How to Beat an Aries Man at His Own Game: 14 Expert Backed Tips

Charm your Aries crush and get him to chase you with this guide

Co-authored by Stina Garbis and Annabelle Reyes

Last Updated: September 27, 2025 Fact Checked

It’s hard to resist an Aries man. They’re charming, bold, and adventurous, and it's thrilling to be in their presence. However, if you’re crushing on an Aries, you probably know that they can be a little hard to read when it comes to romance, and they have a tendency to play hard to get. If you want to beat an Aries man at his own game and win him over once and for all, you’ve come to the right place! We’ve compiled a list of tips to capture an Aries man’s heart, complete with advice from expert astrologers Tara Divina and Stina Garbis. Keep reading for everything you need to know!

What can you do to win over an Aries man?

Aries men are bold and independent, so they want a partner who can match this energy. Flirt with him openly to show him you’re upfront and direct, but make sure to give him space, so he knows you’re independent and self-assured. Aries is also fun-loving and playful, so show off your sense of humor and be spontaneous.

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Compliment him to boost his ego.

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An Aries man enjoys attention and loves to be flattered. When you’re hanging out with your Aries man, tell him what you like about him. Give him flirty compliments about his sophisticated style, his witty sense of humor, or even his dashing good looks.^{[1]
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Research source} He'll be left craving your attention, and he may even end up dropping his bad boy act and flirting back.
- “Aries’s phrase is ‘I am,’ so if you start any sentence with ‘You are…’ Like, ‘You are so strong,’ ‘You’re so great,’ or ‘You are so amazing,’ then you would be heading in the right direction,” Garbis explains.^{[2]
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- Next time you meet up, try saying something like, "I love that T-shirt. You're so stylish," or "You're pretty clever, you know that right?"
- If you're feeling bold, compliment him on his good looks. Text him something like, "I like that picture you posted. You're really cute."

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Flirt with him a lot and then back off a little bit.

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This strategy will make him work to get your attention. Aries men have a tendency to give up if wooing you is too easy—they love the chase, so it’s important to keep them on their toes.^{[3]
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Research source} Make him fight for your attention by being super flirty in one instance and then pretty casual the next. He'll wonder why you weren't all over him like last time and work to win you back.
- If you see him at a party, be bold and give him a sly smile. He'll love the attention and will likely come over to talk to you.
- If you're comfortable, try flirting with him by being a little touchy-feely. Touch his shoulder, give him a sweet hug, or play with his hair. You might even try holding his hand or giving him a kiss on a date to be super forward.
- Then to play it cool the next time you see him, simply give him a smile or a quick hello. He'll miss all the attention you gave him last time, so he’ll amp up his own flirting to get it back.

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Show off your sense of humor.

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Aries men are known for being witty, and they love a good laugh. To show him you share his sense of humor, send him funny GIFS and memes that appeal to his interests, or even tease him a little.^{[4]
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- When you’re teasing an Aries, just make sure to tread lightly. Aries is a fire sign, so they’re known for having a bit of a fiery temper.^{[7]
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- “An Aries’s anger is not something to toy with, but if you do make their blood boil a little, they will think about you a lot, and if they find you attractive, it may make them go wild with wanting to see you again, to tell you how they feel about what you said,” Garbis says.^{[8]
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Be mysterious to get his attention.

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Aries men enjoy a challenge. You can blame that on the fact that they’re ruled by Mars, the God of War. Make him fight for your attention by only revealing a little bit about yourself at a time. You might also try ending your text conversations first and filling up your schedule with plans that don't include him. You’ll make this notorious player so intrigued that he’ll give up his game and start seeking you out.
- If he asks you what you've been up to lately, avoid giving him your full routine. Say something like, "Things have been so wild lately. I've been working on a cool art project, though 🙂"
- Make a bunch of fun plans with your friends and family. If he ever asks to hang out when you're busy, don't change your plans for him. Instead, you might text him, "Oh dang, I'm busy that night. I'd love to see you later this week, though."

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Plan spontaneous and adventurous dates.

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An Aries man wants to keep things exciting. Go on fun, activity-based dates, like catching the concert of a new band, dancing all night at a local club, and exploring a semi-treacherous hiking trail. It’s also a good idea to avoid planning dates super far off in advance. “Aries might not be interested in long-term planning, so don’t force it,” Divina says.^{[9]
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- Ask to hang out within the week so that he doesn't feel tied down, and embrace spontaneity when you’re on your dates.
- If you live in the moment with your Aries crush and show that you’re game to go wherever the night takes you, he's way more likely to cease his games and start chasing you.
- Other date ideas you might try include checking out a rock climbing gym, getting midnight breakfast, and taking an exciting day trip to another city or nature site in your area.
- Reader Poll: We asked 424 wikiHow readers who are women if they would make the first move and ask a man on a date, and 54% said said no, they’d prefer getting asked out by a man. [Take Poll] If you’re into an Aries guy, consider asking him out first—he’ll appreciate you taking the initiative!

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Be playful and fun.

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When they’re in love, they act almost like a kid in a candy shop, full of wonder and excitement about all the fun they’re having.^{[10]
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Take things slow physically to leave him wanting more.

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Taking your time to get physical can really intrigue an Aries. As a qualified charmer, your Aries crush might try to seduce you pretty fast.^{[11]
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Research source} To make him work for it a little more, you might try holding off on getting super physical for the first few dates. Taking it slow will make him want you more, which will likely encourage him cool it on the games.
- Once you do get physical, try embracing your experimental, uninhibited side. Aries men are usually pretty passionate and up to try anything.
- Aries loves a direct and confident partner, so he’ll be super into it if you're open about what you want, too.^{[12]
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- What you do with this Aries man is totally up to you. You're a prize catch no matter when you decide to get physical with him, and there are plenty of other ways to beat him at his own game if this isn't your style.

