How do I deal with toxic parents, what do I do?
My parent's are so annoying they demand they they are right and say stuff like I will hit you for just a small reason and they will just keep yelling at me and they never listen and understand me.
They are so overprotective and they wont give me space, It's not normal for a parent to treat a teenager like that right? If I talk and stand up they will interrupt me and shout at me and they will also compare to me.
My stepmom always compares me with her own daughter. My stepsister is a snitch and she is toxic too, she keeps so many things from her own mom but when I share her something she just spills it all out and just imagine living with parents who wont even let you wear shorts even at home.
My parents are so strict especially at an age where we know we are independent and that we are growing up. My dad still jokes and it's irritating and I hate my stepmom and my stepsister until they came and ruined my life literally! They say hurtful words and such word that you cant even imagine and literally It's just a pain. Ever since 6 and now I'm 17 and just imagine I mean. Hope once you get this you are able to do answer but what do I do guys?
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They are so overprotective and they wont give me space, It's not normal for a parent to treat a teenager like that right? If I talk and stand up they will interrupt me and shout at me and they will also compare to me.
My stepmom always compares me with her own daughter. My stepsister is a snitch and she is toxic too, she keeps so many things from her own mom but when I share her something she just spills it all out and just imagine living with parents who wont even let you wear shorts even at home.
My parents are so strict especially at an age where we know we are independent and that we are growing up. My dad still jokes and it's irritating and I hate my stepmom and my stepsister until they came and ruined my life literally! They say hurtful words and such word that you cant even imagine and literally It's just a pain. Ever since 6 and now I'm 17 and just imagine I mean. Hope once you get this you are able to do answer but what do I do guys?
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I see from your follow-up that talking this out with your parents is a no-go. Let me say, I'm so sorry you have to be the adult in the situation. In an ideal world, your parents would have control over their emotions, not take it out on you and listen to your side of the story. This is an adult's responsibility.
That said, do you an adult you can talk to about the situation that you trust? Maybe a teacher, coach or leader?
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That said, do you an adult you can talk to about the situation that you trust? Maybe a teacher, coach or leader?
If you ever feel able to have a conversation with one of your parents, make sure you feel safe and are in a good headspace. If you do, ask them, "hey, do you have some time to talk?" when you're in private.
Next, tell them, "Hey, I've noticed this ___." This way, you haven't blamed anything. What you're saying is that you've noticed something, or you can say I've had an experience. That will help them listen instead of getting defensive.
Tell them what you see from your perspective, with examples. Clarity and awareness are the first step.
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Next, tell them, "Hey, I've noticed this ___." This way, you haven't blamed anything. What you're saying is that you've noticed something, or you can say I've had an experience. That will help them listen instead of getting defensive.
Tell them what you see from your perspective, with examples. Clarity and awareness are the first step.
If your parents are acting toxic, strict, or overprotective, have a conversation with them to understand their point of view. Give them concrete examples of what you feel is them being “overprotective” and why you feel that way. Ask them if there are some ways that you can prove that you are responsible and capable without them interfering.
This may mean that you get some small privilege or make a decision on your own. Just be sure to follow through on any agreements you have made with your parents and with any of their guidelines.
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This may mean that you get some small privilege or make a decision on your own. Just be sure to follow through on any agreements you have made with your parents and with any of their guidelines.
We're sorry to hear that you're dealing with toxic parents. They can make life a bit more difficult, but there are strategies that can help you communicate how you're feeling with them. Start by sitting down and explaining to them that you don't feel heard or understood and you would like a bit more space and independence. Try to stay calm and speak to them respectfully, and provide specific examples of what you'd like to see change.
You may also want to stop confiding in your stepsister if she tells your parents what you say. Be cordial, but don't tell her anything you wouldn't want your parents to know. Additionally, if there are common conversations that cause issues with your parents, try to avoid the topics that start arguments. If you feel a conflict starting, stay calm and just get some space so you don't engage with them.
This can be a really difficult situation, so focus on the things that make you happy and remember to take care of yourself. If your parents aren't willing to change or see your side of things, then it may be best to speak to a trusted adult, school counselor, or a therapist for additional help.
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You may also want to stop confiding in your stepsister if she tells your parents what you say. Be cordial, but don't tell her anything you wouldn't want your parents to know. Additionally, if there are common conversations that cause issues with your parents, try to avoid the topics that start arguments. If you feel a conflict starting, stay calm and just get some space so you don't engage with them.
This can be a really difficult situation, so focus on the things that make you happy and remember to take care of yourself. If your parents aren't willing to change or see your side of things, then it may be best to speak to a trusted adult, school counselor, or a therapist for additional help.
I would go to a friend's house that you trust, and stay there, or at 18 just leave, pack essentials. Start saving money to run away, and you can maybe rent an apartment with a friend and split costs
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You should move out when you're 18 and avoid talking to them, I'm sorry that you're dealing with toxic parents, but in the meanwhile, just try to distance yourself from them, I hope you can get through this
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Like today for my stepmom threw her phone at me hard at my arm which hurt badly, I can't talk to them, even let's say I didn't mainly in my Stepmoms side she will yell at me and just blame it on me.
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Now, I used to hate it when people told me to do this, but it does really work. Talk to a trusted adult, and I know some people don’t have that. I didn’t at your age. Instead, talk to a friend, or anyone you can vent about it to. And if you feel brave enough to, you can always cut off your parents when they interrupt you. But you also have to think about your safety. If you’re parents really mean their threats, then you probably shouldn’t interrupt them.
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