What do I do if my bestie is growing away from me?
My bestie found another friend and just what should I do?
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That's certainly a sad situation when it happens. I think just reminding yourself that people change and want different things as they get older, and it just inherently leads to some relationships not continuing. When those feelings come up, remind yourself that you are a really different person than you were when you met, and they are a really different person than when they met you.
It’s just natural that people grow apart over time, because the only constant is change, and it wouldn't actually be beneficial for us to stay who we were for our entire lives. It's actually really beneficial for people to change and grow and sort of grow into themselves. So try just acknowledging all of those pieces of the puzzle and reminding yourself that it's okay to let go of relationships that aren't really working anymore, or you don't really have much in common anymore.
Really be open to new friendships and people who really feel like more of where you are now, who really fit in with your lifestyle and fit in with your interests. Be optimistic that those people exist, and by doing the things that you love, you will meet those people.
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It’s just natural that people grow apart over time, because the only constant is change, and it wouldn't actually be beneficial for us to stay who we were for our entire lives. It's actually really beneficial for people to change and grow and sort of grow into themselves. So try just acknowledging all of those pieces of the puzzle and reminding yourself that it's okay to let go of relationships that aren't really working anymore, or you don't really have much in common anymore.
Really be open to new friendships and people who really feel like more of where you are now, who really fit in with your lifestyle and fit in with your interests. Be optimistic that those people exist, and by doing the things that you love, you will meet those people.
Openly communicate with your best friend about how you're feeling when they spend time with a new friend they made. As you're explaining your feelings to them, use "I" statements, like "I feel worried that I'm being replaced in our friendship," or "I feel sad because we haven't spent as much time together recently." If you're open and honest about what's going on in your head, your bestie will take a moment to reassure you and make you feel like you're still important.
In the meantime, distract yourself by hanging out with your other friends and building your relationships with them. Go do fun activities that you enjoy, and get to know the people there so you don't feel lonely.
Keep in mind that it's completely normal for friendships to change over time, and people may expect different things from relationships as they grow older. Give yourself some time to recognize how you're feeling and know that it's valid to feel a little upset or disappointed. Just know that if your best friend cares about you, they'll still make time to hang out and be a part of your life.
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In the meantime, distract yourself by hanging out with your other friends and building your relationships with them. Go do fun activities that you enjoy, and get to know the people there so you don't feel lonely.
Keep in mind that it's completely normal for friendships to change over time, and people may expect different things from relationships as they grow older. Give yourself some time to recognize how you're feeling and know that it's valid to feel a little upset or disappointed. Just know that if your best friend cares about you, they'll still make time to hang out and be a part of your life.
Keep hanging out and continue your friendship, just remember nothing's wrong with your best friend finding another friend.
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Girl so what? You best freind is finding new freinds and shes hanging out with them. you know you two arent the only on in the world. she found someone and now their bonding which isent wrong. She isent being rude or mean or you know yadayada just you keep going nothings wrong in that but give another post if somethings up though:)
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this has happened to me so i usually just talk to my besties other friend and that’s what usually works since we talk more to each other
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Try to interact with your besties other friend that might bring you together again😄
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Talk openly with your bestie, express your feelings, and make an effort to reconnect, but also accept that friendships evolve and give them space if needed.
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That was not kind be respectful, I think it's best you should GROW UP to be a nice person.
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Though it sucks feeling like this, a good conversation will usually tell you where to go next. And if things go south, sometimes it's refreshing to take a step back, even if it hurts. This happened to me, and it made me realize all the amazing other people I have in my life. Hold on there
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tell them how you feel and ask them what is wrong they have your back but you need to have their back ask them what you need and what they want be open to them and show them you are here for them you have god with you now go tell them
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