What Is Scorpio's Love Language?

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Discover how your intense, private Scorpio loves and needs to feel loved

Co-authored by Angel Eyedealism and Janice Tieperman

Last Updated: August 16, 2024 Fact Checked

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• Love Language of Scorpio
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• Love Languages of Other Signs
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The 5 Love Languages is a framework by Dr. Gary Chapman that describes the 5 different ways a person prefers to show and receive love. Although love languages aren’t strictly astrological, it’s still totally valid to wonder which ones appeal most to your Scorpio beau. We’ve interviewed pro astrologer Angel Eyedealism to get the lowdown on everything Scorpio, so that you can be in the know.

Things You Should Know

• Physical touch and quality time are Scorpio’s two main love languages.
• Show love to a Scorpio through physical touch with simple acts like hugging, kissing, and/or holding hands.
• Demonstrate love through quality time by respecting your partner’s desires for both intimacy and privacy.

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What is Scorpio’s love language?

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   Scorpio’s love languages are physical touch and quality time. Expert astrologer Angel Eyedealism explains how “vulnerability is a cherished prize for a Scorpio. Without vulnerability, there is no intimacy—and that’s why Scorpio is the sign of intimacy, because they like to lay everything bare.” With this in mind, any sort of physical touch can be a great way to show the Scorpio in your life how loved and appreciated they are.

   • This love language spans all types of physical affection, like cuddling, kissing, hugging, and even holding hands.
   • Eyedealism also notes how Scorpios have “an obsessive need for privacy.” The “quality time” love language could be a way to respect this as you strike a balance between spending quality time with your partner and giving them quality time by themselves.
   • Scorpios also tend toward long-term relationships with emotional depth and serious devotion. So, it’s no wonder that they love spending lots of time with their significant other!
   • Reader Poll: We asked 869 wikiHow readers who are Scorpios and only 5% of them said that they mainly look for totally casual and strictly physical relationships. [Take Poll]
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   Show a Scorpio some love with one-on-one time and physical touch. Set aside some time during the week for just you and the Scorpio in your life. Shower them with plenty of physical affection while you’re together, like cuddles, hugs, and kisses. If the mood is right, feel free to suggest something a little more intimate.

   • Quality time can be just about any activity that gives you personal, meaningful time with your Scorpio. Cooking a delicious meal together, playing board games, or enjoying a home movie night together are all great ways to enjoy each other’s company.
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Love Languages of Other Signs

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   Aries: Physical touch, words of affirmation Active and energetic, it’s no surprise that this sign enjoys to be loved in physical ways, whether that’s hand-holding, kissing, or something more intimate. Aries also treasures words of affirmation, and loves it when their partner acknowledges their hard work or offers simple words of love.
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   Taurus: Giving gifts, physical touch Physical and sensual, Taurus loves to immerse themselves in activities related to the five senses—so, it’s a given that they love and appreciate all types of physical touch and affection within a relationship (e.g., hand-holding, hugging, cuddling, etc.). It also makes sense that Taurus enjoys getting gifts from their partner, whether it’s a coffee from their favorite coffeeshop or a thoughtful memento on an anniversary.
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   Gemini: Words of affirmation, acts of service Known for their chatty and social energy, it’s understandable that Gemini especially appreciates words of affirmation (whether they’re a specific compliment or a meaningful “I love you”). Gemini also appreciates helpful and caring gestures, like taking out the trash or making dinner one evening.
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   Cancer: Quality time, words of affirmation The thoughtful and nurturing Cancer deeply cares for the people in their life and feels most loved and appreciated when they get to spend quality time with their partner. They also appreciate words of affirmation, like being reminded how loved and capable they are.
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   Leo: Gift giving, acts of service Hard-working and caring, the regal Leo feels most loved and appreciated when they’re given meaningful gifts and tokens by their partner. Acts of service also mean a lot to them, like when their partner makes them lunch or puts away the dishes after dinner.
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   Virgo: Acts of service, words of affirmation As one of the most responsible signs of the zodiac, it’s understandable that Virgo especially appreciates acts of service from their partner. Virgo also cherishes words of affirmation, and loves to be validated and reminded of how appreciated they are.
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   Libra: Acts of service, quality time A true romantic at heart, Libra adores spending quality time with their special someone, whether that’s binging a TV show together or planning special weekly date nights. They also appreciate acts of service, and love when their partner goes out of their way to be helpful.
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   Sagittarius: Physical touch, gift giving It’s no shocker that the adventurous and spontaneous Sagittarius feels most loved and appreciated through spontaneous gift-giving. They’re also a big fan of physical touch, and love receiving different kinds of physical affection and intimacy from their partner.
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   Capricorn: Quality time, acts of service As one of the most studious and hard-working signs out there, it makes sense that Capricorn feels most loved and appreciated by acts of services performed for them. Capricorn also deeply appreciates spending quality time with their partner away from the daily grind of their work routine.
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    Aquarius: Acts of service, words of affirmation Free-spirited Aquarius feels the most loved and valued through acts of service, like tidying up the kitchen or cleaning out the litter box. Aquarius also really values words of affirmation, and likes to be reminded of how loved they are.
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    Pisces: Words of affirmation, quality time Empathetic and caring Pisces feels especially loved by a partner who showers them with caring and affirming words, even if it’s just a plain “I love you so much.” They also love it when their partner makes intentional gestures to spend quality time with them, like planning a special date.
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What are the 5 love languages?

