Q&A for How to What Age Should You Come Out

Sit down, look her in the eyes, and tell her that you are certain about you sexual orientation with a very serious face. if she truly supports the LGBTQ community, then she would know sexuality isn't "just hormones" or a "phase". If she still doesn't believe that you're actually bisexual, don't waste your time trying to get her to understand--it's likely she will understand sooner or later.

Check out the article How to Come Out for an in-depth guide on coming out as LGBTQ, or take a look at How to Tell Your Parents You're Pansexual, which is an article more specific to your situation. A while after you come out, tell your parents you are dating someone. If all goes well, they should support and accept you and your partner. If not, limit the time you spend with your parents.

I was in that situation before! I started by talking about LGBTQ+ and then she asked and it turned out that she was a lesbian too!

Seek out resources about what LGBTQ Christians think and share them with your parents. Explain to them that being LGBTQ is not a sin and emphasize that you were born this way.

Drop hints first, to get them warmed up to the idea and to prepare yourself for coming out. When you are ready, sit them down and tell them that you are lesbian. I would try not to bat around the bush too much.

There is no single "right age" to come out. The best time depends on your personal comfort level and whether you feel safe.

The timing of coming out is a personal decision that varies for everyone. You should come out when you feel comfortable, safe, and ready.

If you feel safe and ready, consider discussing your relationship with your parents when you are comfortable. You might choose a private setting where you can talk openly and answer any questions they may have.

Think about your priorities and safety. Will you get kicked out? Will your safety be compromised? Do you want to come out now? Are you comfortable waiting? Your priority is to stay safe. Find another trusted person and try coming out to someone you know is supportive if your dad is not safe to come out to.

If speaking feels too daunting, consider preparing a letter or presentation to explain your identity, as some find this less overwhelming. To calm your nerves, engage in activities that bring you comfort, such as listening to music or reading. Preparing a script of what you want to say can also help you feel more prepared and reduce awkwardness.

To gauge your parents' support, you could bring up a recent LGBTQ+ news story or related topic and observe their reaction. If their response is negative, prioritize your safety by confiding in a trusted friend or family member until you feel safe coming out to your parents.

Yes, absolutely. You should know that being bisexual is a completely valid and natural sexual orientation, and it is perfectly okay.