she could be interested. You can also keep an eye out for non-verbal cues that she's into you, like using lots of emojis, sharing memes, or sending you pictures. For advice on how to directly ask a girl you're texting if she likes you, scroll down!

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