How to Stop Simping in 24 Hours

Co-authored by John Keegan and Eric McClure

Last Updated: March 16, 2024 Fact Checked

Want to stop simping as soon as possible? Being a simp is all about your attitude towards the world. While you may not be able to change that overnight, it’s easy to get started right now. In this article, we’ll walk you through everything you need to know about changing your behavior for the better so that you can land the girl of your dreams, make friends, and enjoy all that life has to offer. Read on to learn more!

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Focus on improving yourself.

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It’ll be easier to stop simping if you put your energy into you. Instead of focusing on the needs of others, choose to make yourself better starting now. If you start dedicating your time and effort into being a better version of yourself, you won’t feel the need to chase after anyone—the girls will come to you!^{[1]
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- In a 24-hour window, you might exercise, set goals for yourself, clean your room, or finish that assignment you’ve been putting off.
- Every day, do at least one thing to improve yourself.

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Treat men and women the same.

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People dislike simps because they put women on a pedestal. Make a vow to stop treating women and men differently. You may think that it’s scoring you points with the ladies, but most women will see through the act. If you want to stop simping, treating men and women the same way is key to changing your behavior.^{[2]
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- This is one thing you could start practicing in 24 hours! Give it a shot by calling a girl you know and just trying to have a conversation with her without giving her special treatment.

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Stop trying to find a girlfriend.

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You’re more likely to find love if you stop looking for it everywhere. Ever hear the phrase, “A watched pot never boils?” You’re going to be more likely to simp if you make finding a girlfriend your sole mission. On top of that, a lot of girls tend to be attracted to guys who don’t try too hard.^{[3]
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- By putting your desire to land a girl on the backburner, you’ll stop simping while getting closer to your goal!
- Enjoy your time with your friends and family. Those relationships will keep you from feeling like you need to go get a girlfriend at this exact moment.

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Don’t drop everything at a moment’s notice.

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A simp will stop whatever they’re doing at the drop of a hat to help others. If you make plans, stick to them. If someone asks for a favor and you’re busy, tell them you can’t help. This will help you get into the habit of putting yourself first, which is a key component of not simping.^{[4]
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Be as laid back as possible.

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Simps tend to be uptight and attentive, so flip the script! Chill, man! Being laid back and adopting a more free-flowing attitude will keep the simp accusations away. If you find yourself getting anxious about coming off a certain way, just take a deep breath and relax. Play it cool and you’ll stop simping in no time.^{[5]
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- One way to start doing this is to try saying yes to every invitation and suggestion. This will give people the impression that you’re super laid back.

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Stop looking for validation and reassurance.

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Wanting other people to like you can make you come off as a simp. If you like the way a shirt looks, wear it. If you love that cheesy 90s song that none of your friends like, pump up the volume with pride. Stop making decisions based on what you think other people find cool and just be yourself. On top of that, it’s super rewarding and freeing to forget about the opinions of others.^{[6]
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- This will also help you find the girl of your dreams. The woman out there who is authentically attracted to you for you is going to be a much better partner than someone who only knows some version of you.

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Let it go if a girl isn’t interested.

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Simps are notorious for not taking “no” for an answer. If you flirt with a girl, ask her out, or throw her a compliment and she isn’t receptive, just move on. There’s nothing wrong with shooting your shot, but chasing a woman who isn’t interested in you is certifiable simp behavior. Respect her wishes and let it go.^{[7]
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- Under no condition should you continue pursuing a girl if she has explicitly told you to stop.

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Be independent and stay busy.

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Doing things on your own will help you be the best version of you. Go to a movie by yourself and have fun. Don’t wait around for your friends to join you when you have something you want to do. Taking care of yourself is a great life skill, but it’s also a big part of not overdoing it when it comes to pleasing other people.^{[8]
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- Simps tend to seek out attention from other people—especially women. It makes them feel wanted. Stop looking to other people for validation and learn how to be happy on your own.

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Stand up for yourself.

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If someone tries to take advantage of you, call them out. Some people will try to take advantage of people they perceive to be simps because they’re known for giving gifts and doing favors. If someone tries to get you to do something for them with nothing in return, tell them to beat it. Standing up for yourself will keep others from seeing you as a simp.^{[9]
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- The same goes for bullies. If someone tries bullying you, ignore them, laugh it off, and tell them to stop being such a jerk.

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Be yourself.

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Trying to be something you’re not is classic simp behavior. Don’t put on a charade. You are perfect just the way you are, and you’re going to be a lot happier in the long run if you don’t try to play yourself up as someone else. Accepting yourself is step one to putting an end to any simp-like behavior.^{[10]
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- This is the best way to find your soulmate. If you don’t put on an act, you’ll be able to find someone who likes you for you.

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Respect the women in your life.

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Some people mistakenly think simping is when you’re nice to girls. The thing is, a simp doesn’t respect women—they just pretend to respect women in order to get what they want. Be kind to the women in your life and don’t put anyone down. Try to be an empathetic, open, and kind person. Not only will you be happier, but you’ll be more likely to find a partner, too.^{[11]
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- A lot of people (especially rude guys) will call people who are friendly and reasonable a simp. If someone in your life is leveling this criticism at you, laugh it off and tell them to get a life.
- So long as you’re making a conscious decision to treat people with kindness and you aren’t manipulating anyone by being artificially nice, you aren’t a simp.^{[12]
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