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Problem I need desperate help with: I blank out and have no clue what to say

WikiIbisWatcher913
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07/09/25 5:35pm
Here’s my situation: I like this girl and I see her a lot but don’t really talk to her because whenever I do my friends get really annoyed at me and like stop talking to me. Then whenever I actually go and talk to her I blank out and have no clue what to say. I think she’s getting hints because of all my blanking out but I’m not sure. What should I do?
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Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT
Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT
Licensed Relationship Therapist
07/16/25 1:37am
Do you have her phone number? Maybe try asking for a meetup that wouldn’t require your friends being around and would also give you time to prepare for talking to her. If you don’t have her number, ask for it and just acknowledge that your “blanking out” or behavior has to do with your friends making you feel pressured, but you’d like to chat with her when you’re not with them.
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