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You’re minding your own business when a “What’s up?” is thrown your way. You may hear this friendly phrase from a friend, crush, coworker, or stranger. They want to know what and how you’re doing, so what do you say? We’ve put together a list of the best responses to “What’s up?” so you’ll know exactly what to say in any situation.
Quick Replies for "What's up?"
- Simple: "Nothing much. What's up with you?"
- Friendly and Positive: "Life's great! How're you?"
- Flirty: “Oh, you know, just thinking about you :)”
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QuestionI'm wondering if sending my girlfriend daily WhatsApp messages, despite limited in-person conversation, might be annoying.Community AnswerWhile many appreciate personal interaction, communication preferences vary greatly among individuals. Consider discussing this directly with your girlfriend to understand her comfort level.
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Ultimately, the key to responding to a "what's up?" text in a way that shows you are interested or flirting is to be genuine, playful, and open. By showing that you're interested in getting to know the other person better, you can help build a connection and set the stage for a fun and flirty conversation.[16]Thanks
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- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-second-noble-truth/201508/tell-me-about-your-day
- ↑ https://ideas.ted.com/how-to-turn-small-talk-into-smart-conversation/
- ↑ https://www.cnbc.com/2023/06/06/harvard-researchers-the-no-1-way-to-sound-smarter-more-likable-when-making-small-talk.html
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-at-any-age/201107/10-tips-to-talk-about-anything-with-anyone
- ↑ https://www.forbes.com/sites/christinapark/2015/03/30/an-introverts-guide-to-small-talk-eight-painless-tips/
- ↑ https://www.forbes.com/sites/johnhall/2013/08/18/13-simple-ways-you-can-have-more-meaningful-conversations/
- ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ Laura Bilotta. Dating Coach & Matchmaker. Expert Interview
- ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ Laura Bilotta. Dating Coach & Matchmaker. Expert Interview
- ↑ Laura Bilotta. Dating Coach & Matchmaker. Expert Interview
- ↑ https://www.cnbc.com/2019/03/07/stop-asking-how-are-you-harvard-researchers-say-this-is-how-successful-people-make-small-talk.html
- ↑ Laura Bilotta. Dating Coach & Matchmaker. Expert Interview
- ↑ Laura Bilotta. Dating Coach & Matchmaker. Expert Interview
- ↑ John Keegan. Dating Coach. Expert Interview
- ↑ Laura Bilotta. Dating Coach & Matchmaker. Expert Interview
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