Caught feelings for my AroAce best friend. Where to go from here?
I think I caught feelings for my AroAce best friend, but I pretty sure I'm going to get friend-zoned. How do I fall out of love with them so I can be just their friend again? Tips?
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To get over a crush, a little bit of distance can do wonders, and less contact is key. You don’t have to fully ghost them or disappear, but try to have less contact for a while. This could mean taking a few weeks or a month off from seeing each other, and it can also help to stop looking at their social media accounts for the time being. The space may be tough, but it could be best for both of you in the long run.
During your time apart, allow yourself to grieve, and try to remember how the friendship was before you developed this crush. Focus on yourself and on healing, so you can learn how to be just a friend to this person again.
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During your time apart, allow yourself to grieve, and try to remember how the friendship was before you developed this crush. Focus on yourself and on healing, so you can learn how to be just a friend to this person again.
Getting over a crush is not easy, especially when it involves someone close to you, like a friend. However, one of the healthiest ways to start healing is by creating some emotional and physical distance. This doesn’t mean you have to cut off all contact or disappear from their life completely, but it does mean reducing how often you see or talk to them. Taking a break for a few weeks, or even a month, can help calm your emotions, clear your thoughts, and give you a better perspective on the situation. It’s also a good idea to stop checking their social media for a while, since constantly seeing what they’re doing can make it harder to move on or let go.
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Hm. I used to identify as Aro/Ace (Double-Demi now, so still on the arospec) and I do know someone who had a crush on me when I did, so I guess I can try and give you two tips:
1. If you confess to them, make sure to preface it by actively respecting their identity. Some aro/ace people (my former self included) are very prideful about their identity and (especially right after a confession) might view it, at least partially, as an act against their identity. Maybe say something along the lines of, "I know you're Aro/Ace, and after what I'm abobut to say, I still want to be friends..."
2. You probably should confess to them, even if there is a very, very high chance they will friend-zone you, (unless they use aro/ace as shorthand for cupio/demiromantic, or another type of aro person who still enjoys relationships) feelings cannot be unfelt. I've seen first hand how these silent crushes tear even the best friendships apart. I'm sure if you were respectful, they would understand. They might even be flattered!
Anyways, TNSGU, feel free to leave a message on my talk page if you have any further questions! I'd be glad to answer them.
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1. If you confess to them, make sure to preface it by actively respecting their identity. Some aro/ace people (my former self included) are very prideful about their identity and (especially right after a confession) might view it, at least partially, as an act against their identity. Maybe say something along the lines of, "I know you're Aro/Ace, and after what I'm abobut to say, I still want to be friends..."
2. You probably should confess to them, even if there is a very, very high chance they will friend-zone you, (unless they use aro/ace as shorthand for cupio/demiromantic, or another type of aro person who still enjoys relationships) feelings cannot be unfelt. I've seen first hand how these silent crushes tear even the best friendships apart. I'm sure if you were respectful, they would understand. They might even be flattered!
Anyways, TNSGU, feel free to leave a message on my talk page if you have any further questions! I'd be glad to answer them.
Getting over a crush is not easy, especially when it involves someone close to you, like a friend. However, one of the healthiest ways to start healing is by creating some emotional and physical distance. This doesn’t mean you have to cut off all contact or disappear from their life completely, but it does mean reducing how often you see or talk to them. Taking a break for a few weeks, or even a month, can help calm your emotions, clear your thoughts, and give you a better perspective on the situation. It’s also a good idea to stop checking their social media for a while, since constantly seeing what they’re doing can make it harder to move on or let go.
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