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Flaunt your intelligence in a fiery debate.

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In love, an Aries man is looking for an intellectual match. To make him really want to get to know you, prove that you can take him in a debate. Bring up subjects like politics, philosophy, and current news stories to get this Aries man fired up. Be respectful, but don't be afraid to disagree. Show this guy you're not willing to back down and he'll be royally impressed, so much so that he might just stop playing games and commit.^{[13]
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- Next time you're getting dinner or drinks, say something like, "Have you been following the local election? I've got a lot of thoughts..."
- Text him news stories and articles about politics and current events. Add the caption, "Just read this and I need to know your opinion. Even if it's different than mine 😉"
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Tara Divina
Vedic Astrologer
Tara Divina is a California-based Vedic Astrologer. Vedic Astrology, also known as Jyotish, is an ancient, sacred art of self-understanding and divination. With nearly 10 years of experience, Tara gives personalized readings that answer her clients' biggest questions about relationships, money, purpose, career, and other big life decisions.

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Aries usually want people that can keep up with them mentally. Make sure that you're paying attention when an Aries is explaining something, and try not to ask tons of clarifying questions or the same question over and over. This will help him feel like you’re on the same page and moving forward together.

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Ask him for help to appeal to his protective side.

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Aries men have the secret desire to be a little chivalrous. Appeal to that side of him by asking for his help or expertise. He'll enjoy coming to your rescue and will like getting the chance to show off his many talents and skills. Sharing a real moment like this might also help you get through to him, past his bravado and cool-guy exterior.
- Maybe your computer has been giving you trouble lately. Next time you're hanging out, you might say something like, "Do you know anything about laptops? I think my computer is dying on me."
- Or, maybe you've been struggling to plan a presentation at work. See if he's got any advice with a text like, "Do you have any pointers on public speaking?"
- As a Cardinal sign, Aries is great at taking initiative. If you give them a project to work on, they’ll start making moves to take care of it right away.^{[14]
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Encourage him to meet his goals.

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Aries men are always working towards making their dreams a reality. Since Aries is ruled by Mars, the Planet of War, you’ll often find them charging after their goals with a ton of energy and determination. Even though they seem super confident and sure of themselves, they secretly crave support.^{[15]
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Research source} “Be their favorite fan or collaborator and cheer them on, and they will love and adore you,” Garbis says.
- Encourage him to keep going if he ever mentions any doubts, and let him know how much you respect his work ethic.
- Your honesty and support will mean a lot to him, and it may convince him to start being more honest with you in return.
- Maybe he mentioned that he was stressed about a project at work. Text him something like, "You're so talented, though. I know you can do it!" or "You're gonna ace it no matter what. You're like a rockstar."

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Be independent, so he knows that you don’t need him.

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An Aries feels drawn to someone who lives life on their own terms. Don't invest all of your energy in getting this Aries guy's attention. He wants someone as independent as he is (very, very independent). Focus on your dreams, interests, and career ambitions, and spend plenty of time with your friends and family. Seeing you live your life to the fullest will make this Aries man want to get in on the fun. He may even want you so bad that he owns up to really liking you.^{[16]
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- Aries men are usually pretty comfortable spending time alone. Show him that you can do the same thing by spending some time by yourself. You might try reading at the park on a sunny afternoon or taking yourself out to a solo lunch.
- If this Aries guy follows you on social media, post pictures of your solo adventures to show him all the cool stuff you do without him.

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Let him have his freedom.

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Show him that you’re unaffected by his need for space. Divina explains that Aries men tend to need a lot of space to think and be in their head.^{[17]
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Expert Interview} As a result, Aries men have a tendency to distance themselves or play hard to get. If he backs off after hanging out nonstop for a few weeks, resist the urge to double-text or pine for him. Make other plans and stay busy with your own life. If he sees that you’re comfortable with him doing his own thing, he’ll be intrigued, and this may drive him to reach out again.
- If your Aries guy says he can’t hang out because he’s out with his friends, show him you’ve got plenty of other things to do. Text him, “Have a great time! I think Sarah and I are gonna check out that new bar down the street.”
- Avoid keeping your schedule open on the off chance that he’ll ask to hang out. You’ll seem way more appealing if you’re super busy.
- If you show him that you have your own life and you’re comfortable with his need for independence and space, he’ll be more likely to see you as a potential match.

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Be bold and direct about your feelings.

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Once you’ve gotten to know him, be brave and tell him how you feel. “Aries have a natural courageousness to tell you how they feel. They can’t hold things back or keep things secret for very long,” Garbis explains.^{[18]
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Expert Interview} Aries men usually appreciate a partner who can match this energy. If you’ve been hanging out for a while and you’re pretty sure about your feelings, take a deep breath and tell him you’re falling for him. When he sees that you’re willing to be upfront and honest, he’ll likely feel safe enough to do the same.^{[19]
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- Of all the fire signs, Aries is most known for their bold, direct communication style. This can cause them to come across as a bit blunt or harsh sometimes, but it also means that they’re deeply honest about the way they feel, and they’re unafraid to declare it for the world.^{[20]
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Believe in yourself no matter what games he’s playing.

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Confidence is the ultimate key to beating an Aries man at his own game. It may be hard, but try not to let his behavior affect your self-esteem. Remind yourself of all of your amazing qualities, talents, and accomplishments. Think of that list or call a friend if you're ever feeling down about yourself. If you remember how hot and amazing you are, your inner confidence will shine through and make you irresistible to this Aries guy.^{[21]
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- Maybe you've been seeing him for a long time and he's still playing games. If that's the case, you might consider walking away. It's super tough to let go, but remember that there are tons of people out there looking for something real.

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