This quiz told me to break up. What do you think?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. I thought he was the perfect guy for me but this quiz told me to break up. I thought about it more and realized I'm often the only one putting effort into planning dates and when I tell him about my feelings he's really dismissive. Should I break up with him?
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It sounds like your intuition led you to take the quiz to begin with. Instead of focusing on what the quiz says, maybe take some time and space to honor your own internal hunches…. Maybe it leads you to having a conversations about your needs or fears.
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Talking sounds great but sometimes people need more of a wake up call than that. This happened to me too so I just stopped planning dates and when my bf realized we weren't doing anything unless I initiated, he finally understood why I was upset with him. Then he apologized and changed his behavior and we're going strong!
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I did this and he just got comfortable… instead of going out with his friends he’d stay home and play WoW… he’s happy so it’s hard for him to understand why I’m not. Sadly to him it’s a privilege for him to stay home with me, and “give me all his time.”
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If you know he’s not meeting your needs and if he’s not willing to change to meet them, then you might need to reconsider. You deserve to get what makes you happy even if the other person is content. There’s room for everyone to have their needs met
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I think you should stop initiating everything and let him take the lead role as a man. Initiate things like his birthday planning and special events(like just mention them to him) If he doesn’t notice the absence of your presence due to his lack of being proactive, then you really should consider whether you can live with this long term or want to be with a man that leads in this type of situation.
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If things are going well outside of him not putting equal effort into dates and being dismissive about your feelings, you could try talking to him about things first. And then if he doesn't change then you could break up with him
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My boyfriend got into an argument with my best friend at the start of the relationship and she never forgave him I tried to get them to work things out but they didn’t want to now me and him are going through a rough patch and she is demanding I break up with him while I admit things aren’t great and she is valid in her feelings and I have always valued her opinion I feel like our relationship is still doing okay and we want try to fix things she is making me feel terrible for not leaving like I’ve betrayed her
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I feel this one, I just decided to trust my gut because I know what’s best for me.
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I am so sorry you are being put into that position by either one of them. Your best friend is supposed to be a friend that you can vent and share and yes take advice from but it is your choice to take it or not! Always take note though because they may see things you can’t. They may just not know how to communicate what they’re feeling!! All you want is that the person you are with and your best friend can be friends also. So now let me say this. You really need to take a long real look into both of those relationships!!! Ask yourself questions like… 1. What was the argument they had so early on? That would be my first red flag?? To have an argument that separated them like that so early there is something wrong with that!!! They may not really like each other but there is more going on there than they are telling you! Sorry but I am the one that takes issues like that to a very different perspective level.. because I have seen it over and over!! They are to emotional charged about each other!! Unless your partner has abused you and your best friend is just trying to keep you safe, they are not the ones in love with your partner you are! They don’t have to like them but as long as your partner is taking care of you and treating you like the Queen you are then your best friend needs to be supportive!! It’s not there choice! . I am truly sorry your having to go through this really !! I have been there, and it’s not easy.. I know you will find what is right for you!! I hope you get both relationships at the same time!
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Well, if he makes u feel good, good. Bad, bad. You choose your future. Make it count. Think, do you want him for the rest of ur life??
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I thought he was the perfect guy always giving me attention and prioritising me i wasn't sure about him I didn't knew if I was ready for a relationship but then when I saw him putting so much effort i thought maybe he is the one . But now things have changed he is okay without talking to me and I am the one who is waiting for him . Whenever I tell him what's bothering me he acts like I am arguing and pleads me to stop it's like I am torturing him . He doesn't understand the boundary I had setup and often break it when I confront he gets angry starts getting emotional and hangs up Stops seeing my texts. I need to talk to someone when I am low I need to tell how I feel it gets really difficult for me to manage my emotions alone I have told him but yet he does the same m at the end of the day I call him back to back until I get tired and then several hours later when I am okay he calls me back and i forgive him with hope that he will eventually realise where he is wrong but it's like a cycle now it keeps on happening the same thing back to back. He says he loves me he does for me a lot of things but that's not enough.i want him to understand . What should I do ?
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omg!!, I'm so with you in this one, like how can they even do this to us for hours? :(
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I mainly took this test because I love my boyfriend but I’m not sure if I love him in a sexual way, he’s really sweet and cares but I’ve been contemplating my sexuality every time I get into a relationship with a guy, I think I’m a lesbian but I’m not sure honestly. What do you think?
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If you realize that you might like girls, then a lot of people automatically think that they are les. there are many other labels to explore. is there anyone you have in mind? go for it then! actually, the first person i ever dated was a girl lol
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Went through a similar thing- I liked this boy for 2 years… he was a good friend at school and always made me laugh. I asked him out and he said no and avoided me for 6 months, and 2 years later we started dating. I love him but I don’t think he will ever feel that away about me, and I’ve been trying to talk to him but he’s angry at me and I don’t know why and I’m so tired,
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Oh girl (or boy) I’m so sorry, he should never be angry at you and not explain, you deserve more, and at minimum some real communication
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It depends maybe he feels that you enjoy doing it or is to nervous to ask for permission to plan the date or he just doesn't really feel that he has time for dates and only accepts the ones you plan
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I feel happy with him but I'm not sure if we should be together or not we have been dating for 3 days
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