BDSM Test: What’s My Kink Rating?

Take this quiz to see how spicy you are!

Ever wondered how spicy you are compared to the people around you? Are your thoughts wilder than everyone else’s? Or are you as innocent as an angel?

Answer these simple, saucy questions, and we’ll tell you where you land on the BDSM scale!

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Questions Overview

1. How would you feel about a little biting in the bedroom?
  1. I love some teeth. Bring it on!
  2. Just a little bit, maybe. I don't wanna get hurt.
  3. Nope. Sex is about pleasure, not pain.
  4. I'm not sure.
2. In your own sexual fantasies, which role do you usually play?
  1. I'm in charge, and get to tell my partner what to do.
  2. I'm following orders while my partner takes the lead.
  3. My partner and I are equals, and it's a give-and-take.
  4. I'm not sure.
3. Have you ever fantasized about using toys in the bedroom?
  1. All the time! They make it more interesting.
  2. Sure, now and then. Could be fun!
  3. Not really. I don't need accessories to get it on.
  4. I'm not sure.
4. Have you ever fantasized about hooking up with more than 1 person at a time?
  1. Definitely!
  2. I've thought about it now and then. Could be fun.
  3. No. I like to focus on 1 person at a time.
5. Do you find the idea of being tied up, or tying someone up, appealing?
  1. Absolutely. I want to try both.
  2. I'd be willing to be tied up, but I don't want to tie someone up.
  3. I'd tie someone up, but I don't want to be tied up.
  4. No, not for me.
6. Would you ever want to hook up with someone while you were blindfolded?
  1. Absolutely. It's more exciting!
  2. Maybe, but only with someone I absolutely trust.
  3. No, I want to see everything that's happening.
7. How willing are you to try new things in the bedroom?
  1. I'll try anything at least once! Maybe twice!
  2. I'm down to try most things, but some things are off limits.
  3. I'll try certain things with certain people, but I'm not wild.
  4. I like to stick to what I know.
8. Have you ever fantasized about roleplaying in the bedroom? (Role play is when you play a character, like a nurse or a cop, while you’re hooking up with someone.)
  1. All the time. Playing a character is fun!
  2. Sometimes. There are some scenarios I'd like to try.
  3. Not really. I'm not into bedroom acting.
9. Have you ever fantasized about hooking up with someone in the great outdoors?
  1. Totally. The higher the risk of getting caught, the hotter it is.
  2. Sort of. It's exciting, but I don't know if I'd ever do it.
  3. No. That makes me nervous.
10. What do you think about more: romance or physical intimacy?
  1. Romance!
  2. I think about both equally, or they're both equally important to me.
  3. Physical intimacy!!
11. When you think about hooking up, what's usually the vibe?
  1. Slow and passionate.
  2. Fast and wild.
  3. Casual and fun.
  4. Something else, or I'm not sure.
12. Would you ever send ~spicy~ messages to someone you’re into?
  1. Yes! It's my favorite way to be flirty.
  2. Maybe, but only I knew nobody else would ever see them.
  3. Nah. I prefer to flirt in other ways.

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All About BDSM & Kink

What is BDSM?
BDSM stands for “bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism.” It’s a sexual practice that includes power dynamics, pain, and other activities that are sometimes viewed as taboo.

What is kink?
A kink is a sexual interest that falls outside what most people consider typical.

Is BDSM problematic?
Not necessarily! As with any sexual practice, as long as everyone involved consents, enjoys themselves, and is respectful and mindful of their partners, there’s nothing problematic about it.

How do you participate in BDSM safely?

  • Establish your boundaries before you begin, so you and your partner know what’s on the table and what’s off limits.
  • Make a safe word you can say if you get uncomfortable, so you can stop whenever you feel like it.
  • Get to know your partner outside the bedroom. A friendly, trusting, and familiar relationship is key to good BDSM.
  • Keep it in the bedroom. BDSM often involves uneven power dynamics, which is fun, but not so much when those dynamics start bleeding into your personal life. What happens in bed stays in bed.

How can you have safer sex?

  • Get yourself tested for STDs, and know your partners’ statuses, too.
  • Use protection like condoms, PrEP, and birth control to prevent STDs and unexpected pregnancies.
  • Communicate clearly and often with your partner to make sure you’re both having fun.
  • Always get consent.
  • Use the restroom and wash up afterward to stay clean and healthy.

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