How do you deal with people gossiping about you behind your back?
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Unfortunately, people are going to talk behind our backs- friends, family and coworkers. It’s human nature to gossip and talk about topics happening in our lives. I really try and focus on my life not what people are saying about me behind my back. Instead, I think about what I’m doing myself about staying on track with my goals. If I am living my life, happy with what I’m doing and proud of my accomplishments then I’m not worried about what people are saying about me. They’re totally irrelevant. It’s something you have to learn in life to be comfortable with the idea that people might be jealous, they might hate on you, they might talk about you and you have to be OK with that. Your other option is to confront people, but you’ll be confronting a lot of people in life. I say forget about it.
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I always recommend talking to the people gossiping directly if it's concerning you. Say to them, “I've heard that this is being communicated about me” or “You've communicated this about me. If you have an issue with me, let's talk about it between the two of us instead of bringing other people into this.” Or, “Listen, if there are any concerns or problems you have with anything involving me, come to me about it. We can work through it or figure it out.”
If a person continues to gossip about you, I wouldn't include them in my life. They're not trustworthy, and no one needs extra drama.
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If a person continues to gossip about you, I wouldn't include them in my life. They're not trustworthy, and no one needs extra drama.
When people talk about you behind your back, try not to take it personally—it's often just a sign that they're jealous or dealing with their own insecurity issues. The best thing you can do is ignore them and live your best life. Spend time with positive people who lift you up, find fun things to do to distract yourself, and remind yourself how awesome you are. If the gossip turns into bullying and starts to interfere with school or work, talk to an authority figure, like a teacher or boss, and let them handle the situation.
We think this wikiHow reader summed it up nicely: "Whether you end up deciding to confront or ignore them, just remember that whoever is talking about you behind your back probably has some deep insecurities. But that doesn't mean it's okay for them to talk badly about you! However, you can rest easier knowing that their behavior has more to do with them than you."
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We think this wikiHow reader summed it up nicely: "Whether you end up deciding to confront or ignore them, just remember that whoever is talking about you behind your back probably has some deep insecurities. But that doesn't mean it's okay for them to talk badly about you! However, you can rest easier knowing that their behavior has more to do with them than you."
Try ignoring it. If you hear it I let it go in one ear out the other. Focus on friends, family, or a event happening
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