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1. 1. Words of affirmation
   
   Words of affirmation are a verbal way to let your partner know how much you love and appreciate them. Acknowledging your partner’s hard work, thanking them for all that they do, or even just saying “I love you” are a few simple ways to appreciate someone with this love language.
   
   2. Acts of service
   
   Acts of service are a physical way to show your partner that you love and care about them. These gestures can be small or large.
   
   3. Giving gifts
   
   Giving gifts involves giving your partner a physical token to demonstrate your love for them. Some people find these physical gestures to be a really valuable and concrete way to receive affection, since intention and thought are put into the gift.
   
   4. Quality time
   
   Quality time involves spending lots of one-on-one time with your partner where you’re both focused on one another. Some people feel especially loved and appreciated when they have their partner’s complete and total attention.
   
   5. Physical touch
   
   Physical touch refers to acts of physical affection—some people feel especially loved and appreciated when they’re showered with these physical gestures.

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Is dating a Scorpio hard?

WikiGladeCatcher583

I went on a date with someone recently and they told me they were a Scorpio and idk if that's a red flag or not. I've heard that Scorpios are obsessive and difficult to be in a relationship with, is that facts or nah? I kinda wanna go on a second date but idk if I should so pls help

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Ispahn

As a Scorpio myself, I’d say dating a Scorpio isn’t necessarily "hard," but it can be intense. We value loyalty and trust the most, so if those things are broken, the relationship can be difficult. But if you're open, patient, and not afraid of vulnerability, you’ll find that dating a Scorpio can be incredibly rewarding.

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Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist

Scorpio is an obsessive sign. They're looking for someone to obsess over and they're going to provide a series of tests to gauge your loyalty to them. For example, they may play hard to get or act obsequious. If they sense that you're not matching their intense energy, they're gonna lose interest. Scorpio is also a very sensual sign, so if they not sensing that you're sexually interested in them, they will lose interest. So you would definitely need to engage in sex or intimacy with a Scorpio in order for them to fall for you. Scorpios want to dive deep into issues and topics. They're not a superficial sign, so they'll be turned off if you're very shallow. They like intensity and passion. If they don't feel engaged, enthralled, sexual, and intimate with you, then they're not going to have interest in you. So there has to be something intriguing. But also, if you provide a little bit of a mystery that they need to unravel, that will keep them pulling on the yarn forever. So don't give it all up right away! Leave a veil of mystery and then they will be intrigued and obsess over you because they always have to obsess.

If they're jealous or obsessive and you show even the tiniest bit of interest in other people, a Scorpio will show you their vulnerability (which is their most cherished prize). Scorpios like to keep their vulnerability to themselves, so if a Scorpio shows you their inner sensitivity, that means they trust you enough to love you. Without vulnerability, there is no intimacy, and that's why Scorpio is the sign of intimacy, because they like to lay bare of all things so that they can get inside.

Scorpios are all or nothing, do or die. But they're also the most distrustful sign, so if they show anything that indicates trust in you—like talking about marriage or moving in together—that means they are serious about you. And another sign they're serious about you is if they tell you their secrets. They see secrets as powerful weapons, so a Scorpio revealing their secrets means that they're very serious about you because they have trusted you with their secrets.

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• At the end of the day, a person’s star sign doesn’t carry much weight when it comes to their preferences in a relationship. It’s best to just ask your partner what their love language is—if they don’t know, they can always take wikiHow’s Love Language Quiz to find out!
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