How to Ask a Girl for Her Friend's Number (What to Say to Boost Your Chances)

Co-authored by Connell Barrett

Last Updated: October 14, 2021 References

Who knows a girl better than her friends? No one! If you’re feeling a little shy or too nervous to ask a girl you like for her number, asking her friend is a simple, low-pressure solution. And it’s not as tough as you might think. To help you do it, we’ve put together a handy list of ways you can choose from so you can find the best approach for you.

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The direct approach

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“I really like your friend, can you give me her number?” Why beat around the bush? If you like her friend, just be upfront about it. Ask for her friend’s number so you can get in touch with her.^{[1]
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- If her friend likes you too, she might just tell you!

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The romantic approach

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“I think your friend is gorgeous—can you give me her number?” She might feel protective of her friend and may not give her number out to just anyone. But if you really like her friend, express how you feel. It may help sway and convince her to give it to you.^{[2]
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- You could also say something like, “I’d really like to talk to her to get to know her better.”

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The crush approach

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“I really like your friend, can I get her number so I can call her?” Play it cute and tell her that you have a little crush on her friend. She may be overwhelmed by the adorableness and give you the number.^{[3]
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- Another way you could say it is, “So, I’ve kind of got a crush on your friend. Can you give me her number so I can get in touch with her?”

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The confident approach

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“Hey, I need your friend’s number so I can get in touch.” A little confidence can sometimes go a long way. Just make sure you don’t go overboard and come off as cocky or arrogant. Be super cool and straightforward when you ask.^{[4]
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- You could also try something like, “I’d like to call your friend, can I have her number?”

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The chill approach

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“Hey can I have your friend’s number? Totally cool if not.” Play it safe and don’t put any extra pressure on her to give you her friend’s number. If she doesn’t feel like you’re forcing it, she might be more comfortable giving it to you. Just act like it’s no big deal if she doesn’t want to do it.^{[5]
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- Another option is to try something like, “Hey, no pressure at all, but would you mind sending me your friend’s number? Really, it’s no big deal if that’s not cool.”

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The joke approach

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“I want to send this funny meme to your friend, what’s her number?” If you’ve got a great meme or a funny video that you think would make her friend laugh, use it as a potential way to get her number. Tell her you’re dying to send it to her, you just need her number.^{[6]
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- You could also try, “What’s your friend’s number? I know she would think this video is super funny.”

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The playful approach

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“You should give me your friend’s number because I’m awesome.” Some playful teasing can sometimes be super effective. Disarm her with it and use it to ask for her friend’s number. She may feel totally comfortable giving it to you.^{[7]
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- Try not to come on too strong. Say something like, “I can’t propose to your friend if I don’t have her number” instead of something aggressive like, “Your friend needs me in her life. Give me her number.”

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The silly approach

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“I lost my number, can I have your friend’s?” Sure, it’s goofy and a little ridiculous, but sometimes that can be effective! Don’t be afraid to get silly with it. It may make her feel safe handing out her friend’s number.^{[8]
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- A cheesy joke can sometimes do the trick. Try something like, “Your friend stole my heart, can you give me her number so I can try to get it back?”

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The homework approach

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Maybe it’s true, maybe it’s a little white lie, but either way, it could be an effective way to get her friend’s number. Tell her you need to get in touch about an important project or assignment and she may just hand the number over to you.^{[9]
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The group chat approach

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“What’s your friend’s number? Let’s start up a group chat.” Just like group dates or hangouts can be a low-pressure, easy way to spend time with someone you like, a group chat can be an effective way to get her number. You could tell her that you need her friend’s number to start up a group chat, or just ask her to create one and add you so you can see her friend’s number and save it from there.^{[10]
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- For instance, you could also try saying, “Let’s start up a group chat so we can all coordinate plans” or “We should start up a group chat to share funny memes.”

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The giving approach

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“Hey, can you pass along my number to your friend?” Try asking her to give your number to her friend so you can avoid putting her on the spot. She can pass along your number and if her friend wants to reach you, well, she’s got your number!^{[11]
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- If she doesn’t feel comfortable giving you her friend’s number, this is a low-pressure, simple way to get around that.

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Don’t push it if she says no.

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If you’re overly persistent she may never give it to you. If she doesn’t feel comfortable giving you her friend’s number, whatever you do, don’t make a big deal about it. Just shrug it off, move on, and keep going with the conversation. You may get another chance in the future, and you don’t want to mess that up by being too pushy.^{[12]
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- Plus, if you make it weird, she may tell her friend about it and you could blow your chances!