7+ Signs That You're in a Healthy Relationship

Co-authored by Renee Slansky and Hannah Madden

Last Updated: May 1, 2025 References

Most of us want to maintain a happy, healthy relationship. But what does a relationship like that even look like? With so many different types of couples portrayed in the media and online, it can be tough to figure out if you and your partner actually have a healthy relationship or not. Is your relationship full of positive signs or red flags? Read through our list of healthy relationship characteristics to check whether your connection with your partner is solid–and learn what you can do to keep it that way!

Top Signs of a Healthy Relationship

Two signs you're in a healthy relationship are peace and progress, says dating coach Renee Slansky. Peace doesn’t mean the absence of conflict, but that it’s not a cycle. Progress means the relationship continually moves forward. Other signs are trust, shared goals, communication, and respect.

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You have the same basic goals.

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You and your partner’s life plans should be about the same. You don’t have to agree on everything—the color of your house or which car you want to get is totally up for debate. But if you want to live in the same town your entire life and your partner wants to move abroad, you might have some issues in a long-term relationship.^{[1]
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- You don’t have to have your life plans figured out right away, especially if you’re young. However, it’s a good thing to keep in mind as your relationship gets more serious.
- Take time to learn about and understand each other's goals as well as your hopes and dreams.^{[2]
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You trust each other.

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Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship. If you feel like you can talk about anything with your partner, you’re probably on the right track. Being able to share the good, the bad, and the ugly is an important part of a loving and caring partnership.^{[3]
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- Regaining trust with someone is a hard road to go down. If you and your partner are having trust issues, a couple’s counselor may be able to help you through them.

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You spend quality time together.

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This could be going out on dates or having a quiet night in. If you and your partner spend time together without distractions (that means no phones!) then you’re setting yourself up for a healthy relationship. Try to carve out one or two nights a week where it’s just the two of you alone.^{[4]
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- If you have kids, this might be a little tougher. Try setting aside one night a month to hit the town with your partner and leave the kids with a babysitter.
- Look for shared interests that you can bond over.^{[5]
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You communicate openly and regularly.

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Checking in with each other helps maintain your connection. Try to chat with each other once a day about something besides bills, work, or kids. Talk about deep topics, like your emotions, your relationship, or your life plans to stay on the same page and keep the relationship alive.^{[6]
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- You should also be able to communicate about tough stuff. If you feel comfortable bringing up a problem or an issue with your partner, that’s a very good sign.
- Healthy communication involves sharing how you feel as well as understanding and validating your partner's perspective.

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wikiHow Quiz: Are My Partner and I Compatible?

Do you ever wonder just how good a match you and your partner are? If you’ve recently started dating someone, are you curious about how much potential you have as a couple? It’s hard to measure compatibility (there’s no “formula” for it, after all), but taking a look at many aspects of a relationship can reveal where you and your partner are in sync and where you might experience conflicts. Our comprehensive quiz can help you do just that—and determine your overall compatibility.

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Are you and your partner more emotional or more logical?

We’re both either more emotional or more logical.

One of us is emotional, and one is logical—but we like the balance from that.

I haven’t really noticed a difference either way.

One of us is emotional, and one is logical, so we struggle to understand one another.

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You feel supported through the good times and the bad times.

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Your partner should be there for you no matter what. If you can lean on your partner when you’re feeling down, it’s a sign of a very strong relationship. If you feel like you’re on your own when times get tough, your relationship might be a bit more one-sided.^{[7]
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- The same is true for your partner: they should feel like they can lean on you no matter what.

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You disagree respectfully.

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Fighting is a normal part of any relationship. However, yelling, name-calling, and insulting one another isn’t. If you can bring up disagreements calmly and work through them as a team, that level of communication is a sign that your relationship is a healthy one.^{[8]
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- Try to think of disagreements as “you and your partner vs. the problem” instead of “you vs. your partner.”
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Relationship issues get resolved when both parties are willing to communicate and dig deep. "Issues and conflict will arise in every relationship. But in healthy relationships, the deeper issue is recognized, and we work to chip away at it, moving from rupture to repair."

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You compromise with each other.

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You can’t always get what you want (and that’s okay). There may come a time when you have to bend on your wants or needs to make sure your partner is happy. Compromising is an important part of any relationship, and it’s probably going to happen a lot during a long-term one.^{[10]
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- Keep in mind that compromising goes both ways. If you feel like you’re constantly compromising but your partner gets exactly what they want, it might be time to communicate and reevaluate your relationship.
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John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health.

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Learning to navigate challenges makes your relationship stronger. Every relationship has challenges and imperfections, but learning to get through them can actually strengthen the bond between you and your partner.

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You have outside interests.

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You and your partner might have your own friends or hobbies. Independence is a good thing! By keeping up with other things besides your relationship, you’re laying the foundation to become a more well-rounded person. Your partner can’t meet all your needs, so it’s important to find value in other things.^{[11]
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- It can be hard to make time for friends when you first get into a relationship. Try to reach out to your pals at least once a week so they don’t feel neglected.