15+ Ways to Ask for Her Phone Number on Tinder

Get her digits without coming across as cheesy or way too forward

Co-authored by Connell Barrett and Dev Murphy, MA

Last Updated: July 31, 2024 Fact Checked

You’ve been chatting with a girl on Tinder, and it’s going really well, but taking it from a convo on the app to a convo over text can feel a little tough. Fortunately, there are tons of different ways you can ask for a girl’s digits without seeming pushy. Keep reading: we’ve compiled some of the best lines you can use to get a girl’s number and keep chatting with her off the app!

Best Ways to Get Her Number on Tinder

“I dare you to give me your phone number.”
“What’s a smart, attractive person like me doing without your phone number?”
“If I had your number, we could forget we ever met on Tinder.”
“I don’t check this app very often. What’s your number?”
“Let’s finish the rest of this conversation over text.”

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“I dare you to give me your phone number.”

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Play a little game of truth or dare that ends with her number. Try a message like, “Truth or dare?” If she picks dare, you can use the line above, no sweat! If she picks truth, simply ask, “What’s your number?” This is a fun and easy way to ask for a girl’s number that shows you can be a little goofy, too.^{[1]
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- Or, if you’d rather give out your digits first, you might say, “I dare you to ask me for my number.”

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“1 x your phone number = ?”

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Ask her to solve a witty math problem to get her number. Start off with something like, “Help! My nephew is doing math homework and he’s stuck on this problem.” She’ll probably respond with something like, “Haha, okay. What is it?” Then, you can send her the message above, and she’ll probably get a good giggle as she types out her number.^{[2]
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- Messages like these work best after you’ve had a conversation first. You can try it as your opening line, but you’ll have more success if you’ve done a bit of small talk beforehand.

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“There’s something wrong with my cell. It doesn’t have your number in it.”

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You can use this as an opening line if you’re bold! Make her laugh with this silly pickup line, and hopefully get her number if she likes you enough. If she’s into it, she’ll probably send you a laughing emoji along with her digits.^{[3]
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- Not everyone appreciates pickup lines, but if her profile makes her seem like she has a good sense of humor, then she just might.

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“What’s a smart, attractive person like me doing without your phone number?”

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Act cocky to make her laugh (and get her contact info). If you’re normally a little self-deprecating, play it a different way by pretending you’re the best of the best. Then, ask for her phone number as she chuckles at your opening line.^{[4]
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- When you text her for the first time, you could say something like, “It’s me! The smartest, most attractive person on Tinder.”

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“📱 ❓”

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Say everything with just a couple of emojis. If you aren’t really a conversationalist, you can get your point across by just sending a phone emoji and a question mark. You might want to start out with a few heart eye emojis, just so she knows you like her. Then, she’ll feel great about sending along her digits.
- You can even ask a girl out on a date in emojis! Try sending her something like, “🍷🍣🌹❓” to ask her out to a sushi dinner.
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Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post.

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It's best to have at least five exchanges back and forth before asking for a date. This is my rule unless you see something in their profile that really sparks your interest and you can just right away say, "Hey, this is so interesting — let's meet over coffee and talk about it."

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“I forgot my password and the only hint is ‘your number’!”

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This goofy line will probably make her smile. Make up the fact that you’ve been locked out of your Facebook or Instagram account, and try to make it seem like a huge deal. Then, tell her that the only password hint it gave you is her number, so she has to give it to you! If she appreciates your joke, you’ll have her digits in no time.^{[5]
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- Personalize this message even more by including her name in your message. For instance, if you’re chatting with Anna, you’d say, “The only hint is ‘Anna’s number’!”

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“If I had your number, we could forget we ever met on Tinder.”

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A lot of people don’t love the fact that they’re on dating apps. If you get the vibe that she’s a little fed up with online dating in general, test the waters by telling her if you take it off the app, you could forget this ever happened. You could make it even more funny by sending messages like:^{[6]
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- “We could make up a story to tell people if they ask how we met! Maybe we sat next to each other at a monster truck rally, or I spotted you across the aisle at our local butcher shop.”
- Dating coach Connell Barrett suggests something like, "This app sucks…. What’s your number?"^{[7]
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“I don’t check this app very often. What’s your number?”

