How to Turn on an Aquarius Woman

Co-authored by Angel Eyedealism and Madeleine Criglow

Last Updated: March 24, 2025 Fact Checked

If you've got your eyes on an Aquarius woman, you're likely drawn to her eccentric, freethinking approach to life and sexuality. People with this zodiac sign tend to get just as turned on during a good conversation as they do in the bedroom, which makes wooing an Aquarius woman an intellectually stimulating and passionate endeavor. To seduce her, you'll have to engage her mind and be open to all things new and experimental.

Traits of Aquarius Women in Bed

When it comes to sex, an Aquarius is usually open to experimentation. She might be turned on by roleplaying or anything a little bit kinky. She also might like to talk about making her wildest fantasies a reality. Just make sure to talk to her about what you want to try first to make sure she's comfortable with it.

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Strike up a flirty conversation.

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A stimulating chat can get an Aquarius woman in the mood. An Aquarius woman appreciates intelligence.^{[1]
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Expert Interview} Bring up thought-provoking subjects like philosophy, art, and humanitarian causes to get her really hot and bothered. Make your conversation more flirty by engaging in a fiery debate. An Aquarius will be super turned on by a battle of wits with a potential suitor.
- After a movie date, take out your Aquarius for a nightcap or a treat to talk about the movie. You might say, "I didn't love the ending of that film. I felt like the audience deserved more closure. What about you?"
- Text her a link to a thought-provoking article or even a poem. Add the caption, "I'd love to hear your interpretation of this. Can't get enough of your mind 😊"
- Respect her point of view in the conversation to keep things light and flirty. Getting super emotional or dismissing her point of view might turn off an Aquarius woman.

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Laugh with her.

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An Aquarius woman is turned on by a good sense of humor. Text her funny memes and GIFs, make humorous observations when you're out and about, and laugh at her jokes, too. Joking around with you will help her relax and get in the mood.^{[2]
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- Text her a GIF from a funny TV show. An Aquarius will likely enjoy something from a more offbeat comedy, like Futurama or Daria.
- Try a humorous or relatable meme. This zodiac sign is interested in all things strange and whimsical, so she will likely really appreciate an astrology meme about her sign.
- When you're out with her, point out things you find humorous in conversation. An Aquarius will think it's hilarious if you point out a funny squirrel at the park, for example, even if you're in the middle of a romantic stroll.
- This may not seem like a turn-on, but an Aquarius woman needs to feel like you're her friend first and lover second. To an Aquarius, friendship with her romantic partners is the ultimate aphrodisiac.

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Be open to experimentation.

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When it comes to sex, an Aquarius is usually up to try anything. Women with this sun sign are the most forward-thinking of the zodiac, which usually translates to some very uninhibited interests in the bedroom. Leave your inhibitions at the door and try new things with her.^{[3]
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- She might get really turned on by getting frisky somewhere unexpected, role playing, and anything a little kinky. Just make sure you talk about what you want to try with her first to make sure that she's comfortable.
- If you're afraid to try something, that's totally okay. Be honest and tell her. She'll likely be happy to explore what turns you both on together.

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Set the mood with music and incense.

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As imaginative, artistic individuals, they appreciate anything that will make sex an even more liberating, dream-like experience. Turn on some music and light some incense (or candles) to help your freethinking lover get even more into it.

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Talk about your fantasies openly.

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An Aquarius likes using their expansive imaginations in the bedroom. Ask her about all of her wildest sexual fantasies, and share yours with her as well. She'll get super turned on just talking about it and will be excited to try making each of your dreams a reality.^{[4]
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- You might say something like, "What's a fantasy you've always wanted to try, but never have?" or "What's your wildest fantasy? I'll tell you mine, too..."

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Try dirty talk if you’re comfortable.

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As an intellectual sign, words will really turn on an Aquarius. If you're comfortable, try talking dirty during sex or being vocal about what turns you on. She'll likely follow suit with some words of her own and will probably be super into it.^{[5]
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- Start things off by saying something like, "I love it when you kiss my neck" or "You've got a very sexy smile."

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Switch up your roles.

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Aquarians tend to enjoy switching between being dominant and submissive. An Aquarius woman doesn't let societal standards run her life or sexuality. Be open to experimenting with the different roles you play in the bedroom, and don't be surprised if she's interested in being a little dominant. She'll probably get pretty worked up if she sees that you're willing to experiment like this.
- To broach the subject, you might look up different positions you can try. Plenty of books and online resources can give you more details on ways you can explore together.

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Focus on her calves and ankles.

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These areas are thought to be erogenous zones for an Aquarius. To really get her in the mood, you might try caressing her legs and ankles. A calf massage will likely turn her on and leave her ready for more.^{[6]
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- This might sound a little strange, but remember that the sign of Aquarius is the most eccentric of the zodiac signs. Show that you like this about her by touching her where she'll be most turned on (even if it's a little unusual).

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Respect her no matter what.

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An Aquarius woman needs to know that you like her for her mind, too. Tell her why you appreciate her and make it clear that you're not just looking for a one-night stand. Even if you're not looking for anything serious, you'll need to let her know that you like her for more than just her looks or sexual appeal.^{[7]
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- Express a genuine interest in getting to know her. You might ask, "What do you like to do for fun?" or "I saw that you posted a picture of one of your photographs. Are you into photography?"
- Show respect in the bedroom and always ask for her consent when things are heating up. An Aquarius may be down to try new things, but only if she feels like she can trust you.

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Be her friend.

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The sign of Aquarius is ruled by the 11th House of Friendships. That means your Aquarius woman values friendship pretty much above all else. To really get her turned on and comfortable with you, be a buddy to her. Goof off with her like you would with one of your best buds and help her out when she needs it. You might be surprised by how quickly she'll want to get in bed with you if she sees that she can rely on you like a pal.^{[8]
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- Do simple things to show her that you care. You might give her a ride home after hanging out or text her an encouraging message when she's stressed at work.

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Stay true to yourself and be confident.

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An Aquarius woman will be turned on by your eccentricities. When you're spending time with her, own what makes you unique. Flaunt your guilty pleasures and talk openly about your quirks. Aquarius women are usually a little strange themselves, so she'll be super into you if she sees that you're a like-minded individual.
- Don't be afraid to show off your nerdier interests. Do you secretly still play RuneScape or frequently stay up all night reading sci-fi novels? These will be huge turn-ons to an Aquarius.
- Try not to put yourself down in front of her. She'll be way more turned on if you exhibit confidence. Walk tall with your head held high, and remind yourself of all of your talents and accomplishments anytime your confidence falters.^{[9]
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