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Best friend overheard talking about you in a derogatory manner

WikiFawnDriver858
WikiFawnDriver858
08/01/25 4:48pm
I rang my best friend who was in a car with friends. She was already talking when I got through and to my amazement she was talking about me. I tried to interrupt to tell her I was on the line but she was so busy criticising me that I hung up. Evidently she must have triggered her mobile inadvertently. I rang back and told her I had heard her exaggerated conversation and she replied I will ring you tomorrow. Needless to say at 86 and thinking she was my bestie I was devastated . She has rung but I can’t bear to speak to her which means after many years of belonging to a nice group I am going to be the loser if I pull out of activities. What should I do? I feel she has hurt me so deeply and never expected such a conversation. Thank you
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Desiree Panlilio
Desiree Panlilio
Teen Life Coach
09/18/25 11:18pm
You have every right to be hurt and to protect your well-being. For yourself, define what a good friend is? Is this bestie a good friend? What boundaries do you need to create with her? You get to decide if and when you want to talk with her. You can also still be part of the group without being this one person's bestie; you get to create new boundaries for yourself and this friendship.
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Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP
Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP
Clinical Therapist & Adjunct Professor
10/02/25 4:18pm
That must’ve felt extremely hurtful. I’m so sorry that that happened. I always told my patience. I know it’s hard to believe but people are talking about us. Whether we like it or not, they’re talking about good things, bad things and all of the above. It’s something we have to get used to and understand that as human beings, people gossip and talk about one another. It’s not nice, but I’m sure that you and I both do it too. Surround yourself with people who you know are positive. It would stand up for you in a room or someone that’s talking about you. You’ve got this.
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08/02/25 10:21am
You should leave her, a best friend is a friend that you trust the most and is supposed to be caring and supportive. I'm sorry that you had to go through that.
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