Everyone’s clingy sometimes! While it’s natural for people to want to stick close to the people you like, have you ever wondered if you’ve stuck a little too close?
Answer these quick, confidential questions honestly, and we’ll tell you whether or not you’re a clingy person, and why you might be that way.
Questions Overview
- They must hate me. They'll never talk to me again.
- They've been in a terrible accident! It's the only explanation.
- I call them until they pick up. I want to talk, and nothing will get in my way!
- As long as they get back to me eventually, I'm not worried.
- I feel so sad and stressed. Even for just one night, I feel like I’ll miss them.
- I’m worrying that they don’t want to hang out because I’m not fun to be around.
- I wonder if this is a sign that they’re about to break up with me.
- It's okay. There's always the next one!
- I worry something bad has happened to them.
- I miss them, but I'll keep myself busy until they're back.
- I worry they're meeting someone new.
- I roam around the house. I don't know what to do with myself without them.
- I mingle and meet new people.
- Find my friend ASAP. I can't believe they left me alone.
- Stand awkwardly in the corner, petting the dog.
- I leave the party. There's no point in being there without my friend.
- Feel jealous and wish they would’ve invited you.
- Think that your friend must like them better. Or maybe they’re talking behind your back
- Don't worry. I’ll look forward to meeting the other friend eventually!
- Call them and beg their forgiveness for whatever I did.
- Act natural and wait for them to bring it up. If they have a problem, they'll tell me.
- Shower them with gifts. They can't be mad at me if I'm giving them presents.
- Act a little cold and distant. Two can play at this game.
- Now and then. It depends on how chatty I'm feeling.
- All day, every day. I have things to say!
- Barely ever. We don't have to be yapping 24/7.
- Pack my things. I'm going with them!
- Get to work making new friends ASAP.
- I'd be fine. People come and go.
- I'd try to convince them to stay.
- No. They shouldn't have anything to hide from each other.
- Sure. Everyone has a few secrets.
- Maybe some secrets, but not big ones.
- That's too bad, but we can always reschedule.
- I wonder if something's wrong, like they got sick or are hurt.
- I worry that they're secretly seeing someone else tonight.
- I'm a little frustrated, tbh. I was counting on spending time with them.
- My partner giving me the cold shoulder or excluding me.
- My partner messing around with other people.
- My partner pointing out or mocking my flaws.
- My partner pitying me or treating me like a child.
- Sure! I like going on solo adventures.
- No. I'd feel too self-conscious.
- Nah, I'd feel a little lonely.
- Maybe, but I'd rather bring a friend or partner.
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Being Less Clingy
Nobody likes to feel clingy. It makes you start to feel like you’re a burden or a nuisance for the people you love, when all you really want to do is show them how much you enjoy and appreciate them.
Clinginess can be caused by many things. Usually, it’s caused by insecurity, dependence, or anxiety. The common factor is that all these things originate from inside you, but they can also all be worked on and improved to make you less clingy.
Here are helpful things you can do:
Build your own confidence. When you love the person you are, you rely less on other people to make you feel good about yourself. Take a moment, right now, to write down 3 strengths you have, or 3 things you like about yourself. Do this every day, and each day try to find 3 different things. Or, practice something you’re good at, like a skill or art form. When you do something well, you show yourself that you’re capable and worthy.
Give people the benefit of the doubt. Another big source of clinginess is a lack of trust. You might feel that the people you love don’t actually feel that way about you, or that they do things behind your back, so you feel the urge to monitor or control them. Trust is a tricky thing, but mostly it’s just a matter of putting faith in people. For the most part, nobody is out to get you, and your loved ones do want you around. Once you start believing that, you’ll become less clingy.
Do more things alone. When your clinginess comes from dependency, you start to feel like you need someone by your side all the time. But you’re a complete person who can fend for yourself! Convince yourself of this by doing more things alone. Go shopping, take yourself to a restaurant, wander around a museum. The more time you spend with yourself, the more you’ll see that you don’t always need someone to keep you company.
Make your own goals to work toward. When you’re clingy, you start to invest more in other people and less in yourself. As a result, you lose touch with your own personality and who you want to be. Overcome this by setting your own personal goals. Is there a skill you want to learn? A career you want to obtain? A place you’d like to travel to? Find a goal and start working toward it, and you’ll find that you’ll naturally become a more distinct, independent, and less clingy person.
Want to learn more?
For more information about clinginess and attachment styles, check out these resources:
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