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Straight to the point, this DM lets her know you want to talk to her more. If you have trouble checking your Tinder messages consistently, you might want to ask for her digits so you two can keep chatting. Try using this one after you’ve had a fun conversation so she’s more motivated to keep talking to you.^{[8]
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- You might also say something like, “I’m so bad at checking Tinder. Can I give you my number instead?”
- Or, “As you can probably tell, I’m not great at responding to these messages, haha. Want to shoot me your digits instead?”

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“Tinder is being a little buggy. Want to move this over to WhatsApp?”

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This one feels low-key, since you’re just moving to another app. However, WhatsApp does require a phone number, so you’ll have to exchange digits with the girl to keep the convo going. Once you have her contact info, send her a message via WhatsApp telling her who you are. After you’ve had a few WhatsApp convos, try reaching out over text.
- If you don’t have WhatsApp, you can download it for free on iOS or Android.

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“I hate chatting on these apps. Want to exchange numbers?”

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Be upfront that you aren’t the biggest fan of Tinder. If you really don’t love Tinder’s messaging feature, let her know, and ask her if she’d like to keep chatting. Chances are, she probably doesn’t like it very much either, and she’ll be grateful that you made the first move to take things off the app.^{[9]
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- You might also say something like, “I’m not a huge fan of Tinder. Want to text me?”
- Or, “I’m so tired of dating apps. Let’s text instead.”

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“I’d love to call you. What’s your phone number?”

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If calling someone is more your style, try this one. Maybe you aren’t the best texter in the world, or maybe she’s told you that she’s a slow texter. You can ask for her number to give her a ring instead—it’s kind of old-fashioned, but some girls really like that! Then, you two can chat over the phone and get to know each other more before setting up a date.^{[10]
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- This is a good tactic to use if you’ve already asked her to text you and she’s made an excuse.
- You could also say, “I’m pretty bad at texting people back. Want to call me sometime?”

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“Let’s finish the rest of this conversation over text.”

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Let her know you’re having fun and want to take it to the next level. If you two are in the middle of a fun convo, pause, and then ask for her number. If she’s been enjoying it as much as you have, she’ll probably have no problem giving you her digits so that you two can keep talking.^{[11]
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- You could also tell her the first part of a joke and then say, “I’ll give you the punchline over text. What’s your number?”

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“I’m headed out of town, I’d love to see you when I get back. What’s your number?”

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Going out of town implies that you won’t be on the app for a while. If she knows that you might be unreachable but she still wants to talk to you, she’ll probably give you her number no problem. Then, you can set up an IRL date for whenever you’re back in town.^{[12]
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- You could also say something like, “I won’t have internet for the next week or so. Want to give me your number so we can still chat?”

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“Shoot me your number so I can text you before our date.”

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After you’ve set a time and a place, ask for her number. That way, you can text her on the day of your date, or even beforehand if you prefer. Having a way to contact someone outside of a dating app can be a safe backup plan in case the app malfunctions, and plus, it shows that you’re serious about taking her out.^{[13]
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- You might also say, “Cool! Can I give you my number, just in case we need to get ahold of each other?”
- Keep in mind some people prefer to limit conversation to the app until after they’ve met in person, so if she declines, don’t stress about it! She probably just wants to get to know you IRL first.

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“What’s your number? I’ll text you the details.”

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If the idea of a date has been thrown out there, try this line. Maybe you haven’t actually confirmed a time or a place yet, so you can do that over text. This will not only tell her that you’re serious about taking her out, but it also shows that you’re probably going to plan a fun date.
- This is another one that works best after you’ve had a bit of a rapport going. If you use this line too early, it could sound bossy, which is not a turn-on for most women.

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There's a girl I run into a lot on campus. I don't know her, but we smile at each other and I think I'd like to ask for her number, but I don't know how to do this without seeming...Idk, like a creep? Or desperate? Is it weird to just........ask a stranger for her number? If not, how do you do it (with at least a little rizz)? What do you even say??

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Barrett cautions that a phone number shouldn't be the goal of your conversation. Instead, it should be the byproduct of getting closer with the person you're chatting with.^{[14]
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Try to have a fun conversation before asking for a girl’s number.

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If she doesn’t want to give you her number right now, don’t push it—she may want to wait until after you’ve met in person. Or maybe she wants to get your number first!

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