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What do you if you're gay/lesbian and in a homophobic environment?

Daemoplatypus
Daemoplatypus
07/07/25 4:55pm
My family (even my extended family) are homophobic and the here is problem I'm lesbian. I haven't come out to them but dropped somewhat subtle hints. My dad is pretty homophobic and my mom would disapprove of me having a crush on anyone, let alone a girl. Generally everyone in my family would disgusted/confused/homophobic if I ever came out. On top of that, the girl I have a crush on is my best friend. She has shown signs of liking me back. Most of my friends know I have a crush on her, but I just haven't officially come out to them (they already kind of know). How am I supposed to come out to my family?
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Hunter McCloud
Hunter McCloud
07/07/25 6:46pm
Coming out is not an obligation, but a right. You deserve to be heard and accepted for who you are.
Talk to supportive friends or LGBT organizations - they can help you formulate your thoughts and build confidence.
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NeptuneCrystalz!!
NeptuneCrystalz!!
07/10/25 5:26am
Don't try to let that affect your relationship with your extended family, but if it's really bothering you then maybe try to talk to someone about it! I'm a lesbian as well so if you want you can try to talk to me!! Have a nice day!
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Selenarrr11
Selenarrr11
07/08/25 1:39am
If you're not living with them, wait until you feel safe, and then come out. Or you can just block them when you move out and not tell them why.
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