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Wondering where to take the new cutie in your life for your first date together? We’ve got you covered: keep reading for our favorite first date ideas, from the cute and creative to the more unique. Plus, we talked to dating experts for their advice on how to make a first date less awkward, so you and your date can make the most of your time together.
What to Do on a First Date
- Go to an amusement park together.
- Get your fortunes told.
- See a play or attend a comedy show.
- Go on a tour of your favorite winery or brewery.
Steps
How can I make a first date less…awkward?
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Consider keeping the date short (with the potential to extend it). “Dinner and a movie” is a classic first date idea, but according to dating app developer Jeremy Sharvit, it can be “too much of a time commitment for basically a complete stranger… What if you realize that this really isn't going to work out?” What does he recommend instead? Coffee or drinks: “It could be one drink if it's not working out. If you're both having a good time, it could be a couple more.”[8]
- Similarly, Shield advises modifying the classic, sometimes-dull coffee date: “Grab a cup of coffee and go for a walk to a neighborhood you've never [been] before or go to a museum and walk around… Laughing at the artwork is always fun. There's always something that will actually start some natural conversation, rather than just being with someone at a dinner table or a table in Starbucks.”[9]
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Choose an activity-based date. Playing a boardgame, taking a cooking class, crafting together, or doing anything activity-based can make for a fun, less awkward first date. You’ll both have something to focus on besides the strangeness of meeting someone new—and it’ll make it way easier not to put any pressure on the date.
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Keep it casual. Sharvit also suggests meeting during the day if you’re concerned about awkwardness, because it can feel more casual and everyday. On the other hand, going out after dark can make the date feel like more of an “event,” which can add a lot of unwanted pressure to a first meeting.[10]
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Prepare some talking points ahead of time. Dating coach Joshua Pompey advises keeping in mind that “dating is a skill just like anything else in life. It does take practice and it does take preparation.” He suggests having a few funny anecdotes in your back pocket to fall back on to fill any awkward silences, but to remember to go easy on yourself and have fun.[11]
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Acknowledge the awkwardness. At the end of the day, sometimes you have to call a spade a spade. It’s not like your date doesn’t know first dates can be anxiety-inducing—and they’re probably feeling a little nervous, too. So why not put it out there in the open with a friendly smile? They’ll likely feel more at ease knowing they’re not the only one.
Expert Q&A
Tips
References
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_nature_makes_you_kinder_happier_more_creative
- ↑ https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/yoga-for-better-mental-health
- ↑ https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3353469/
- ↑ https://www.uaex.uada.edu/life-skills-wellness/personal-family-well-being/navigating-life-blog/crafting_for_health.aspx
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_laughter_brings_us_together
- ↑ https://www.geocaching.com/
- ↑ Lisa Shield. Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ Jeremy Sharvit. Dating App Developer. Expert Interview
- ↑ Lisa Shield. Dating Coach. Expert Interview