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I have a crush on my best friends younger brother. What do I do?

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03/24/25 5:08pm
So I have a crush on this guy, who is four months younger than me, but is also my best friends brother. I told her that I liked him, and she's taking it surprisingly well, but always says she's gonna tell him. I feel like I should tell him before she does, but I'm not sure. Should I tell him, or should I let her? Should I stay away, or make a move? He's giving mixed signals, so he might like me, but I'm not sure. What do I do?
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Erika Kaplan
Erika Kaplan
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03/24/25 5:19pm
When we're dealing with friends’ siblings, I think it's very much meeting someone where they are while still kind of keeping to your authentic self. So, finding ways to kind of connect and relate to who they are and what their interests are to subtly prove to them that you two are on the same page.

Allow yourself to be a little bit vulnerable in front of the person that you're speaking to. Not fun and jokes all the time but actually trying to kind of be vulnerable and confide in that person just a little bit without oversharing. What you need to be careful about is veering too far from what's important to you. So, don't change who you are and your identity based on who this person is.
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03/24/25 5:10pm
The best thing to do is be direct and let him hear how you're feeling in your own words. If you let your best friend tell her brother, she may say something that isn't fully true, and it could cause some miscommunication right away. It's okay that you're nervous; it's a completely normal feeling! Find a private time where you can chat with him and just test the waters a little bit. Try flirting or asking if he wants to hang out some time to see if he's interested.

Also, keep in mind what could happen to your friendship if you start dating her brother. She might feel like you're spending more time with him and there's a chance she could get jealous, but she sounds like she's supportive. You may want to think about what happens if things don't go well though. If you break up, think about how that affects hanging out with your best friend afterward. If you think that it might get too awkward, then maybe it's better to leave the relationship alone.
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