Where to Meet Single Guys in Their 40s

Co-authored by Christina Jay, NLP

Last Updated: April 17, 2025 References

Dating can be such a fun and exhilarating experience. It can also be really tough to figure out, especially with unique challenges like being able to find single guys in their 40s. But don’t worry! There are many places to go and activities to do that makes finding available men much easier. We got you covered with this great list of places you can go to meet single guys in their 40s.

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Attend a group meetup for a hobby you like (hiking, painting, etc.) to meet single guys who have similar interests as you.
Joining a recreational sports league and even just going to live sporting events are two great ways to meet single men in their 40s.
Enroll in a class you've always wanted to take. You'll likely meet cute single guys in their 40s, plus learn something new!

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Sporting events

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Catch a ballgame to try and catch a man. Sporting events are a great way to spend time with friends and family. It is also a great way to meet new people who share a common interest. A majority of men consider themselves an avid sports fan.^{[1]
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Research source} Heading to a crowded stadium or arena offers you a chance to spark a conversation with a man who just might be as big a sports fan as you.
- Most ballparks, stadiums, and arenas now offer quieter sections of the facility for fans, giving them a chance to interact with one another in a more casual setting. This would be a good opportunity to chat with a guy.
- Sharing your fandom with a guy is an ideal icebreaker that can lead to a more detailed conversation.

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Recreational sports

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Play a sport to bond with a teammate. If you'd rather take a more active role in sports, then try to step onto the field. Many guys in their 40s still try their best to stay active by participating in sports.^{[2]
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Research source}So signing up for a local softball team or heading to the golf club might just be an excellent way of meeting new men.
- Recreational sports teams often spend many days together and bond through team chats, giving you a chance to get to know a guy better.
- A passion for playing sports creates shared interest between you and a teammate, which could lead to some time together off the field.

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Scenic parks

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Lots of single, attractive guys hang out at parks—so you should too! If online dating isn't for you, national parks, state parks, and even dog parks are great places to meet new and available guys in their 40s. Getting outside and enjoying the fresh air can do wonders to allow yourself to become more comfortable and social.
- Dogs make excellent wingmen! Nothing helps spark a conversation better than meeting a new dog.
- Becoming more physically active is not only a great way to meet single guys, but it is also great for yourself.

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Places of worship

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A shared faith is a great way to meet a partner. Single guys in their 40s are often key members in their place of worship.^{[3]
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- Churches, synagogues, mosques, and temples often hold community events that bring all of their members together in a casual setting. This is a good chance to get to know more of the single guys in your congregation.

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Charity events

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Meet a guy while helping others. Many people enjoy helping out their community and volunteering, especially a large number of men in their 40s.^{[4]
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Research source}Spend time with your fellow volunteers and build strong relationships based around your desire to help others.
- Focusing on helping others is a great way to lower your own personal guard and engage others in conversation, especially with fellow volunteers.
- Selflessness is often considered a sexy trait by many people. Opening the door for romantic opportunities with any volunteer that you share a bond with.^{[5]
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Breweries and distilleries

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Enjoy a refreshing pint or craft cocktail while looking for a guy. Craft beer and craft spirits are often very popular with middle aged men. Breweries and distilleries are also very relaxed places that offer a more casual and laid back experience compared to bars and night clubs, making it a perfect place to get to know new people.^{[6]
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- Sitting at the bar is a prime location to chat with new people and find a single guy.
- Discussing your shared interest in craft beer or craft spirits is a very disarming way of breaking the ice and developing a rapport with a new guy.

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Marinas

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Find a guy that loves boating as much as you. Heading over to the nearest marina and yacht club is a fantastic way of meeting a guy who enjoys the water. 37% of current boat owners are from Generation X.^{[7]
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- Yacht clubs at marinas are typically a relaxed atmosphere that is a perfect place for members to chat and discuss their common interests.

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Social clubs

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Become a social butterfly and spread your wings. People are often social creatures, and single guys in their 40s are no exception. Going to social clubs and membership only clubs are a good way to meet people with a desire to meet others and unwind in a comfortable location.
- Social clubs often have lounges with dart boards, billiard tables, and card tables. This is a perfect opportunity to meet a guy in a competitive yet playful way.
- Social clubs also hold parties and special events that encourage members to interact and mingle with one another.

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Community classes

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Find a guy looking to improve himself. Check your local community college or rec center for classes that cater to the general public. Art classes are just one type of course that provides an excellent opportunity to learn a new skill while mingling with your fellow classmates.
- Community engagement opens the door to meeting new people and opens new dating pools for you.
- Improving your artistic ability or learning a new skill can help build self-confidence, which can lead to higher attractiveness to potential partners.^{[8]
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Group meetups

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Take part in a special interest group to meet someone special. Meetups for specialized groups can make for an opportunity to acquaint yourself with those who have the similar interests as you. Plenty of available guys in their 40s also look for ways to meet people who connect with them on several levels.
- Focusing on your own hobbies is a great way to make yourself more approachable to guys in your groups. Conversation is able to come naturally while discussing your shared interest.

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Speed dating

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Meet multiple guys in a no-pressure event. Speed dating events often cater to more specified dating age groups. Events in your area allow for a fantastic opportunity to meet single guys in their 40s while having a face-to-face encounter. Speed dating requires no commitment to anyone while in a safe environment.^{[9]
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- Speed dating also helps build up confidence when talking to new people. If you have been out of the dating game for a while, this is a great chance to practice your conversational skills.

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Karaoke nights at bars

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Impress a guy with your singing chops. Karaoke nights at bars are some of the most fun and entertaining nights that single people can have. Letting loose and finding your voice is a great chance at bonding with new people while enjoying yourself.^{[10]
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- Discover single guys in their 40s who share the same taste in music as you as they belt your favorite songs. Strike up a conversation and compare your musical talents.
- Music is a great way to connect with people in a stress-free environment. Not everybody is great at singing, but anybody can be great at karaoke if they enjoy themselves.

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Online dating

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Refine your search by looking for a guy online. Online dating offers the unique chance of seeking out men in a very specific age range. Sort out any guy who doesn't meet your age requirements and narrow down your list of potential suitors. Online dating is also a great way to get to know a guy before even meeting them.^{[11]
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- A higher percentage of men in their 40s than women in their 40s make up the user base for online dating websites.^{[12]
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- Many online dating websites offer specific dating criteria these days, making it easier to find a guy who shares more common interests with you.

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Backyard barbeques

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Lookout for single guys at your friend’s cookout. Friends can often be the best matchmakers. Head to their next backyard gathering with an eye on meeting new people and talking to available guys in their 40s. Since the backyard barbeque is a laid back and friendly setting, there is little pressure to connect with a soul mate immediately, allowing you to be yourself.
- Win over any man by bringing your best dish to a cookout. As the saying goes, “the best way to a man’s heart is through their stomach.”
- Backyard games such as cornhole and horseshoes is a perfect opportunity to break the ice and talk with that guy you’ve had your eye on.

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Networking events

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Meet a single guy while making professional connections. Networking events and mixers are an excellent opportunity to meet like-minded professionals who are looking to socialize and extend their circle of contacts. But that doesn’t mean they are only there for work. Business conversations can often lead to personal anecdotes and more meaningful chats in the future.
- Networking is a great way to reach out to new people who may introduce you to further opportunities, both professionally and personally.